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Men are Lost
In this powerful and honest conversation, Rebecca Gruggan is joined by Warren Cutajar to explore a topic that is rarely spoken about with depth or nuance: why so many men feel lost…emotionally, relationally, and internally.
This episode isn’t about blaming men or romanticising masculinity. It’s about understanding the context men are growing up in, the expectations placed on them, and the silent cost of emotional suppression, disconnection, and identity confusion. Together, Rebecca and Warren unpack how modern masculinity has been shaped by survival, performance, and emotional isolation, and why many men don’t have the language, safety, or permission to feel.
They discuss how men are taught to disconnect from themselves, how this impacts relationships, intimacy, and purpose, and why the absence of healthy masculine role models leaves many men unsure of who they are or how to be. This is a conversation about responsibility, identity, nervous system safety, and what real strength actually looks like.
If you’ve ever struggled to understand the men in your life, or yourself, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and a deeper lens through which to view masculinity, without judgment or oversimplification.
Timestamps
0:00 Why Men Are Feeling Lost Today
00:24 Why VULNERABILITY Is The REAL Fight
06:41 Masculine vs Feminine Energy: Find Your Balance
12:05 What Women REALLY Want in Relationships
13:10 How to stand up for yourself
14:07 How to channel anger
20:07 Redefining Masculinity
21:08 Raising Strong Sons
24:04 Raising white boys
27:40 War's Trauma
29:31 How to prevent external forces from defining us.
33:50 Rejecting labels while creating personas
26:23 Why We Do What We Do
39:12 What does healthy masculinity look like
40:08 How to break generational patterns in fatherhood.
43:50 Debunking Masculinity Myths
48:19 Why Are We All So Disconnected?
53:32 The evolution of wealth
If you want to take this work further, the next step is self-discovery, not self-judgment.
The I AM Profile Assessment is a private, secure tool designed to help you understand how you’re wired to connect, relate, and move through the world across eight core dimensions that shape identity and behaviour.
👉 Start your I AM Profile Assessment here:
🔗 https://blueprint-lb8.replit.app/
Stay Connected
If you found value in this conversation, continue the journey:
- Follow me on Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/rebeccagrugan/
- Follow me on Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.grugan
- Visit the website → https://lifebyeight.com/
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By Life By EightIn this powerful and honest conversation, Rebecca Gruggan is joined by Warren Cutajar to explore a topic that is rarely spoken about with depth or nuance: why so many men feel lost…emotionally, relationally, and internally.
This episode isn’t about blaming men or romanticising masculinity. It’s about understanding the context men are growing up in, the expectations placed on them, and the silent cost of emotional suppression, disconnection, and identity confusion. Together, Rebecca and Warren unpack how modern masculinity has been shaped by survival, performance, and emotional isolation, and why many men don’t have the language, safety, or permission to feel.
They discuss how men are taught to disconnect from themselves, how this impacts relationships, intimacy, and purpose, and why the absence of healthy masculine role models leaves many men unsure of who they are or how to be. This is a conversation about responsibility, identity, nervous system safety, and what real strength actually looks like.
If you’ve ever struggled to understand the men in your life, or yourself, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and a deeper lens through which to view masculinity, without judgment or oversimplification.
Timestamps
0:00 Why Men Are Feeling Lost Today
00:24 Why VULNERABILITY Is The REAL Fight
06:41 Masculine vs Feminine Energy: Find Your Balance
12:05 What Women REALLY Want in Relationships
13:10 How to stand up for yourself
14:07 How to channel anger
20:07 Redefining Masculinity
21:08 Raising Strong Sons
24:04 Raising white boys
27:40 War's Trauma
29:31 How to prevent external forces from defining us.
33:50 Rejecting labels while creating personas
26:23 Why We Do What We Do
39:12 What does healthy masculinity look like
40:08 How to break generational patterns in fatherhood.
43:50 Debunking Masculinity Myths
48:19 Why Are We All So Disconnected?
53:32 The evolution of wealth
If you want to take this work further, the next step is self-discovery, not self-judgment.
The I AM Profile Assessment is a private, secure tool designed to help you understand how you’re wired to connect, relate, and move through the world across eight core dimensions that shape identity and behaviour.
👉 Start your I AM Profile Assessment here:
🔗 https://blueprint-lb8.replit.app/
Stay Connected
If you found value in this conversation, continue the journey:
- Follow me on Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/rebeccagrugan/
- Follow me on Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.grugan
- Visit the website → https://lifebyeight.com/