Fences are good- good for privacy, good for personal time and good for protection. To love someone is to love their fence.

 To love their fence is to allow them space- space to back away, space to hide, space to process and space to find their own convictions on life and faith. 

To push through the fence either causes offence that results in a stronger fence of defence, or for some, leads to broken fences and no fences.