Pleasure and sex are not always synonymous, and for young women this is especially true. Despite Phoebe’s early and creative forays into the world of self-pleasure, it was not until she had a ‘feminist awakening’ that she began to prioritize her own desires outside of an unfulfilling heteronormative script. Copious amounts of nudity, the vernacular of cunt, orgies, art wives, road trips, and an impressive sexual bucket list awaited her. But it takes an adventurous spirit with no tolerance for misogyny to get there.

With Suzanne Santo's 2017 debut solo album 'Ruby Red' receiving many accolades and her accompanying North American tour now in full swing, Ménage à Moi was lucky enough to get some face time with the Honey Honey songstress while she made a brief pit stop in LA. Nestled among all the golden nuggets of sexual wisdom and experience Suzanne serves up are these piquant morsels: how she forces herself to remain a 'sexual woman' while on long, punishing tours as the only female in a crowded SUV, and why getting it on with adoring fans is not actually as fun as Mötley Crü’s autobiography makes it sound. Good to know! Suzanne's music and her conversational charm is a feast for your ears. Enjoy!

Ménage à Moi’s guest this week went from watching age-inappropriate movies as a child beside her parents, to making perfectly pitched indie movies that capture the complexities of women and the evolving nature of identity and sexuality. Yes, art springs forth from trying to unravel the tangled up dingleberry of what one is taught verses how one feels. Ain’t life grand?! Jenée’s forthcoming movie, ‘The Feels,’ is a comedy about the female orgasm that features a great cast and a very relatable bachelorette weekend getaway, with some unexpected—but, oh so real—elements.

Testosterone orgasms vs. estrogen orgasms—this week I attempt to get my medically trained guest, Cadyn, to give the final verdict on which one is better. Spoiler alert: I fail. Male and female hormones aside, too much focus on achieving orgasm can distract from all sorts of pleasurable moments along the way, so go forth and give yourself permission to explore without the pressure of achieving a face-melting climax. Cadyn is a professor and clinical psychologist with a focus on transgender and gender non-conforming patients, who is full of well-researched sex positivity and knowledge, as well as MàM’s first guest whose pronouns are he, his, and him, and what a great first he is!

Assholes, what are they good for? No, not the orifice, those are great. I mean the people! This week’s guest, Ellen, gives credit where credit is due, to all the assholes she encountered in her budding sex life. With their help, she’s developed a healthy amount of sexual grit, and she knows damn well how to ‘get hers.’ She’s sixty years old and has been married for thirty-five years. What are her secrets to a happy marriage? Alone time for jerking off and the privacy necessary to take a dump in peace. Now you can throw all those relationship advice books away—Ellen has you covered. This woman speaks her mind and takes no prisoners.

Guess what? Lots of women have lots to say about masturbation. All you have to do is ask. Politely and respectfully, of course! At least that’s what I did with this week’s guest: Nicole from the amazing Bitchface podcast. Clearly she’s thought about the topic a lot, which comes up in her writing as well as what she calls her ‘crush politics.’ While you consider drafting your own crush manifesto—and you should— here’s a start courtesy of my conversation with Nicole: get really sexy with yourself and indulge in your crush fantasy for all the potential that it holds, but not necessarily as a means to land your crush, which, as we all know is usually less fulfilling than fanning the flames. You know what they say, ‘It’s the journey, man!’

Introducing Jessa, the wonderful woman who answered MàM's online call for masturbators.  What a fearless move! As you will learn, Jessa is an old pro at arranging IRL encounters. Anyone remember IRC chat rooms? Yes, that was the early 90’s. Jessa's pioneering use of the web as a means to explore her adolescent sexual curiosity does not mean that 20 years later she’s become a tech geek when it comes to getting off. Her method of choice is the antithesis of the $150 vibrator, in fact you probably have a few of them sitting in a closet at home.