What I learned from dating my narcissistic landlord and what I learned with leaving him....

This episode I share with you all the insights I've learned from leaving a very toxic relationship and the number reason I was able to leave and not go back.

1. NO CONTACT- 5 months ago I went no contact. By doing this I was able to start getting a clear mind, seeing patterns, and being able to detox from the addition of his games. This really gave me a chance to explore life day to day without him.
2. BOUNDARIES- Setting boundaries and sticking to them will help you find a clear mind. Boundaries in life are crucial to living peaceful life. I best way I have found to set boundaries and keep them is by asking myself how I feel? Do I feel full or empty. I highly recommend a book called 'Set Boundaries, Find Peace." by Nedra Glover Tawwab
3. TRY NEW THINGS- Saying YES. Even to things that you are unsure about. Now that you are becoming clearer in your thoughts and living a life day to day without your ex finding new parts of you is the most exciting part! Over the past year I have tried snowboarding, I went on my first solo vacation, I started a podcast, I said yes to an outdoor winter concert, I got my 200hr yoga teacher certificate, I became a plant mom. All this to say I am TRYING.
4. FIND YOUR ROUTINE- This part was (and still is) extremely tough for me. When you go from years of a routine with another person in mind to doing life alone routines can be hard to find. I recommend listening to this episode of The Mel Robins Show https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002?i=1000683501923

With unexpected heartbreak or change like this life can start to feel out of control. These are suggestions that can help you start to feel in control of your life again.

Remember to talk kindly to yourself. Self compassion will be the most helpful tool you can use with getting out of an unhealthy relationship.

Everything is temporary and don't forget to enjoy living life.

It's Not That Deep. 🤍