ou can desire marriage without believing you're incomplete without it.

In Episode 18 of the If Not Book Club, we unpack Chapter 18 of If Not: Making Peace With God's Timing and challenge the mindset that singleness means something—or someone—is missing from your life.

Marriage can be a desire without becoming your identity. A spouse can add to your life without becoming the source of your worth. And waiting for marriage does not mean you're sitting around as half a person hoping someone eventually arrives to make you whole.

We talk about finding wholeness in Christ, appreciating the life God has already given you, and recognizing that your purpose does not begin at the altar.

I desire marriage. I am preparing for marriage. But I was never lacking without it.

That's the difference between wanting something and needing it to validate who you are.

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Ladies' week did NOT disappoint! 😂💜

For Episode 17 of the If Not Book Club, we welcomed Mrs. Darlene, wife of last week's guest, Peter, and she could not have been more perfect for this chapter.

As we unpack What I Actually Want in a Husband, we move beyond the childhood lists, fantasies, and superficial expectations to discuss what actually matters when choosing someone to build a life with. Darlene shares how her own desires evolved, what God ultimately gave her in her husband, and why seeking God first changed what she understood marriage to be.

From two preacher's kids raised on opposite sides of the world discovering just how much they have in common, to laughing until we snorted, this conversation was beautifully honest, emotional, biblical, and relatable.

We discuss waiting, singleness, independence, intentional growth, God's timing, and one of our favorite principles from the chapter: "I want a man who is actively working on himself, as I am actively working on myself."

Because marriage isn't about finding a finished person. It's about two whole people committed to continuing to grow—individually, together, and most importantly, in Christ.

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This one was LONG—but for GOOD reason! 😂🔥

For Chapter 16 of the If Not Book Club, we're joined by Peter, a Nigerian husband of 12 years who came prepared with Scripture, experience, big-brother advice…and apparently a few things he needed to get Jazz together about!

We dive into why marriage is more than an aesthetic, title, wedding, or relationship milestone. Marriage is spiritual. We discuss God's purpose for husband and wife, becoming one rather than operating as two completely separate individuals, conflict, compromise, divorce, and how marriage stretches you beyond yourself.

Peter also shares his own marriage story, how his understanding of marriage has matured, and how the marriages we witnessed growing up can influence what we expect from our own.

This conversation was hilarious, loving, raw, biblical, and incredibly intentional—and somehow, even in our longest episode yet, we STILL only scratched the surface.

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This episode is bold, biblical, and unapologetically honest.

As we unpack Chapter 15 of If Not: Making Peace With God's Timing, Mom and I discuss one of the biggest lies people believe: that you have to shrink yourself to be loved.

We explore why you should never downplay your gifts, intelligence, leadership, or calling just to make someone else comfortable. If the only way someone can accept you is by asking you to become less of who God created you to be, then they're not accepting the real you.

Using Deborah the Prophetess as an example, we discuss biblical leadership, God's order, and why operating in your God-given purpose will naturally align you with the people He has prepared for your life.

You don't find your purpose by chasing people. You find your people by walking in your purpose.

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Just because someone has access to you doesn't mean they deserve you.

In this episode of the If Not Book Club, we're joined once again by our special guest, Elder James Styles III, as we unpack Chapter 14 of If Not: Making Peace With God's Timing.

Through laughter, real stories, and biblical truth, my parents reflect on the early days of their relationship and why the games my father once played with other women simply didn't work on my mother. Why? Because she knew her value.

Together, we discuss what it means to be attractive without making yourself available to everyone who expresses interest. We explore discernment, standards, self-respect, and the biblical design for men, women, husbands, and wives.

One truth echoed throughout the episode:

"Everything that looks good to you isn't necessarily good for you."

Knowing your value isn't about rejecting people—it's about choosing wisely.

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This episode is personal.

As we unpack Chapter 13 of If Not: Making Peace With God's Timing, Mom and I discuss one of the biggest misconceptions people have about confidence. Throughout my life, I've been called arrogant, conceited, intimidating, and told that I think I'm better than everyone else. But is confidence really arrogance—or is it simply knowing who you are and whose you are?

We explore the difference between biblical confidence and pride, the importance of self-worth, healthy boundaries, and refusing to shrink yourself to make others comfortable. This conversation is about embracing your identity in Christ, loving yourself the way God intended, and understanding that confidence rooted in Him isn't arrogance—it's obedience.

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This episode was everything—funny, honest, reflective, and full of truth. Joined by special guest Sabrena Lee, we unpack Chapter 12 of If Not: Making Peace With God's Timing and discuss what it truly means to make peace with God's will, even when it doesn't look like our own.

Between laughter, singing, memories of old relationships, and some hard-earned wisdom, we reflected on how our mindset has evolved over the years. Before Christ, many of us believed God owed us something—a specific lifestyle, relationship, opportunity, or outcome. Now, we've come to understand that God owes us nothing, yet gives us everything we truly need.

This episode is a reminder that faith is not about demanding our way from God—it's about trusting His way completely.

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Grief changes us. The question is: How?

In this powerful episode of the If Not Book Club, we're joined once again by one of our most requested guests, Mrs. Bobbie Durkins, as we unpack Chapter 11 and discuss the profound ways grief shapes our hearts, perspectives, and desires.

Together, we explore the loss of loved ones, the loss of dreams, and the surrender of ambitions that no longer align with God's will. We discuss what grief truly is, why it's important to go through it instead of around it, and how faith becomes an anchor during life's hardest seasons.

Through personal stories of loss, healing, and growth, we share the lessons grief teaches us about gratitude, resilience, and trusting God even when life hurts.

Sometimes grief changes what you want. Sometimes it changes who you are. But if you allow God to work through it, it can also change how you grow.

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This episode is one of the most personal and vulnerable conversations of the season.

As we unpack Chapter 10 of If Not: Making Peace With God's Timing, we sit down without a guest because this chapter is deeply personal—it is quite literally a conversation between me and God. We discuss the emotional journey from being content, to becoming curious, to feeling confused, reflective, and even questioning whether I was somehow delaying God's promises myself.

Drawing parallels to the Book of Job, we explore what happens when faith is tested, when answers seem delayed, and when God's silence feels louder than His voice. Through tears, reflection, and honesty, we discuss comparison, worthiness, spiritual growth, and the realization that our relationship with God is not transactional.

We don't follow God because of what He might do—we follow Him because of who He is and what He has already done.

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WHEW! This episode was honest, hilarious, and completely unfiltered. Joined by special guests Lowell Evans and Tokida Lomax, we unpack Chapter 9 of If Not: Making Peace With God's Timing and dive headfirst into one of the biggest battles believers face: temptation.

Nothing was off limits. We talked about soul ties, singleness, masturbation, dating, marriage, boundaries, and the ongoing struggle between willpower and God's strength. We shared where we've overcome, where we're still growing, and the practical steps we take to resist temptation and pursue holiness.

One of the biggest takeaways? You can't truly know where you stand until your faith is tested. Growth happens when temptation shows up and you choose God anyway.

This episode is full of laughter, transparency, conviction, and truth.

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