Men Are Talking / Good Will Toward Men

We hear a lot about the rough treatment of women and girls in Afghanistan. Rightly so. But on “Men Are Talking” we wonder, think and talk about life for men and boys.

Rich Walton spent 4-1/2 years as a construction manager for an American company in Afghanistan. Jack had never had the chance to talk with an American civilian who had worked closely with and among Afghani civilians.

And so we invited Rich to talk with us about life for men and boys in Afghanistan.

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Rich chronicles his Afghanistan adventure in his book “One Brick at a Time: Winning the Hearts and Minds of the Afghan People.” Available at the usual places online, from onebrickatatimepress.com, and from your local bookstore. Order ISBN-13: 9781737858805.

Teenage boys and girls are on a month-long wilderness adventure. Two boys or two girls to a tent. Near one of the boys’ tents a girl exits hers and proceeds to become topless. A nearby boy can't believe what he’s seeing.

The Matrix* seizes control. The Sisterhood knows what this is all about.

Leering miscreant boy!

Vulnerable traumatized girls!

The Rule of Law is no match for feminism's Rule of “Awww…”

Due Process becomes “Do process your oppression.”

And we wonder why men are not always happy when women take “leadership”?

Ah, yes. Because they are insecure. And why is that? Because they are afraid of Progress!

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* for a look at the concept of The Matrix, see:

- Jack Kammer on Achieving Equality for Men

https://youtu.be/2zPmYuT6PyE

runs 11:28

- A Male Counter-Narrative by Counter-Feminist Jack Kammer

https://youtu.be/7Vh-Gh5mT98

runs 46:35

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Jeff’s March 17, 2022 blog post at Equality for Boys and Men: https://equalityforboysandmen.org/boy-wrongfully-expelled-from-national-outdoor-leadership-school-nols-course-for-sexual-misconduct/

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Photo of young man looking down:

Yuriy Bogdanov via Unsplash https://unsplash.com/photos/uTXWIR_SviI

Lance Hillsinger is a social worker with 34 years experience in the very difficult field of child welfare and child protective services.

He is one of the few social workers I have ever met who thinks and cares deeply about how to improve social work, social services and social policy for men.

It's a shame and a disgrace that social work talks so much about diversity and has so few men like Lance, so few of any men at all.

Lance's books:

- Build a Better Bridge: Social Policy for the 21st Century
  - Kindle: amazon.com/Build-Better-Bridge-Social-Century-ebook/dp/B09S1BPRQD
  - Hardcover: amazon.com/Build-Better-Bridge-Social-Century/dp/1685362494
  - Paperback: amazon.com/Build-Better-Bridge-Social-Century/dp/1685362486

- In Place of the Parent:: Inside Child Protective Services
  - Kindle: amazon.com/Place-Parent-Inside-Protective-Services-ebook/dp/B09516KRR2
  - Hardcover: amazon.com/Place-Parent-Inside-Protective-Services/dp/1644680254
  - Paperback: amazon.com/Place-Parent-Inside-Protective-Services/dp/1644680246

Connect with Lance Hillsinger:
- LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/lance-hillsinger-89b48569

Karyn Seitz is a remarkable woman in a lot of ways, not least of which are her laser sharp insight and crystal clear honesty about what women often do and think that makes them and their men unhappy in their intimate relationships. She helps men as well as women see what's going on. She helps women stop doing it and she helps men be confident and strong in making it stop.

For good reason, she calls herself The Happiness Mentor.

Contact Karyn:

Website
ahappinesscourse.com/meet

Facebook
facebook.com/karynaseitz

When two problems exacerbate and compound each other and one gets much more recognition and attention than the other, which one needs to be given more recognition and attention? Today on Good Will Toward Men, we talk with Janice Ponds and Felicity Joy Solomon, hosts of the weekly “Black. Conservative. Female.” livestream on Facebook, about which problem needs more attention in the Black community right now, Anti-Black racism or anti-male sexism.

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"Black. Conservative. Female."

Facebook livestream
https://www.facebook.com/blackconservativefemale

Recordings at
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsdUQ91nlY4nE9abVd9BFeQ

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Janice Ponds  

Janice’s experience as a teacher; school psychologist; psychiatric counselor; clinical director; substance abuse treatment program coordinator, director, and supervisor; certified brain injury specialist; clinical consultant; licensed therapist; member of a law enforcement mental health support services team.

Won the 2022 Best Outreach Series award on Roku’s Creative Motion Television Network for Destruction to Dignity. Creative Motion is a Platform for Independent Christian Production.

Janice’s website
http://www.janiceponds.com

Janice’s YouTube channel
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoTesXPiIY1Y8jSFEc2UFNQ

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Felicity Joy Solomon

2022 Kingdom Conservative Party candidate for Illinois Senate District 49.
Director, Princeton graduate, Actor, Teacher, Life Coach, Minister, Doctor (of Christian counseling) turned politician
2022 Person of the Year on Roku’s Creative Motion Television Network. Creative Motion is a Platform for Independent Christian Production.

Simply Felicity podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/simply-felicity/id1476350346

Felicity Joy’s YouTube channel
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpY2mwsFchOeKI7kL7Ag7yw

Like a lot of good things, Fathers Eve was invented by accident. John Francis, the Founding Father of Fathers Eve, tells us what it is, how it happened, how it became a thing, and how you might be a part of the fun, whether you want to host your own Fathers Eve, just want to participate in Fathers Eve or whether you’re a young man wondering about your own possible future as a father. If you’d like to host a Fathers Eve event, talk to John by phone at 612 868-0745.

To find a Fathers Eve event near you, visit fatherseve.com.

You can email John at [email protected].

Mariquita Solis helps women develop their power in a nice way, a friendly way, not in a female macho way, not in a sisterhood chauvinist way, not splashed with an excess of industrial girls-rule Pink. (You know the shade I mean.) Mariquita works to bring men and women together — and animals too — as partners, organically, in a way that lives and grows, free of coercive power and control or sexist hubris. She’s a strong woman in the very most powerful way.

Connect with Mariquita at mariquitasolis.com.

Today on Men Are Talking we talk with violence and Public Health expert Ed Bartlett about a documentary film that ends up not documenting what it purports to document, but in fact unwittingly serves as a sort of meta-documentary on what has become of feminism.

Information from the Coalition to End Domestic Violence
about the PBS documentary "Bring Her Home":

http://endtodv.org/camp/bring-her-home/

FBI report mentioned in the podcast:

https://www.fbi.gov/file-repository/2020-ncic-missing-person-and-unidentified-person-statistics.pdf/view

Data on murdered Indians:

National Violent Death Reporting System
https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/70/ss/ss7008a1.htm 

TV report from Canada on MMIW and MMIM:

https://www.facebook.com/watch/live/?ref=watch_permalink&v=10154432256403772

Jed Diamond began counseling men, women and couples in 1965. Since then he's worked with more than 40,000 people. With a PhD in International Health and a Masters in Social Work, he founded Men Alive in 1968 to help men live longer, healthier, happier lives. He has particular expertise in helping men eliminate the stresses they face that undermine their health and ruin their relationships.

We talked about four main topics:

- The relationship between Anger and Depression in Men

- A Men's Health Initiative Jed calls The Moonshot

- The Father Wound, especially the often unnoticed Father Wounds in women

- The opportunities of The Disillusionment Stage of marriages and other long-term relationships

We also took a minute to talk about the benefits Jed has derived from almost fifty years in his men's group.

And, of course, we started off talking about our fashion choices.

The Depression assessment instrument we talked about is under the STRUGGLING WITH DEPRESSION? heading at https://menalive.com/resources/ebooks-quizzes-and-videos.

Contact Jed Diamond through his website: https://menalive.com.

Social psychologist Jennifer Harman vigorously rebuts the advocacy “research” of Joan Meier on the form of child abuse and family violence known to many scientists as Parental Alienation and called "junk science" by various legislators, lawyers, professional feminists and other anti-science partisans.

When Harman et. al. directly asked, Meier refused to provide the standard scientific information on her study. The emails of this correspondence are publicly available:
https://osf.io/rjwua.

Details on Harman's scientific methods:
https://osf.io/j9bh5

A Psychology Today article on Meier's Advocacy research: https://www.psychologytoday.com /us/blog/co-parenting-after-divorce/202112/when-studies-dont-replicate-case-study