As Long As I'm Living

Meet the Rainbow Baby* Doctor, an Interview with Pediatrician and Loss Mom Dr. Laura Arling


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Dr. Laura Arling is a Washington, DC-based pediatrician and mom of 3, including her first son, Remy, who died of a rare heart-related condition in his first year of life. She has built a practice around taking care of "rainbow baby* families" -- those who are parenting living children and have also experienced the death of at least one child.

In this episode, we talk to her about the unique considerations she takes into account when treating the children of traumatized parents, and we ask the following questions, among others:

  • How do you reassure parents who are behaving "irrationally" but rationally, given their background?
  • What do you do when typical medical guidance and pediatric guidelines do not align with the needs of a particular family and their situation?
  • Do you have any advice for supporting siblings after loss or for the parents parenting rainbow babies?
  • How do you cope with taking care of "normal" (non-bereaved, overall healthy) families when you have had a medically complex child who eventually died?
  • Finally, we know that many of you listening are not SIDS parents but worry about SIDS. We ask Dr. Arling directly for guidance for parents of alive infants so that they can prevent SIDS to the best of their ability. We are so grateful she agreed to come on the podcast!

    *We knew when we released this episode that "Rainbow Baby" is a controversial term, but we learned from our Instagram community that some actually find it offensive. We are leaving the episode title as is since it's the simplest way to encapsulate Dr. Arling's pediatric specialty, but please know that we don't think of any of your loved and lost babies as "storms." We'd encourage you to listen to the episode anyway, despite the title, and we do actually address the controversy of the term in the episode. Sending love to all of you! Xo, Alina and Judith.

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    Things we talk about in this episode:

    • Laura's Washington Post article about breast milk donation
    • Alina's Bummer Award
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      As Long As I'm Living is a podcast about life, love, and laughter after infant loss. Judith and Alina are rebuilding Happier Ever After one day at a time despite excruciating grief and trauma and offering support to grievers of all flavors, but especially those who have lost a baby to SIDS, infant death, birth accidents, stillbirth, TFMR, ectopic pregnancy, or miscarriage.

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