Mejor Sola

*Please excuse the sound quality* - we recorded a check-in from a car! Catch up with Des and Em in this special mini check-in episode, recorded without all the equipment, but just as much love.

There are so many different types of love to experience in this lifetime. For Des and Em, one of the dearest and most transformative loves is the love shared between friends. What does intimacy look like for a friend group? Are there different levels to it? This episode explores all the ways we fall in love with our friends. 

About Mejor Sola: Des and Emily are two Latinx female-identifying storytellers who love deeply...and have had their hearts broken by others. Growing up, there are frameworks for love that are heavily shaped by machismo, religion, culture, and tradition. This kind of love is tied to sacrifice and service. Learning love in this way has made it extremely challenging to make space for self-love and platonic love - love that fuels us and brings us joy and not simply for others. Love for ourselves. Most of all, a love that does not require self-sacrifice in order to be celebrated. Intro and outro music is "Little Latin Jazz" by oymaldonado.

Being alone - do you dread the idea or is it something you can rejoice in? There's a wide spectrum of emotions you can experience when you're by yourself. But how do you know the difference between being alone and being lonely? What signs do you look out for when you need help telling the difference? Also, BRIDGERTON. Let's unpack this, amores.

PERSONAL STORIES: Des and Em recount Valentine's Day experiences, break down the exclusionary nature of the capitalistic "holiday," and call for more celebrations of womxn outside of heteronormative traditions. 

Does your relationship have a contract? Should it? What would the rules and regulations entail? Would your version of this contract match your friends'? Let's unpack that, amores.

THINGS THEY DIDN'T TEACH US: Being a good friend. More specifically: navigating the gray space when you're not sure if you should turn back and make amends with someone from your past, or if it's ok to miss what you had when you had it. 

Inspired by @TheFriendshipExpert on TikTok. Check out Danielle Bayard Jackson's work as a friendship coach, publicist, and educator.

We needed more than 20 minutes for this! Diving into childhood wonder, we explore the mindshift this quote invokes and what it would mean to shed our shame in the process.

HARD TRUTHS: Why do we self sabotage? The month of January gives us an opportunity to collectively reflect and set goals for the new year. But sometimes, goals turn into guilt and we look at one of those culprits of shame: our own self-betrayal. 

About Mejor Sola: Des and Emily are two Latinx female-identifying storytellers who love deeply...and have had their hearts broken by others. Growing up, there are frameworks for love that are heavily shaped by machismo, religion, culture, and tradition. This kind of love is tied to sacrifice and service. Learning love in this way has made it extremely challenging to make space for self-love and platonic love - love that fuels us and brings us joy and not simply for others. Love for ourselves. Most of all, a love that does not require self-sacrifice in order to be celebrated. Intro and outro music is "Little Latin Jazz" by oymaldonado.

We say *Des voice* byeeee to 2020 and talk about the role "hope" may play in 2021. The quote we unpack in this mini episode is from Austin Channing Brown, "This is the shadow of hope - knowing that we may never see the realization of our dreams, and yet still showing up." 

WHAT. A. YEAR. We are so glad you made it, amor. Comparison is the thief of joy and comparison tends to run rampant on the horizon of a new year - and we just cannot let that happen! Des and Em take time to reflect on their biggest lessons of 2020 and look ahead to 2021.