The Law of Attraction was made popular by The Secret a couple decades ago. People were looking for the secrets to success. A lot of people are very interested in tools for motivation, for managing time, projects, getting things done.

In this episode we go into our history and a 30 year history of events impacting our life and that brings us to when we found The Secret and Bob Proctor's daily exercises called "Six Minutes to Success". We talk about some of our successes and misses in the Law of Attraction-based program, and why we think things may have failed or succeeded.

Trigger warning: Lots of commentary on events in the last 30 years that impacted our life, the economy, money, mentions of disability and homelessness, financial insecurity, economic roller coasters, and mentions of how our burden trauma was tangled into it. May also contain profanity.

Sometimes things happen, and we get shame-triggered. This week, when something happened, we realized almost immediately that it was an attempt to exile us from community and that we were feeling shame and where it originally came from. We were able to work on it and heal it. We share a post-mortem of that exploration and journey as an example of memory reconsolidation. We wrote & recorded that section of this post on Monday (May 22, 2023) & Tuesday (May 23, 2023), respectively. Saturday — we're positive this bit of healing really took. We're good on this issue. It's been put to bed. Start a new chapter.

Trigger warning: This episode contains 2 sound effects, talk of bullying, fighting, our ex-husband is in the hospital. We cry a bit (about him), sorry about that. He's doing OK — but that was where we were at that moment. More warnings in the episode. As always, these episodes may not be appropriate while driving. Please mind your triggers, and put our podcasts on broadcast in your internal landscape so anyone who wants to can listen in.

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Onboarding is what we call helping stuck residents become more present in the Here & Now, and work on coconsciousness.

What does it generally take to help system members who are stuck in PTSD loops or trapped in the There & Then to get free, or become more present in the Here & Now? We give a little history for how we figured it out, and an overview and big picture of the process we use in the United Front Boot Camp and the book United Front: Recruits, with hints on how you can work on freeing your lost headmates.

Trigger warning: As always, these episodes may not be appropriate while driving. Please mind your triggers, and put our podcasts on broadcast in your internal landscape so anyone who wants to can listen in.

The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

The production of this podcast is community supported. Please help contribute, and learn more about what we have to offer at https://www.patreon.com/crisses

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The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

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Everyone needs an anchor or a base for exploring life. Some get it from family or friends, and if something shakes it, it can be devastating. Join us for an episode exploring how to have a reliable way to depend on your own internal system for structure, support, and safety so that you limit your reliance on externals for your deepest and most dependent needs.

Content Warning: our young folk front, discussing the topic, and we dissociate through a large portion of the episode. We do not consider this content to be appropriate for young folk to listen to and work on. There are mentions of how external folk may be unreliable, or even dangerous, and even when children are speaking, none of this is child's' play.

Recorded May 21, 2019, and we finally got housing March 2020. This episode is finally being published July 6, 2020.

There will be a related session at the Plural Positivity World Conference called "Building a Reparenting-Focused Community".

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Important concept for our System Trust Issues series. Do other people's emotions overshadow your own? Do you have a hard time protecting yourself from emotional outbursts? Do you know where you end and other people begin? More on what is separate, and what ought to be.

When the world pushes up against us, it can penetrate our defenses and leave us defenseless, or with unmanageable boundaries and leaks inside and out. What are boundaries? How do boundaries relate to empathy and what do we need to fix them?

This is part of a series of podcasts leading up to a capstone on System Trust Issues. And this will also tie in to a later episode on Cording & Decording.

Trigger warning: Panic attack, crowded subway car. Mentions of anger, emotional manipulation and blackmail. Someone theoretically punching a wall. This is a high-level theoretical episode and should not be specifically triggering, but you still may not want to be operating machinery while listening to it and of course anything can be triggering to someone with a history of abuse. It's always possible others in your head are interested, so a little tip: Listen with the intent for everyone in your system to be able to hear it too: put it on an internal loudspeaker, so that they don't need to front to hear.

We happily interrupt our regular podcast to say it's DID Awareness Day! And as such, we're giving you all a special episode — the January 13th recording of our lecture Beyond the Movies: Debunking myths about DID & plural systems.

This is long. Just over 1 hour and 20 minutes. You may have heard it before. Feel free to skip it if you don't need it!

The original recording is available for download, there's a script/transcript, and a call-in playback phone number which are all here:

https://liberatedlifecoaching.com/Events/20190113-BeyondTheMovies-DebunkingMythsDIDPluralSystems

Please spread this recording around to your singular contacts, or slip the phone number on their desk, or anything you can to get them to listen in and debunk those awful myths that keep getting foisted about whenever a new movie about someone with DID or who is plural comes out.

If you're a singular ally — or are considering becoming one after listening to this — welcome aboard! We are so glad to have you.

Keep on spreading the truth about plurality & DID!  Thank you!!

A discussion of how important names and re-naming can be for individuals, both external and within a plural system.

Names have power, and what we name our headmates can create harmony or friction within the plural system. Buck of Crisses takes us through several types of hurt we can commit from mis-naming, labeling, and dead-naming.

Trigger warning: If you have a problem with a certain nickname of `Richard`, this episode may bother you. As always, these episodes may not be appropriate while driving. Please mind your triggers, and put our podcasts on broadcast in your internal landscape so anyone who wants to can listen in.

The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

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A daily exercise in serenity; one of the many ways to be more present and less dissociated.

The opposite of dissociation is presence. Presence is not just one thing going on, it's a collection of subtle arts including being mindful, anchored in the Here & Now, calm or serene, and being aware of one's surroundings.

It was during a daily course in self-improvement that we discovered the passage "Serenity" from James Allen's As a Man Thinketh (1903), made a personal recording of it, and for a period of time we listened to it daily. Between the words and our own voice reading it calmly, it instilled in us a sense of safety. Listening mindfully, while breathing and calming down, became one of the ways we reminded ourselves to remain in the Here & Now, and to exercise our presence muscles.

At the end of the episode we read the original 1903 "Serenity" passage including it's either (hu)man or male-centric verbiage and pronouns. At the time, it was popular to use "he" as a generic third party singular pronoun, and "man" could well mean "mankind" or any one person on the planet. When we read at the beginning of the episode, we read a version we modified. Both versions are available in prose (linked below) so you may record your own if you like.

You do not need to listen to Serenity as your daily reminder to calm yourselves, or to have an anchor within your system who remains a point of serenity inside the system. You may use any other recording you'd like, or a painting on the wall, or look outside at nature, or play with a zen garden, etc. The point of the episode is to find this calmness inside, any one of you or more than one, and build your skill in finding it frequently.

Trigger warning: As always, these episodes may not be appropriate while driving. Please mind your triggers, and put our podcasts on broadcast in your internal landscape so anyone who wants to can listen in.

The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

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If you have to ask what they mean, maybe they should use a different word?

Going over the whole lot of confusing words used between psychology and psychoanalysis and while they may think they have their terminology straight, it's quite likely that 2 professionals would use the I-word and not know what each other means exactly by it. If no one knows what anyone else means, then maybe we shouldn't use the damn word in the first place? Self-advocacy episode — just say "No" to using the word "integration."

Brief negligible spoiler with mistake about Heroes the TV series. Note to selves: fact check everything. We got a name wrong. It's not Tracy -- it's Gina.

Note: We are pro-empowerment. We are not anti-integration nor anti-merging nor anti-unification. When therapists start talking about integration at the first meeting with a new DID client, that's absurd. That makes us upset, and we get very passionate about this. Our "just say no" is not to the idea of unification, but to the word "integration" in itself, and its introduction too soon in the therapeutic process.

Trigger warning: Some people find the entire concept of anything using the I-word to be triggering, so obviously this episode wouldn't be for you if that's the case. As always, these episodes may not be appropriate while driving. Please mind your triggers, and put our podcasts on broadcast in your internal landscape so anyone who wants to can listen in.

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The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

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Starting with and expanding on the United Front Boot Camp post of the same name: leaving your baggage and triggers outside of your meetings and greetings to form internal community.

When you're starting your internal community, it's best to be on your best behavior with one another and leave your mess outside the meeting room. We go into our "As inside, so outside (and vice versa)" metaphor of treating your system like any household, and wiping the slate and starting over again as new acquaintances in your internal "home".

Trigger warning: As always, these episodes may not be appropriate while driving. Please mind your triggers, and put our podcasts on broadcast in your internal landscape so anyone who wants to can listen in.

The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

The production of this podcast is community supported. Please help contribute, and learn more about what we have to offer at https://www.patreon.com/crisses

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