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Most of us set a goal, get excited, fall off, then restart. Again and again. Dallas Amsden lived in that loop too. He found a way out, and it starts with a question most people never ask themselves. What would the future version of me actually do right now?

I got to sit down with my friend, Dallas Amsden. He's the founder of Future You, and he helps entrepreneurs close the gap between who they are and who they're capable of becoming. Before coaching, he was a stand up comic and a professional mime, so he knows how to read a room and hold one.

Key Takeaways

• Fake it till you make it is bad advice. Act like the person you want to become. Don't pretend you already are them.
• Most people run on 10 to 12 emotional triggers. Spot yours, and you can change how you respond when they show up.
• Change isn't a new identity. It's a beta test. Try the new behavior. Check the result. Adjust and try again.
• Confidence comes from alignment, not a performance. Line up your actions with who you really are, and confidence follows.
• Small daily self talk beats one big affirmation. What you say to yourself in passing adds up fast.

Listen If You...

• Keep hitting the same wall and restarting the same goal
• Feel like an imposter every time you try to level up
• Want a real process for closing the gap between where you are and where you want to be

Connect with Dallas

Grab his free resource at 15triggers.com. It walks through the 15 triggers that knock people off course, plus a quick tool for handling them. 

Find Dallas Amsden on Instagram at instagram.com/dallasamdsen.

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About the Show

#MeetCoolPeople is where founders, creators, and entrepreneurs share real stories about building businesses that matter. Hosted by Ely Delaney, each episode goes past surface-level advice to uncover the mindset shifts, failures, and frameworks that separate people who talk about success from people who actually build it.

I got to sit down with my friend, Buddy Broyles. We had been connected online for two years but never actually talked until a few weeks ago. Turns out he thinks about podcasting almost exactly like I do.

Buddy owns Blue Mic Studios, a podcast and video production studio in the DFW area. He has spent 35 years behind cameras and mics, from live news to corporate training video. Now he helps small business owners and local brands turn conversations into real clients.

Key Takeaways

• A 20 minute episode can turn into 15 to 20 short clips for social media
• You do not need viral numbers, 50 engaged listeners can build a business
• Guesting on other shows adds real authority, right alongside running your own
• Recording episodes ahead of schedule keeps your show consistent without burnout
• AI works best for generating better questions, not writing your answers

Listen If You...

• You like talking with people more than talking at a microphone alone
• You want a show that turns real conversations into real clients
• You are the type of person people already come to for advice

Connect with Buddy on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/buddybroyles/

Blue Mic Studios: https://www.bluemicstudios.com/

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About the Show

#MeetCoolPeople is where founders, creators, and entrepreneurs share real stories about building businesses that matter. Hosted by Ely Delaney, each episode goes past surface-level advice to uncover the mindset shifts, failures, and frameworks that separate people who talk about success from people who actually build it.

You found the exact framework that made someone else a million dollars. So you copy it, word for word. And it flops. Sound familiar? That gap comes down to one missing piece.

I heard a phrase years ago I still can't shake. “Do the right things, the right way, at the right time.” Many entrepreneurs only chase the first part. They skip the other two. Then they wonder why the tactic never delivers.

Key Takeaways

• Learn why the same strategy can work for one person and fail for another
• See why timing matters as much as the tactic itself
• Get a simple gut check to run before you invest time in anything new
• Understand why copying someone's exact playbook rarely gets their exact results
• Walk away with three questions that filter out shiny distractions

Listen If You...

• You keep jumping on new tactics and wonder why the results never match the promise
• You feel behind because everyone else seems to have it figured out
• You want a filter for deciding what's worth your time right now

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About the Show

#MeetCoolPeople is where founders, creators, and entrepreneurs share real stories about building businesses that matter. Hosted by Ely Delaney, each episode goes past surface-level advice to uncover the mindset shifts, failures, and frameworks that separate people who talk about success from people who actually build it.

Everybody wants to move fast right now. AI is everywhere. Founders are jumping on every new tool before they even test it out. I've noticed the pushback starting already, because people are making rash calls before they stop and think.

This one's just me today. I want to talk about Temperance, a stoic virtue, and why it matters more in business than most people give it credit for. I use Zoom's constant feature creep and In-N-Out Burger's simple menu to show what patience actually looks like in practice.

Key Takeaways

Learn why patience beats speed when a decision actually matters.

See how asking "what are the consequences" before you act saves you from costly mistakes.

Get a simple 48 hour rule for big decisions before you commit to anything.

Understand why more features or faster growth isn't always progress.

Hear why a five item menu can outperform a hundred item one.

Listen If You...

You're tempted to adopt every new tool the moment it launches.

You've made a fast decision you ended up regretting later.

You're trying to grow your business without losing what makes it work.

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About the Show

#MeetCoolPeople is where founders, creators, and entrepreneurs share real stories about building businesses that matter. Hosted by Ely Delaney, each episode goes past surface-level advice to uncover the mindset shifts, failures, and frameworks that separate people who talk about success from people who actually build it.

There’s a version of business ownership that looks productive from the outside but is quietly draining you from the inside. You’re good at a lot of things. You’ve got the receipts to prove it. And that’s exactly the problem.

Most established entrepreneurs I talk to aren’t struggling because they lack skills. They’re struggling because they’ve spent years building around competence instead of genius. And those two things are not the same.

I got to sit down with my friend, Humaira Akhter, a signature offer architect who works with overextended experts, executive coaches, and seasoned entrepreneurs to do one very specific thing. She finds the single through line connecting everything they’ve ever built, and turns it into one premium offer they can sell again and again at a price that actually reflects what they’re worth.

This one hit close to home for me. We talked about the cereal aisle problem, which is what happens when you offer too many things to too many people. We got into the difference between being paid for competence versus being paid for genius. And Humaira introduced something she calls the Red Thread, a through line that’s been running through everything you’ve built, even if you can’t see it yet.

Your Achilles heel is exactly what you were designed to help other people solve. That reframe alone is worth the listen.

Key Takeaways

• The shift from proving yourself to owning your genius is not a strategy change. It’s a mindset change that changes everything downstream.
• Getting paid well for work you hate is called competence. Getting paid well for work that fulfills you is genius. Most people settle for the first one.
• When you try to serve everyone, you make it nearly impossible for the right people to find you and refer you.
• Humaira’s Red Thread exercise uses three questions tied to your life chapters. It doesn’t give you an offer. It gives you a compass.
• The grieving process is real. Letting go of the things you’re good at but don’t love is part of finding the one thing you’re built for.

Listen If You...

• Have been in business long enough to be good at a lot of things but still can’t explain simply what you do
• Keep adding offers or pivoting and wonder why nothing sticks
• Feel like you’re getting paid for the wrong work and can’t figure out how to change that

Connect with Humaira

Find Humaira on LinkedIn and take her Red Thread quiz. The quiz takes less than three minutes and includes an exercise that can surface layers of your business identity you didn’t know were there.

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/humairaakhter/

Red Thread Quiz: https://humairaakhter.com/quiz

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About the Show

#MeetCoolPeople is where founders, creators, and entrepreneurs share real stories about building businesses that matter. Hosted by Ely Delaney, each episode goes past surface-level advice to uncover the mindset shifts, failures, and frameworks that separate people who talk about success from people who actually build it.

I got to sit down with Anneliese Vance, and this one took some turns I did not expect. We started talking trust and relationships, landed on Google Ads for a good stretch, and ended up on her podcast about dads. That is honestly how the best conversations go.

Anneliese is the co-founder of Be Present Advertising. She runs Google Ads for family owned trades and service businesses, and she has built that business on relationships that last 17 years, not contracts. She will turn down a client's money if they are not ready yet. We got into why that decision has paid off again and again.

Key Takeaways

• Why trust built on results beats trust built on a contract, every time
• How treating people like a real human, not a buying unit, changes the entire relationship
• Why a properly built website has to come before any ad spend, not after
• How Google actually treats the searcher as the customer, not the advertiser
• What a realistic three month timeline for ad results actually looks like
• Why a longer, more specific keyword often beats a broad one

Listen If You...

• Are thinking about running Google Ads for the first time and want to know what to expect
• Have ever felt pressured to spend on marketing before your website or offer was ready
• Want to build client relationships that last years, not just close a sale

Connect with Anneliese

Find Anneliese on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/anneliesemvance/ or learn more about her work at https://www.bepresentads.com/. 

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About the Show

#MeetCoolPeople is where founders, creators, and entrepreneurs share real stories about building businesses that matter. Hosted by Ely Delaney, each episode goes past surface-level advice to uncover the mindset shifts, failures, and frameworks that separate people who talk about success from people who actually build it.

There's a lot of noise out there right now. AI is everywhere. Content is everywhere. And somehow, it feels harder than ever to actually connect with people.

That's what this episode is about.

This is a solo episode where I'm thinking out loud about something that's been sitting heavy with me lately. The world is moving fast. A lot of people are getting left behind. And I think the answer isn't more content. It's more connection.

Key Takeaways

• Why pumping out AI-generated content is making you easier to ignore, not harder to miss
• What a woman told me about my writing that confirmed everything I believe about connection
• How to tell the difference between content that transfers data and content that builds trust
• Why true masterminds are small, tight, and the most underused tool in business right now
• The two things that will actually make you stand out no matter what industry you're in

Listen If You...

• Feel like you're creating more content than ever but getting less traction
• Are watching AI take over your feed and wondering if real relationships still matter
• Want a clear-headed take on how to build something that cuts through all the noise

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About the Show

#MeetCoolPeople is where founders, creators, and entrepreneurs share real stories about building businesses that matter. Hosted by Ely Delaney, each episode goes past surface-level advice to uncover the mindset shifts, failures, and frameworks that separate people who talk about success from people who actually build it.

There is a question I want you to sit with before you hit send on anything.

If someone on your list described you to a friend right now, what words would they use? Vendor? Or trusted source?

That gap is everything. And most people never stop to think about it.

This episode is about honor. Not the abstract kind. The kind that shows up in how you communicate, how consistently you add value, and whether the person you are online matches the person you are in real life.

I share a story from back around 2010 when a woman I had never met in person walked straight across a room full of 500 people and said, “You’re THE Ely.” She knew me only from my writing. That moment stuck with me because it showed what a reputation built on consistency and authenticity can actually do.

We also get into the three pillars I keep coming back to when I think about building an unmissable reputation.

Key Takeaways

• Consistency beats perfection. Show up regularly and add value. Missing once is fine. Making it a habit is not.
• A 200-word email with one great idea beats a 1000 word pitch about how amazing you are.
• True authenticity means being the same person online and in real life. Anything else is just a slow-building lie.
• Vendors email when they have something to sell. Trusted sources email when they found something that helps you.
• When you share value with no agenda, people start referring you before they have ever bought from you.

Listen If You...

• Send emails or post on social and wonder why nobody seems excited to hear from you
• Feel like you are always pitching and never quite building real relationships
• Want to be the person people think of first and recommend without being asked

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About the Show

#MeetCoolPeople is where founders, creators, and entrepreneurs share real stories about building businesses that matter. Hosted by Ely Delaney, each episode goes past surface-level advice to uncover the mindset shifts, failures, and frameworks that separate people who talk about success from people who actually build it.

Most people who struggle with sales aren't bad at selling. They're just thinking about it the wrong way. They walk in focused on making a sale. And the people across from them can feel it.

I sat down with my friend, Morris Sims, and this conversation reminded me why the long game always wins. Morris spent over 30 years training financial professionals and executives at New York Life. He helped build one of the first corporate universities for field training. He knows what separates the people who close deals from the ones who burn through leads and wonder why nothing sticks.

This one is for anyone who's ever felt uncomfortable calling themselves a salesperson.

Key Takeaways

• The difference between a professional and an amateur salesperson comes down to one thing: who they're focused on when they walk in the room
• You can't make someone buy. You can set up the right environment, give them the right information, and let them choose
• Persuasion and manipulation are the same action with different intent, and your clients can tell which one you're using
• The Clarity Principle: you need to know your "what," your "why," and your "how" before you build any strategy
• Follow up isn't about staying top of mind. It's about building a real relationship so that when they're ready, you're the only call they want to make

Listen If You...

• Feel "icky" about selling and aren't sure how to get past it
• Have leads that go cold after the first conversation and don't know why
• Are a business owner, coach, or service pro who knows relationships matter but isn't sure how to make them pay off

Connect with Morris

Connect with Morris on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/morris-sims/ or search for The Commission Code on Spotify.

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About the Show

#MeetCoolPeople is where founders, creators, and entrepreneurs share real stories about building businesses that matter. Hosted by Ely Delaney, each episode goes past surface-level advice to uncover the mindset shifts, failures, and frameworks that separate people who talk about success from people who actually build it.

Most people think they have a motivation problem. Or a discipline problem. Or maybe just bad luck. What they actually have is a brain that's been trained to look for everything that's wrong.

That's not a character flaw. It's biology. And it can be changed.

Dr. Lucette Beall knows this firsthand. She's a neuroscience-based coach, a number one international bestselling author, and the founder of the Your Extraordinary Life Institute. But before any of that, she was several hundred thousand dollars in debt, running a veterinary practice she had nearly sacrificed everything to save, and listening to people tell her she was going to fail.

She didn't fail. She turned it around in one year. Not by working harder. By working differently, starting with what she was telling her brain every morning.

What I found fascinating in this conversation is how practical she makes all of this. This isn't a motivation talk. It's a framework. And once you understand how your reticular activating system is filtering your reality, you can't unhear it.

Key Takeaways

• When your brain is focused on the problem, it actively filters out solutions. You're not missing the answers because they aren't there. You're missing them because you're not looking for them.
• Up to 96% of your daily thoughts run on autopilot. Of those, up to 80% tend to be negative. If you're not doing something consistent to interrupt that, nothing changes.
• Punishment doesn't teach your brain to perform better. It locks you deeper into the problem loop. Self-criticism isn't discipline. It's interference.
• Appreciation and meditation aren't soft habits. They're how you shift your brain chemistry and get your cerebral cortex back online.
• A morning routine doesn't need to be long. Consistency matters far more than length. Start with what you'll actually do every day.

Listen If You...

• Feel like you keep hitting the same wall no matter how hard you try
• Know what you should be doing but can't seem to follow through on it
• Have been told by people you trust that your goal isn't realistic, and part of you is starting to believe them

Connect with Lucette

Visit Dr. Lucette at DrLucette.net/

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About the Show

#MeetCoolPeople is where founders, creators, and entrepreneurs share real stories about building businesses that matter. Hosted by Ely Delaney, each episode goes past surface-level advice to uncover the mindset shifts, failures, and frameworks that separate people who talk about success from people who actually build it.