Marriage Unfiltered

We get in trouble when our expectations are:

Unknown-We may not be aware of the expectations we have, but we all have them. Even if we feel we do not, we have expectations about others having expectations.

Unreasonable-Sometimes we feel we would like things a certain way, but just because that is what we expect doesn't mean, it is reasonable.

Unexpressed-How can our spouse possibly know our expectations if we do not voice them. 

This week, the Fields and the Carters are both arguing and it all revolves about our expectations, communication about expectations and the lies we believe about our spouse when we do not voice our expectations and our spouse falls short.

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"Faith over Fear" can be one of those sayings that tends to get watered down by people with good intentions. What the Bible says about fear and how to defeat it is more than faith. We spend some time detangling Valentines and judging those of you who claim to hate it. But then we get down to a conversation about fear. 

We hope to challenge you to be vulnerable first with God about what your fears are, then with  your spouse. How we handle our mate's fears can greatly impact our intimacy with each other.

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Thank you Amber for giving us the idea for this episode. The four of us sit down to discuss ways that we have had to purge in our lives because we did not recognize the need to keep pruning. 

John 15:1 - “I am the true vine, and My Father is the vinedresser. Every branch in Me that does not bear fruit, He takes away; and every branch that bears fruit, He prunes it so that it may bear more fruit."

Philippians 3:12 - 114 "Not that I have already obtained it or have already become perfect, but I press on so that I may lay hold of that for which also I was laid hold of by Christ Jesus. 13 Brethren, I do not regard myself as having laid hold of it yet; but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus."

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This week we talked about a lot of things, as usual. But here are the sources for some of the specific things we mentioned.

"The Bible Recap" with Tara-Leigh Cobble. Go to this link to learn more. The Bible Recap

"The Power to Change" by Craig Groeschel. Go to this link to learn more. The Power to Change

Learn more about the movie "The Forge" The Forge Movie

The Quote from CS Lewis.

From a letter to an American woman, 31.7.62

I have a notion that, apart from actual pain, men and women are quite diversely afflicted by illness.  To a woman one of the great evils about it is that she can't do things.  To a man (or anyway a man like me) the great consolation is the reflection "well, anyway, no-one can now demand that I should do anything." I have often had the fancy that one stage in purgatory might be a great big kitchen in which things are always going wrong - milk boiling over, crockery getting smashed, toast burning, animals stealing.  The women have to learn to sit still and mind their own business: the men have to learn to jump up and do something about it. When both sexes have mastered this exercise, they go on to the next.

A clarification written 03.09.62

[this] is simply my lifelong experience - that men are more likely to hand over to others what they ought to do themselves, and women more likely to do themselves what others wish they would leave alone.  Hence both sexes must be told "mind your own business" but in two different senses.

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Book: Swipe Right by Levi Lusko

Giving 50/50 adapted from Brene Brown

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More about the miracle at Dunkirk:

https://canonjjohn.com/2017/07/17/national-day-of-prayer-during-dunkirk-1940/

More about Mental Load/Invisible Labor:

https://susanhyatt.co/the-invisible-workload-of-women/

https://therapybrands.com/blog/the-shift-that-never-ends-the-mental-load-of-invisible-work/

https://www.spacestherapyla.com/blog/the-invisible-mental-load-the-unseen-weight-held-by-women

More about communicating Expectations:

Video from the ReEngage Curriculum by Watermark

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When our priorities are out of order, we can see the results in all areas of our life. When we do not communicate priorities with our spouse, we can find ourselves at whits end in our marriage. 

This week, we talk about the ways our priorities get out of alignment and how that affects us. 

Scripture used this week:

Matthew 6:33

Ephesians 5:25

Proverbs 22:6

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Pride: Puts self first  Humility: Puts Spouse first

Phil. 2:3-4 "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. 

Ecclesiastes 2:4-11

4 I increased my achievements. I built houses and planted vineyards for myself. 5 I made gardensand parks for myself and planted every kind of fruit tree in them. 6 I constructed reservoirs for myself from which to irrigate a grove of flourishing trees. 7 I acquired male and female servants and had slaves who were born in my house. I also owned livestock—large herds and flocks—more than all who were before me in Jerusalem. 8 I also amassed silver and gold for myself, and the treasure of kings and provinces. I gathered male and female singers for myself, and many concubines, the delights of men. 9 So I became great and surpassed all who were before me in Jerusalem; my wisdom also remained with me. 10 All that my eyes desired, I did not deny them. I did not refuse myself any pleasure, for I took pleasure in all my struggles. This was my reward for all my struggles. 11 When I considered all that I had accomplished and what I had labored to achieve, I found everything to be futile and a pursuit of the wind. There was nothing to be gained under the sun.

Romans 12:3

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