Meet Me at the Spot: Where Pleasure Meets Education

This week, I dive into the topic I get asked the most about as a sexual health educator: having the sex talk with youth. I talk about my reframing about this conversation while providing some conversation starters and my go-to resources that are inclusive and medically-accurate. This week's conversation is for all adults who have any type of relationship with or influence on youth. Make sure to follow me on IG for some more on this topic in the upcoming months!

Resources Mentioned on the Show:

AMAZE

Scarleteen

Sex, Etc.

Advocates for Youth

Planned Parenthood

PFLAG 

The Trevor Project 

Let's Connect!

• Email: [email protected]
• Instagram: @that_sex_educator
• Website: thatsexeducator.com

Keywords

sex talk, sex education, consent, puberty,s ex positive, parenting, teens, boundaries

This week, Holly sits down with content creator Carina North to talk about choosing a childfree life in a world that often assumes motherhood is inevitable. Carina shares how growing up in a religious environment shaped her early expectations about marriage and children, and how discovering the childfree community helped her realize parenthood is a choice—not an obligation. Together they explore the cultural pressure placed on women to have kids, the online backlash childfree women face, and the political and social narratives influencing reproductive choices today.

Carina North is the voice behind Her Childfree Life, where she talks about living childfree by choice and what it really means to build a life on your own terms.

Connect with Carina

@ herchildfreelife on Threads, Instagram, and Substack 

Website: www.herchildfreelife.com 

Let's Connect!

• Email: [email protected]
• Instagram: @that_sex_educator
• Website: thatsexeducator.com

Keywords

childfree lifestyle, childfree choice, reproductive choice, motherhood pressure, family planning, autonomy

This week, Holly sits down with content creator Carina North to talk about choosing a childfree life in a world that often assumes motherhood is inevitable. Carina shares how growing up in a religious environment shaped her early expectations about marriage and children, and how discovering the childfree community helped her realize parenthood is a choice—not an obligation. Together they explore the cultural pressure placed on women to have kids, the online backlash childfree women face, and the political and social narratives influencing reproductive choices today.

Carina North is the voice behind Her Childfree Life, where she talks about living childfree by choice and what it really means to build a life on your own terms.

Connect with Carina

@ herchildfreelife on Threads, Instagram, and Substack 

Website: www.herchildfreelife.com 

Let's Connect!

• Email: [email protected]
• Instagram: @that_sex_educator
• Website: thatsexeducator.com

Keywords

childfree lifestyle, childfree choice, reproductive choice, motherhood pressure, family planning, autonomy

This week, Cady S. Moore shares her journey into sex education, discussing her experiences as an abortion counselor, her passion for sexual health education, and the importance of inclusivity in the field. We dive into the historical context of sexuality and control, personal experiences with vaginal wellness, and the launch of her new online sex shop, Motherlode, which aims to provide accessible and inclusive sexual health products. Cady emphasizes the need for education and advocacy in sexual health, highlighting the gaps in knowledge and resources available to individuals, particularly those with marginalized identities.

Cady Moore is an AASECT-certified sexuality educator, coach, and pleasure nerd who’s been teaching for over a decade. Through her work she helps people unlearn shame and build pleasure-centered, affirming relationships. She’s the foundress of Age of Sexploration and she recently launched her curiosity-fueled sexual wellness shop, MOTHERLODE.

Connect with Cady

@ ageofsexploration 

ageofsexploration.org

Upcoming Projects/Promotions

Check out Cady’s new sex shop! @ motherlode.market and motherlode-market.com

Let's Connect!

• Email: [email protected]
• Instagram: @that_sex_educator
• Website: thatsexeducator.com

Keywords

sex education, sexual health, vaginal wellness, reproductive rights, inclusivity, sex shop, personal experiences, advocacy, public health, empowerment

This week, Cady S. Moore shares her journey into sex education, discussing her experiences as an abortion counselor, her passion for sexual health education, and the importance of inclusivity in the field. We dive into the historical context of sexuality and control, personal experiences with vaginal wellness, and the launch of her new online sex shop, Motherlode, which aims to provide accessible and inclusive sexual health products. Cady emphasizes the need for education and advocacy in sexual health, highlighting the gaps in knowledge and resources available to individuals, particularly those with marginalized identities.

Cady Moore is an AASECT-certified sexuality educator, coach, and pleasure nerd who’s been teaching for over a decade. Through her work she helps people unlearn shame and build pleasure-centered, affirming relationships. She’s the foundress of Age of Sexploration and she recently launched her curiosity-fueled sexual wellness shop, MOTHERLODE.

Connect with 

@ ageofsexploration 

ageofsexploration.org

Upcoming Projects/Promotions

Check out Cady’s new sex shop! @ motherlode.market and motherlode-market.com

Let's Connect!

• Email: [email protected]
• Instagram: @that_sex_educator
• Website: thatsexeducator.com

Keywords

sex education, sexual health, vaginal wellness, reproductive rights, inclusivity, sex shop, personal experiences, advocacy, public health, empowerment

This week, Jimanekia discusses the profound impact of trauma on personal and professional journeys, particularly in the realm of sexual education and advocacy. Jimanekia shares her experiences as a survivor and how these experiences shaped her work as a sex educator and advocate for marginalized voices. This discussion emphasizes the importance of community, the need for comprehensive sex education, and the challenges faced in addressing sexual violence in society. Jimanekia also talks about 'Tending the Garden,' a project she founded aimed at creating safe spaces for survivors, highlighting the necessity of inclusivity and support for all individuals affected by sexual assault.

Jimanekia Eborn (she/her) is a Queer Media Consultant, Comprehensive Sex Educator, and Sexual Assault & Trauma Expert. With a Masters in Health Psychology, she has worked in mental health for the past 14 years in sex education and sexual trauma support. Jimanekia is the host of Trauma Queen - a podcast mini-series for survivors of assault and our allies. The podcast focuses on uplifting voices in all communities and exploring our collective journey to healing. Jimanekia is the Founder of Tending The Garden, a healing retreat for survivors, focused on survivors that have been marginalized.

Connect with Jimanekia

@ Jimanekia

https://traumaqueen.love/

Upcoming Projects/Promotions

Jimanekia is the founder of Tending the Garden, an organization for marginalized survivors who are looking for community, healing, education, and growth. They strive to provide this community through the retreat, workshops, live events and resources.

Let's Connect!

• Email: [email protected]
• Instagram: @that_sex_educator
• Website: thatsexeducator.com

Keywords

trauma, sexual education, sexual assault, community healing, empowerment, mental health, survivors, inclusivity, sex positivity, accountability

This week, Dirty Lola shares her unexpected journey into the world of sex education, highlighting the importance of curiosity and continuous learning about our bodies and relationships. She discusses her initiative, Sex Ed-A-Go-Go, which aims to make sex education accessible and entertaining. The conversation also delves into the significance of understanding pleasure products, the impact of misinformation in sexual health, and the importance of collaboration among educators and medical professionals. Lola emphasizes the need for open discussions about sexual health and encourages listeners to stay curious as they navigate their own sexual journeys.

Dirty Lola (she/her) has been getting real about sex, polyamory, and kink for over a decade—and doing it with a microphone in one hand and a dildo in the other. She’s the brains and brilliance behind Sex Ed A Go-Go, Netflix Sexpert on The Principles of Pleasure, and your go-to when you want your sex ed served hot, honest, and a little hilarious. Lola’s made it her mission to smash stigma, spread joy, and help folks find their pleasure groove. She’s teamed up with brands like Shag Brooklyn, B-Vibe, Blush, and Womanizer, and has been spotted dropping knowledge on The Cut’s YouTube channel, HBO, and Vice. Wherever there’s a conversation about pleasure that needs de-shaming, you’ll probably find her laughing loudly and passing out lube.

Connect with Dirty Lola

IG & Threads: @ DirtyLola   

Website: DirtyLola.Co

Let's Connect!

• Email: [email protected]
• Instagram: @that_sex_educator
• Website: thatsexeducator.com

Keywords

sex education, sexual health, pleasure products, kink, relationships, sex positivity, sexual wellness, sex edutainment, sexual empowerment, curiosity

This week, I focus on the intersection of Black history and reproductive justice, highlighting the contributions of Black women and communities in shaping healthcare and reproductive rights. I emphasize the importance of recognizing historical figures and movements that have fought for dignity, access, and joy in reproductive health. The conversation covers various influential figures, including Dr. Rebecca Lee Crumpler, Fannie Lou Hamer, and organizations like SisterSong, while also providing actionable steps for listeners to support reproductive justice today.

Accounts to Follow:

• @blackmamasmatter (Instagram/Twitter/X) – Black Mamas Matter Alliance, a national Black women-led maternal health & reproductive justice coalition.
• @sistersong_woc (Instagram) / @SisterSong_WOC (Twitter/X) – SisterSong Women of Color Reproductive Justice Collective, one of the foundational reproductive justice organizations.
• @blackmidwivesalliance (Instagram) / @black_midwives (Twitter/X) – National Black Midwives Alliance, organizing for birth and maternal health justice.
• @birthequity (Instagram/Twitter/X) – National Birth Equity Collaborative, focused on Black maternal and infant health policy and systems change.
• @sisterloveinc (Instagram) / @SisterLoveInc (Twitter/X) – SisterLove Inc., working on sexual health, HIV prevention, and reproductive wellness.
• @theafiyacenter (Instagram) – The Afiya Center, which transforms Black women’s sexual and reproductive health relationships.
• @southernbirthjustice (Instagram) – Southern Birth Justice Network, building maternal and reproductive justice in the South.

Let's Connect!

• Email: [email protected]
• Instagram: @that_sex_educator
• Website: thatsexeducator.com

Keywords

Reproductive Justice, Black History Month, Black Women, Healthcare, Dr. Rebecca Lee Crumpler, Fannie Lou Hamer, Black Panther Party, Loretta Ross, SisterSong, Dr. Elders, Black Maternal Health

This week, Dr. Stacy Friedman shares her journey into sexology, emphasizing the importance of connection and communication in relationships. She discusses her podcast, The Purple Passion Project, and offers practical advice for enhancing intimacy, especially during the holiday season. Dr. Stacy highlights the significance of playful interactions and the use of toys and lube to spice up relationships, while also addressing the challenges of painful sex and the need for open dialogue about sexual health.

Dr. Stacy Friedman (she/her) is a Clinical Sexologist, certified sex and intimacy coach, and the unapologetically bold host of the Purple Passion Project podcast. She has 26+ years in the medical field and 20+ years working in the sexuality field.

Connect with Dr. Stacy

@ drstacyfriedman

drstacyfriedman.com

Upcoming Projects/Promotions

Dr. Stacy has her own podcast called the Purple Passion Project and is working on about 14 new e-books and some courses that will be available soon.

Let's Connect!

• Email: [email protected]
• Instagram: @that_sex_educator
• Website: thatsexeducator.com

Keywords

sex education, sexual health, intimacy, relationships, sex therapy, painful sex, sex coaching, sexual wellness, connection, sexual empowerment

This week, Heidy De La Cruz shares her journey into podcasting and the inspiration behind her show, 'The American Dream in the Eyes of Immigrants.' Heidy discusses the importance of storytelling in understanding the immigrant experience, the challenges faced by those navigating the immigration system, and the emotional impact of sharing these stories. She also highlights her coaching method for aspiring podcasters and emphasizes the need for curiosity and compassion.

Heidy De La Cruz (she/her) is a podcaster, speaker, and podcast launch coach. Heidy is the host of the two-time award-winning podcast "The American Dream in the Eyes of Immigrants," where immigrants share their journey of coming to the United States.

Connect with Heidy

@ heidy.delacruz13 on Instagram

https://heidydelacruz.com

Upcoming Projects/Promotions

Heidy is a podcast launch coach - if anyone is interested in starting their own podcast, she has a 6-week program called, The V.O.I.C.E. Method.

Let's Connect!

• Email: [email protected]
• Instagram: @that_sex_educator
• Website: thatsexeducator.com

Keywords

podcasting, immigration, American Dream, storytelling, podcast coaching, immigrant stories, cultural exchange, empathy, community, curiosity