I love the Autumn. Sweaters, bonfires, pumpkin spice donuts, wooly socks, crisp mornings. Fall is the absolute best for a girl like me, basic. But this time of year always gets me thinking, all of nature is changing, but am I? Am I shedding my dead leaves? Am I making room for growth? Am I doing that sacred inner work to be ready to bloom in the Spring-time?

Mama, our lives must go through seasons of change just as nature does. Life is always changing and growing and resting and blooming, and so must we!

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When you’re a mom it seems like the whole weight of the world falls on your shoulders. It can get overwhelming at times - okay, most times, maybe. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Really.

Overwhelming isn’t a result of too much to do, it’s actually rooted in not knowing where to start. When you have symptoms of perfectionism that can become paralyzing.

I know what it feels like to be drowning in ALL. THE. THINGS. The cooking, the cleaning, the scheduling, the laundry, the dishes, there’s no time for me, no time for love, no time for anything but stress. It’s time to change the narrative. It’s time to take back our damn lives!

Mama, you’re in charge. You’re the queen!

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Comparison is a very sneaky trap. It shows up in unexpected ways and can go unnoticed for some time. Sometimes we accidentally judge the mom who seems to have it all figured out, she finds time to brush her hair and wears real jeans and suddenly here we are feeling like less than. We never meant to judge, we never meant to compare, we never meant to let ourselves feel like trash, but here we are.

What you need to know is, you don’t know her full story, you can’t possibly know her full story. Parts of her life may be falling apart and she’d trade her time to herself in the morning to get ready for a husband who gave her the time of day if she could. You just don’t know.

Comparison is a kind of judgment that just sneaks in. But there’s one great way to recognize it and overcome it.

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I’m the last person you would have expected to be hosting a podcast. I’d operated mostly from a place of fear all my life; fear of disappointing others, fear of being noticed, fear of looking stupid, fear of losing loved ones, fear of being seen, fear of being heard.

I liked to play small and stay out of sight. Something like public speaking or hosting a podcast was literally my greatest fear. And yet, here I am.

I struggled with depression and anxiety for most of my life. Anxiety is exhausting. Constantly being afraid of what might or might not happen - most of the time fearing things that are statistical improbabilities. It’s weird being so afraid of things that will probably never happen. It kind of sucks to live afraid of the future, yet longing so desperately to move forward out of that depression that holds you repeating the past until you just can’t stand it anymore.

Let’s chat about fear based decisions and the freedom that comes from standing up and doing it scared. It could quite literally change your life.

I always had this idea that you couldn’t quit something that wasn’t destroying your life. I think mommy-wine culture can be incredibly toxic to those who struggle with addiction. If you’re good with a glass of wine at the end of the day, that’s awesome, more power to you. But if you feel like this could be an unsafe lifestyle for you, the way I did, I want to take this time today to give you permission to quit while you’re ahead.

I always felt like I needed to hit rock bottom before I could claim sobriety. I thought everything needed to be done in a particular order or that I had to fit into a perfect mold and definition of things. It felt silly to me that I could do something to make my life better when my life wasn’t falling apart. I was wrong, of course.

I struggle with moderation. I’m an all-in kind of person. I can’t have a little, it’s all or nothing. I’ve always been a binge-er. I couldn’t watch one episode, I had to watch a whole season. I couldn’t have a single serving of chips, I had to eat until I felt sick…

You don’t have to hit what you view as rock-bottom before you give up a destructive behavior - whether that’s your screen time, staying up too late, snacking habits, negative self-talk, inappropriate drinking, etc.

The choice is yours. Change can be hard, but it’s beautiful and necessary. Life is always changing, you’ve got to face facts and accept that it’s time for you to bloom.

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I keep hearing people say mom-life is hard… I don’t think that’s true though. I think we choose to let it be “hard” so we can stay in our comfort zone, in that hot mess mom culture that feels so safe and chaotic.

The truth is: life gets to be easy, if you let it be easy. When we choose to let it be easy, we free up our time and energy to elevate in other areas of our life. We can lean more into our true purpose and grow deeper in our relationships. Life gets better when we let it be easy.

Today I want to share with you a few of the things that make my own life a bit easier. Some of it’s mindset shifts, some of it’s the products that make daily life simpler or better.

(Affiliate links are provided throughout because, well, if I’m gonna recommend you to buy a product from a company, that company should pay me for doing their advertising…)

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It’s okay to be a beginner. You don’t have to go “all in” when you’re starting something new.

You don’t have to learn everything you need to know at the very beginning. You can start slow and begin with almost no knowledge of the thing you’re interested in.

You don’t have to be good enough to teach anyone what you’re doing. You don’t have to be able to carry on a conversation about the thing you’re doing - whether that’s homesteading, or gardening, or blogging or podcasting, or making jewelry or whatever.

You decide to start and figure everything else out along the way and are willing to take baby steps. Have the passion and courage to start. Begin. Get going.

Email me today: [email protected] and tell me - what are you beginning?

Take it a step farther: get on Instagram and share publicly what you’ve been afraid to start. Share that big scary step that you’re starting and tag me @britclarkson

If you want to start a podcast and need extra help with your outlines, niche, cover art, etc. - send me an email and I’d be happy to enroll you in my 1:1 podcast coaching program! ([email protected]).

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Last month I had an incredibly transformative weekend of personal and business growth. I met a room full of amazing Powerhouse Women, I mapped out a brand new course I’m creating for you with my business mentor, and I had so many realizations that I’m very excited to share with you.

Today’s episode was inspired by a conversation with Kacia Ghetmiri of EmpowerHER podcast. When she asked me to my face if I’m coming to her live event in October I had to explain the mom guilt I had to overcome to even come on that trip.

Guilt is garbage. Fear is a liar. Imposter Syndrome is a coping mechanism meant to keep you safe and small. You’re meant for more than you’re allowing yourself to receive. Ditch the mom-guilt and do the damn thing (as Kacia says so often).

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If one of the biggest stressors in your life right now is that dinner time dilemma, then this is for you. Dinner time can be so much easier than you’re letting it be and it all starts with a foolproof meal plan. I used to let the dinner time dilemma send me into a spiral of depressive symptoms and anxiety attacks. Then I started getting serious about meal planning. Having the decisions made beforehand - before you’ve already had a long day, before you’re nearing burn out, before you’re hangry - can have a profound impact on the way you approach preparing dinner for your family.

Before we dive in, I want you to know a few things:

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