Mending Families

Mending Families

By Melissa PembertonParentingKids & Family
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Mending Families episodes

  • 7. Overcoming, healing, and connecting with your parents with Haley Pemberton
    I had Haley as a teen and we have been through so many ups and downs, but are on the side of healing past hurts, as well as our relationship. It’s been so fun watching her grow and see her follow in my footsteps as a social worker. Haley has her Bachelors in Social Work and works for a local counseling agency as a crisis response counselor. She lives with her dog, Hank, and uses art as an outlet to help her get through the big and hard of life!
    On today’s episode, Haley shares her heart about the difficulties of growing up under some tough circumstances, how she felt when she first met Jon (my husband), what it was like when Jon and I started having our own kids, and when she realized she had her own stuff she needed to work through.  This conversation is very real, honest and raw. I think we all can take away something from what Haley shares, and she even has some great advice for those of you parenting kids who have experienced divorce, adoption, foster care, etc.  Enjoy!
     **If you or someone you know is dealing with suicidal thoughts, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline or dial 988
    Topics Haley mentions:
    *Haley and her dad perform a fun dance at her adoption celebration…skip forward to 1:24 as the beginning is just a lot of talking and getting ready for the performance. Also, ignore the bad quality! It was before we had the ability to record on our iPhones!
    *Haley is a fan of EMDR  therapy and recommends checking out Lutheran Community Services if you live in the PNW
    *Haley recently adopted her dog, Hank, and has found that he has helped tremendously with her healing process. If you are interested in adopting a dog, check out your local animal shelters as there are always sweet animals that need good homes! 
    *Choose Joy daily! Pick one thing a day that brings you joy, whether it is cleaning, running, reading, playing, or dancing around the house.
    **Find FULL SHOW NOTES at my website, https://www.mendingfamilieswa.com/mending-families-podcast
    Where to find Mending Families:
    Instagram - @mendingfamilieswa
    TikTok - @mendingfamilieswa
    Facebook - @mendingfamilieswa
    YouTube - @mendingfamilies1594
    https://www.mendingfamilieswa.com
    43 min
  • 6. Mondays with Melissa - 6 risk factors to developmental adversity
    On today’s episode, Melissa gives an expanded explanation of the risk factors related to trauma and how it affects our kids (or honestly our own) whole selves. She discusses the importance of understanding where trauma can come from and how it can also lead to some difficulties in connection and attachment. Finally, Melissa leaves you with two strategies to try this next week to start the journey of healing within your own home.
    Find all of the show notes at https://www.mendingfamilieswa.com/mending-families-podcast
    Where to find Mending Families:
    Instagram - @mendingfamilieswa
    TikTok - @mendingfamilieswa
    Facebook - @mendingfamilieswa
    YouTube - @mendingfamilies1594
    https://www.mendingfamilieswa.com
    19 min
  • 5. Mom-life and International Foster Care with Bekah Read
    On today’s episode, Bekah shares how she has survived motherhood thus far and shares her struggles of finally getting a diagnosis for her daughter after a year of hard. She takes us back to 8 years ago when she was a foster parent in Honduras and the stories she tells will shock  you as much as they give you chills.  We touch briefly on trauma and the support she received while fostering internationally, but most importantly, Bekah is honest and raw as she takes us on her journey.
    To find out more about Bekah and her small business, you can find her on Instagram as @rebekahreadcreative and on YouTube as @RebekahRead
    Topics Bekah mentions:
    Bekah mentioned a few books that she feels have helped her better understand foster care and parenting kids from hard places.  Purchase your own copies of The Connected Child or Fostered to learn more about how trauma affects our kids.
    To check out some of Bekah’s favorite instagram accounts on all things parenting, foster care, and supporting foster care, here are all of the links:
    @thearchibaldproject
    @whitrunyon
    @graceandsalt
    @torihopepeterson
    @familyandcoffee
    @goodsandbetterstore
    @fosterthefamilyblog
    Find all of the episodes and show notes at https://www.mendingfamilieswa.com/mending-families-podcast
    Where to find Mending Families:
    Instagram - @mendingfamilieswa
    TikTok - @mendingfamilieswa
    Facebook - @mendingfamilieswa
    YouTube - @mendingfamilies1594
    https://www.mendingfamilieswa.com
    34 min
  • 4. Mondays with Melissa - 3 things to consider before becoming a foster parent
    On today’s episode, Melissa shares her personal experiences and advice on one of the topics that she and Cassie discussed during the previous episode…foster parenting.  If you are considering foster care, or even if you are already in a foster home, this episode is for you as Melissa shares 3 things to consider. She also gives some great resources, as well as online and in-person options for yoga that she forgot to mention in the last episode.  As always, if you would like to have more conversation with her, she would love for you to reach out!
    Topics Melissa mentions:
    If you live in the Spokane area, consider volunteering for Spokane Angels or Embrace Washington to get a better understanding of what foster care looks like from the perspective of the foster parents.
    The Connected Child by Karyn Purvis can be purchased HERE
    The Connected Parent by Karyn Pruvis and Lisa Qualls can be purchased HERE
    Listen to the TBRI podcast HERE
    YouTube has great options for you to try out Yoga right from the comfort of your own home.  Here are two of Cassie’s favorites… Yoga with Adriene and Cosmic Kids Yoga
    Cassie also enjoys going to The Union in Spokane and says that Annie is her favorite instructor!
    If you are familiar with the West Plains area of Spokane, here is a new Wholeness Center coming to Cheney in the near future that will be offering allll  the yoga! Check out The Wellness Vault to find out when they open and check out their different class offerings.
    Find all of the show notes at https://www.mendingfamilieswa.com/mending-families-podcast
    Where to find Mending Families:
    Instagram - @mendingfamilieswa
    TikTok - @mendingfamilieswa
    Facebook - @mendingfamilieswa
    YouTube - @mendingfamilies1594
    https://www.mendingfamilieswa.com
    14 min
  • 3. Foster parenting, TBRI and how yoga can help heal with Cassie Day
    On today’s episode, Cassie takes us through what led her family to do foster care and how that ultimately led her to realize that she needed to work on her own personal growth and healing. Cassie has great insight and advice for those considering foster care while also sharing some of the resources she has found helpful both for herself and her kids. This episode is jam packed with so many topics from foster care to EMDR Therapy to yoga with your kids! Enjoy!
    If you are interested in listening to Cassie’s podcast, Agents Unfiltered, you can find it on Instagram, TikTok and listen HERE
    Topics Cassie mentions:
    *Books - The Body Keeps the Score can be purchased HERE
                    Daring Greatly can be purchased HERE
                    The Gifts of Imperfections can be purchased HERE
    *You can learn more about Trust Based Relational Interventions from Melissa (she is a TBRI Practitioner), at the TBRI website child.tcu.edu or listen to the TBRI Podcast HERE
    *All things Brene Brown (and if you know her personally and can coordinate an introduction to Cassie, she would love that!) at https://brenebrown.com/
    **Find FULL SHOW NOTES at my website, https://www.mendingfamilieswa.com/mending-families-podcast
    Where to find Mending Families:
    Instagram - @mendingfamilieswa
    TikTok - @mendingfamilieswa
    Facebook - @mendingfamilieswa
    YouTube - @mendingfamilies1594
    https://www.mendingfamilieswa.com
    29 min
  • 2. Mondays with Melissa - Should we spank?
    On today’s episode, Melissa shares her thoughts on one of the topics that she and Jon discussed during the previous episode…spanking. Yes, it can be controversial, but it doesn’t have to be. Melissa hopes to normalize having conversation about spanking and open mindedness when it comes to alternatives. She shares a few things for those who choose to spank to consider, some alternatives to spanking, and provides some great resources at the end.  Melissa does talk briefly about her own experiences with the church and spanking, but her thoughts and opinions are just that….her thoughts and opinions.  If you would like to have more conversation with her, she would love for you to reach out!
    Topics Melissa mentions:
    Detective Diary to help better understand the needs behind your child’s behaviors can be downloaded HERE
    Mr. Chazz and his amazing Instagram
    The Whole Brain Child by Dan Seigel can be purchased HERE
    The Connected Child by Karyn Purvis can be purchased HERE
    **Find FULL SHOW NOTES at my website, https://www.mendingfamilieswa.com/mending-families-podcast
    Where to find Mending Families:
    Instagram - @mendingfamilieswa
    TikTok - @mendingfamilieswa
    Facebook - @mendingfamilieswa
    https://www.mendingfamilieswa.com
    22 min
  • 1. Dads, fear-based discipline, and the importance of growth with Jon Pemberton
    On today’s episode, Jon shares his feelings about becoming a dad “overnight” when he married Melissa. His perspective on how he thought he would parent shifted when he was able to learn more about how discipline affects kids and that there are other options to discipline that encourage healthier emotional intelligence. Jon touches on corporal punishment and how he came to a place that he realized he could never spank his children which then led him on a mission to help educate other families about the importance of connected parenting approaches. Listen to the very end as Jon gives us three great resources to tap into to help us learn parenting strategies that will help us raise our children to be emotionally intelligent adults.
    If you are at all interested in the hobby of collecting sports memorabilia, check out Jon’s instagram @cardboardpreacher.
    Topics Jon mentions:
    Parent coach he follows on Instagram - BrookLynne Dukes @brookelynndukes
    Author and resource for better understanding the effects of corporal punishment - Victor Veith www.zeroabuseproject.org and you can find his books on Amazon as well.
    **Find FULL SHOW NOTES at my website, https://www.mendingfamilieswa.com/mending-families-podcast
    Where to find Mending Families:
    Instagram - @mendingfamilieswa
    TikTok - @mendingfamilieswa
    Facebook - @mendingfamilieswa
    https://www.mendingfamilieswa.com
    29 min
  • Introducing Mending Families

    Are you in the trenches of parenting kids from adversity and trauma? Do you find yourself wondering why the "typical parenting strategies" are not working for your family? That those strategies seem to make matters worse? Are you a friend or family member of someone parenting kids from hard and you just don't know how to help? In fact, maybe you don't even fully understand why the struggle is so real for them? Are you a professional, teacher, therapist, social worker, or advocate that wants to better understand how trauma is effecting the kids you are working with? Then this podcast is for you...for all of you! We all have kids in our lives who have (or are going to) experienced trauma and the reality is, trauma does affect child development, emotional regulation, brain development and so much more. So let's dig in to better understanding trauma. Let's have real talk about how hard it is to parent kids whoo have experienced trauma, especially if we are still doing our own healing of trauma. Let's not be afraid to talk about trauma, parenting and the healing journey we are all on!  Remember, trauma awareness is important for our future generations and it starts with you!

    Find more about Mending Families at https://www.mendingfamilieswa.com, and also on Instagram (@mendingfamilieswa), TikTok (@mendingfamilieswa) and Facebook (@mendingfamilieswa).

    2 min

About Mending Families

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Mending Families is hosted by Melissa Pemberton and she brings you weekly content that is a mix of trauma aware interviews, parenting sessions tips for those caring for kids from adversity, and…