Marriage Takes 3

Many believe, yes even Christians, that dating or courtship with a Christian is boring. That could not be further from the truth! Is it different? Yes! But as Christians we are called to be different than the world. But there’s too many rules and gray areas and honestly, the Bible doesn’t really talk about dating so do we need to really put that much thought into it? The answer is yes. God cares deeply about people and it’s made clear the construct of marriage that He created. We need to honor that, and each other, by taking seriously those we are entrusted with to date, court, engage and marry.

We see so many people who want to be shown mercy and grace but when it comes our turn, we want people to pay. This happens in marriage all to often. We don’t want our spouse holding grudges against us or putting us in an emotional “prison”, holding offenses against us but we turn around and return that gift of mercy with anger and bitterness. Have mercy, give grace and choose to love instead of inflict pain.

Submission is a word that will most people have an opinion on or pretty quickly dismiss. Many think that submission isn’t relevant to the 21st century, it’s cultural and was important in Jesus’ time but not anymore. The truth is that submission is as relevant today as it’s ever been. But there’s more to it. And guys, if you think you can sit this one out, then you should listen to this twice!

We’ve all had expectations of what marriage might be like or what we want it to be like. Usually those expectations are rooted in selfish desires, not selfless. We talk about what our expectations were before we handed the reigns of our life over to God, expectations we had going into marriage (and what it was really like) and most importantly, who marriage is for (hint, it’s not for us!).

There’s a lot that had to happen before we got married on April 8th 2019. Primarily, we had to die to ourselves, fully surrender to Jesus and give up our relationships, among everything else. But is it really that easy? We talk about what our experience was like and what the Bible says.