Keywords

Resilience - Grief - Loss - Purpose

In this episode of Resilience Unravelled Dr. Russell Thackeray talks to Marv Weidner about his experience with grief after losing his wife to cancerbvin 2017. After he lost his wife, Marty, Marv was unsure how to find the resilience and sense of purpose to begin living his life again. With the help of Carol, a counsellor for over 22 years who specialises in grief, Marv learned valuable lessons about facing grief head-on, embracing loss as an integral part of life, staying present in the midst of trauma, de-stressing in healthy ways, and reaffirming or discovering a new sense of purpose. 

Marv discusses the intense physical, emotional and spiritual impact of grief, as well as the importance of embracing it rather than pushing it away and also talks about rediscovering a sense of purpose after loss and how living with an open heart has become his new purpose. Marv also discusses his new book, "When the Rocks Sing," which serves as a guidebook and handbook for those who have experienced loss. The title of the book comes from an experience Marv had on a rocky beach in New Zealand where he was able to hear rocks chattering against each other due to having a calm mind and clear heart The book grew out of journaling during the grieving process and has been both cathartic and thought-provoking for him.

Main topics

• Rediscovering a sense of purpose after loss
• Understanding and characterising grief
• Why embracing loss and similar challenges is an integral part of life

Timestamps

1: Introduction to Resilience Unravelled with Dr. RussellmThackeray - (00:00-00:06)

2: Setting the scene with Marv Weidner - (00:27-01:31)

3: Understanding Grief and its Nature - (02:49-04:50)

4: Characterising Grief and Dealing with Loss - (05:04-07:37)

5: Rediscovering Your Sense of Purpose - (10:08-12:30)

6: Writing as a Tool for Coping with Grief - (13:43-15:51)

7: A Guidebook for Grief and Loss - (15:22-16:13)

8: The Title "When the Rocks Sing" and Its Significance - (16:25-17:08)

9: Engaging the Grief Process and Finding Peace - (17:51-19:12)

10: Conclusion with Marv Weidner - (19:33-19:34)

Action items

• Contact Marv Weidner through Facebook
• Read his book When the Rocks Sing