#258: Men’s Work: Facing Your Darkness and Finding Freedom with Connor Beaton

Themes: Masculinity, Emotions, Vulnerability, Relationships, Men’s Work, Self-Worth, Purpose, Pornography

Summary: 

Today I’m chatting with one of my good friends, Connor Beaton. Connor is the founder of ManTalks, an international organization dedicated to men's wellness, success, and fulfillment. Connor is a coach, facilitator, teacher, podcast host, and speaker who helps men from all over the world find purpose, healthy love, a joy-filled life, and fulfilling sexual connection. His teachings draw from an in-depth apprenticeship in Jungian psychology, Gestalt, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, and both Buddhist and Taoist traditions. 

Known for his no-nonsense approach and compassionate understanding of human limitations, Connor has coached thousands of men through private coaching, group work, workshops, retreats, and masterminds. He has also shared the stage with renowned speakers like Gary Vaynerchuk, Lewis Howes, and Danielle LaPorte.

Tune in for a free-flowing conversation where we jam on the challenges men face today, masculinity, turning towards our pain, and his new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom.

Discover:

Our thoughts on why toxic masculinity manifests

Why emotional suppression is so common for men in our culture today

The healing that is being asked of men right now

The value of an initiatory process as young men

Why turning towards your pain is necessary in order to find freedom and be the man you want to be

Why porn has become an addiction for many and its effect on relationships

00:00 Intro 

04:12 The men’s movement

06:10 Emotionality in men

12:00 Toxic masculinity

16:28 Hurt people hurt people

25:41 Men and vulnerability

33:44 Healing the divide between men and women

49:09 Men’s work

54:42 A relationship with something bigger than yourself

59:20 “I don’t trust men…”

1:05:19 You don’t need to hit rock bottom to change

1:13:53 There’s more to it than vulnerability

1:22:51 What fulfilling relationships require

1:28:00 Being present

1:31:27 Pornography

1:42:49 Impact of pornography on relationships

1:46:18 Healing a porn addiction

Links:

Website | mantalks.com

Instagram | @mantalks

Book | Men's Work, A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom

Podcast | ManTalks

Sponsors:

Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com

Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices