Every time you have a failure it diminishes your capacity to try again, so you find a socially acceptable excuse. The turnaround happens when you receive grace giving you the capacity to see and believe. First, gather knowledge, then conceive what you would look like and feel like in that new reality. Meditation makes it believable and experiential. The capacity for that now expands. Capacity is the first moment of a possibility. Make the definitive decision, I will experience it and then enter into the authority to receive and take it into your life.