Sometimes the best marriage conversations happen when you aren’t sitting down to have a “marriage conversation” at all.

In this bonus episode of Marriage & Menopause, we’re coming to you from the airport with a question we’ve been thinking about in our own relationship:

Do we actually know how to support each other in this season of our marriage?

Because after years together, it’s easy to assume you know what your spouse needs. But people change. Responsibilities change. Careers change. Bodies change. Dreams change. And what felt supportive five or ten years ago may not be what your partner needs from you today.

So we’re talking about what happens when one person begins stepping into something new, the difference between giving the support we think our spouse should want and the support they’re actually asking for, and why long-term love may require us to keep learning the person we married.

This one isn’t about having all the answers.

It’s about staying curious enough to keep asking the questions.

Do you know what support looks like to your spouse right now?

What happened to kissing just because?

In this episode of Marriage and Menopause, we talk about the six-second kiss and why something so simple can become a meaningful way to reconnect in marriage.

As life gets fuller with work, children, responsibilities, stress, exhaustion, and changing hormones, affection can slowly become automatic. A quick kiss goodbye. A peck before bed. Or sometimes, no real physical connection at all.

We explore the difference between automatic connection and intentional connection, why affection does not always have to lead to sex, and how changing desire during perimenopause and menopause can impact intimacy in ways couples may not fully understand.

We also talk about how small, consistent moments of connection can help couples move out of roommate mode and back toward one another.

Because sometimes rebuilding intimacy does not start with a date night, a vacation, or a grand romantic gesture.

Sometimes it starts with six seconds.

It is one of the most common things women say during perimenopause and menopause, but those changes do not happen in a vacuum. When she doesn’t recognize herself, her partner may not recognize what is happening either.

In this episode of Marriage and Menopause, Dr. LaKeischa and Wendell talk about what happens inside a marriage when hormones begin changing the way a woman feels physically, emotionally, mentally, and sexually.

We unpack the exhaustion, mood changes, body changes, loss of desire, frustration, and disconnection that can leave both partners wondering, “What happened to us?”

This conversation is about moving away from blame and toward understanding. Because sometimes what looks like rejection, withdrawal, irritability, or distance is actually a woman trying to navigate a body she no longer understands herself.

And when couples begin to understand what is happening, they can stop fighting each other and start finding their way back to connection.

If you have ever thought, “I don’t feel like myself,” or your partner has said it and you did not know what it meant, this episode is for both of you.

Welcome to Marriage & Menopause, the podcast where we have honest conversations about love, relationships, intimacy, hormones, communication, and the many changes that can come with midlife.

Hosted by Dr. LaKeischa and Wendell McMillan, this podcast brings the perspective of both partners into the conversation. Together, they explore what it looks like to navigate marriage while one partner is moving through perimenopause and menopause, and both people are adjusting to the changes that can come with this season of life.

In this introductory episode, you will get to know who we are, why we created Marriage & Menopause, and what you can expect from the conversations ahead. We are talking about the real things couples experience, including changes in intimacy, communication, identity, connection, expectations, and partnership.

Because menopause may be happening in one body, but the experience can affect the relationship as a whole.

Welcome to Marriage & Menopause. We are glad you are here.