Short episode summary

Didn’t you get your copy of the script? Tune in now to find out why this question is so important, and how the rules we live by might need to be rewritten.

 

Timestamps of big takeaways

[00:14] Today I’m talking about manuals. But, what are manuals? Find out here

[01:15] People often confuse manuals with boundaries

[01:38] Sometimes we want people to have the script in hand we’ve written for them

[02:36] Manuals are your set of rules for how others should act

[02:55] Interestingly enough, we have manuals for ourselves too

[04:03] Are the rules we are holding ourselves to our own?

[05:05] Perhaps the rules we live by were instilled in us, but they weren’t created by us

[05:58] How do we stop the rules we live by and create new rules for ourselves?

[06:30] There’s a freebie on the Having Tough Conversations website that can help. Click “Get Started” on the homepage

[06:59] What happens if you find out you’re living by someone else’s manual?

[08:04] There’s a chance that what is causing conflict in your relationships and in your life has to do with the manuals you are living by

[09:19] I challenge you to look at your life right now and consider the manuals in it

[10:28] I share an example of manuals as it pertains to my birthday and my marriage

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Links mentioned in episode

https://carolinebjorkquist.com/

https://www.havingtoughconversations.com/

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