An anthropologist says polyamorous couples are just as happy as monogamous ones. We pause the podcast, look at each other, and ask: Really? This episode dissects the “biology made me do it” argument—men’s visual wiring, women’s romance/status pull, jealousy/mate-guarding—and why biology ≠ destiny when you’re building a life, not running on instinct. We separate momentary happiness from long-term fulfillment and make the case for choosing one person—on purpose.⏱️ Timestamps (approx.)0:00 – Cold open: “Poly people are happier?” Our gut reaction2:05 – Are humans biologically monogamous or poly? What that even means4:20 – Fatherhood paradox in that interview: “Fathers matter… but also unnecessary?”6:45 – Biology as excuse vs information: why the difference matters9:00 – Men’s visual wiring; women’s romance/status wiring—temptations aren’t symmetric11:25 – Smut novels vs porn: parallel dopamine loops and why both corrode intimacy13:50 – We don’t live in nature: the attention economy hijacks instincts (food analogy)16:10 – Jealousy & mate-guarding: the biological clue for monogamy18:35 – History lesson: when polygamy “worked” (war, survival, provisioning)21:00 – Sperm Wars & Selfish Gene: cheater-effects, orgasm odds, replication logic23:40 – Happiness vs fulfillment: short-term highs, long-term emptiness26:15 – “Train the dog” metaphor: we already override biology everywhere else28:10 – Status talk: why a man must carry himself as her highest-status choice30:45 – Spiritual layer great than biology: why real love mutes primitive urges33:20 – The Costa Rican mango analogy: you don’t know the ceiling until you find it35:30 – Joint bank accounts, trust, and choosing covenant over “options”38:05 – Why blanket “biology says” claims confuse more than they clarify40:10 – Actionables: protect attention, kill comparisons, build chosen discipline42:00 – Final take: people can live how they want—just don’t sell biology as destiny👇 Links & Resources• Podcast site – https://betterthanperfectpod.com• Instagram – https://instagram.com/betterthanperfectpodcast• Spotify – https://open.spotify.com/show/0Os5mBb4WMKy7rw5GMHDN7• Apple – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast/id1719469324🔔 Subscribe for weekly no-filter debates on love, polarity, and personal growth—where every topic splits the vote.