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Marisol Solarte-Erlacher | The Hidden Cost of High Achievement


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๐ŸŽ™๏ธ Episode Overview:

In this episode of Women Choosing Growth, Tina Sue welcomes leadership and resilience expert Marisol Solarte-Erlacher for a powerful, real conversation about what resilience actually looks like โ€” not just for leaders, but for every human trying to thrive in a chaotic world.

Marisol shares her raw journey from running a successful practice to facing deep burnout, the emotional cost of leadership, and how unacknowledged stress silently sabotages even the most "high-functioning" among us. She also breaks down how entrepreneurs and leaders can proactively build emotional resilience โ€” and why you must model it first if you want your teams to thrive.

This episode is packed with insights every leader needs โ€” especially in todayโ€™s fast-paced, high-pressure world.

๐Ÿ”ฅ What You'll Learn:
  • Why high-achievers are often silently struggling โ€” and how to recognize it before it's too late.
  • How to build your Window of Tolerance so you can stay calm and strategic under stress.
  • The real signs of hyperarousal and hypoarousal (and why they aren't always obvious).

  • Simple leadership questions that help you support your team without becoming their therapist.


  • Why your self-care and resilience work isn't optional if you want to be an effective leader.


  • How strong beliefs can act like hidden triggers that sabotage communication and collaboration.


๐Ÿง  Notable Quotes:

"You canโ€™t lead others well if youโ€™re not first leading yourself through your own challenges." โ€“ Marisol Solarte-Erlacher

"You don't have to wait until a breakdown to start building resilience โ€” itโ€™s a muscle you train every day." โ€“ Marisol Solarte-Erlacher

"High-functioning doesn't mean healthy functioning. Silent struggles are happening more often than you think." โ€“ Marisol Solarte-Erlacher

"Self-care isn't fixing yourself in the moment of crisis โ€” it's the preparation you do when things are still calm." โ€“ Marisol Solarte-Erlacher

"Three in five employees are silently struggling โ€” and the highest performers might be hiding it best." โ€“ Marisol Solarte-Erlacher

๐ŸŽฏ Actionable Takeaways:
  • Understand Your Window of Tolerance: Recognize the early warning signs when you're slipping into hyperarousal (anxiety, overwhelm) or hypoarousal (shutdown, detachment).


  • Create a Personal Resilience Plan: Don't wait for burnout. Build daily habits like meditation, journaling, or strategic check-ins that strengthen emotional stamina.


  • Ask Simple Check-In Questions as a Leader:
  • How are you doing today?
  • What challenges are you facing right now?
  • What strategies have helped you overcome challenges before?
  • How can I support you right now?
  • What are you doing to take care of yourself this week?
  • Model Resilience Yourself: Your team will mirror your self-care habitsโ€”or your stress. Show them what resilient leadership looks like.
  • Recognize Silent Struggles: Remember that your highest performers could be masking the deepest struggles. Stay connected.


โœจ Resources Mentioned:
  • Take Marisolโ€™s Quick Resilience Quiz: Resilience Quiz Link (update the link if you have the exact URL!)

๐Ÿ“ข Connect with Marisol Solarte-Erlacher:
  • Website: marisolerlacher.com
  • Instagram: @marisol.erlacher

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