Why do we call people “weird”… and when did that become an insult?
In this episode of the Life By 8 Podcast, Rebecca Grugan sits down with Jessicka Anne, founder of Artemisia Alchemical College and creator of the Shamanic Shadow Work Method, for a deep and provocative conversation about weirdness, belonging, shame, and truth.
Together, they unpack the original meaning of the word weird, rooted in fate and destiny, and explore how something once associated with power became something we hide. They dive into masking, nervous system responses, shadow integration, identity vs personality, and the energetic cost of trying to be normal.
From bullying and outsider scripts to the current state of the coaching industry, AI acceleration, discernment, and the collapse of the “normal” box, this episode is an invitation to stop rejecting the parts of you that feel too much, too strange, or too different… and to recognise that those parts may be the exact medicine you’re here to bring.
This is a conversation about truth. And truth isn’t always sexy.
But it might just set you free.
Timestamps:
0:00 — Weird as Destiny: Not Losing Wonder
0:32 — Welcome & Introduction to Jessicka Anne
0:41 — The Etymology of “Weird”
1:40 — Shadow Work & The Shamanic Shadow Work Method
2:43 — Redefining Weird in Today’s Context
3:56 — Weird as the Outsider & Childhood Conditioning
4:47 — Why We Mask to Fit In
5:17 — Belonging, Survival & Tribal Instincts
6:22 — Social Media, Loneliness & Disconnection
7:14 — The Fracturing of Consensus Reality
8:56 — Emotional Intelligence & Human Maturity
9:17 — Presence: What It Means to Relate as a Human
10:07 — Projection, Assumptions & Conflict
10:59 — Weird as Shadow in Adulthood
12:34 — Weird, Otherness & Unfamiliarity
13:36 — Belonging vs Individuation in Human Evolution
14:19 — Nervous System Responses: Fight, Fawn & Vigilance
15:18 — Vigilance in Leadership & Relationships
16:49 — The Energetic Cost of Being “Normal”
18:33 — Identity vs Personality
19:36 — Suppressing Weirdness vs Outgrowing It
20:38 — Working with Shame & Repressed Parts
23:03 — Culture, Race & Who Gets Labelled “Weird”
24:22 — Weirdness, Innovation & Human Evolution
25:55 — Expressing Your Weird Publicly
28:13 — The “Weirdest” Thing About Jessicka
29:32 — A World Without Shame
30:35 — Shame vs Guilt & Desiring Outside the Norm
32:27 — The Collapse of the “Normal” Box
33:45 — Truth, Discernment & Embodiment
36:27 — Astrology, Archetypes & Shadow Potential
38:11 — You Are More Powerful Than You Think
39:43 — Society at a Turning Point
42:57 — Nervous System Overload & Disassociation
44:40 — Nervous System Tools: Ascension vs Descent
46:37 — The Coaching Industry: Integrity vs Influence
51:42 — Embodiment, Safety & Depth in Coaching
54:57 — “Be Who You Are” vs “Be Who You Want to Be”
56:01 — The Trap of the Constructed Self
58:37 — Final Thoughts: Your Weird Is the Magic
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