In the aftermath of high profile Black female athletes, Naomi Osaka and Simone Biles, taking a step back to focus on their mental health, the conversation of choosing self over the expectations of others is coming to the forefront.

And I am here for it.

Although many applauded these young women for having the courage to be transparent about their struggle, the critics and haters showed up, too. Per usual, we witnessed the vitriol combined with racism and misogyny on the one place we’ve come to expect hate to show up.

On social media. Can you feel my eye roll?

While social media can be a great space for entertainment, to connect, learn and find encouragement, it is also a source of stress for many. Social media doesn’t just impact the well-known; the everyday person can find social media is a powerful force that affects their mental health. In fact, various studies show the link between heavy social media usage and the increased risk for depression, anxiety, loneliness and even suicidal thoughts. It’s not just negative comments, bullying or a lack of “likes” that can cause harm. For some people, simply viewing the “highlights” of others leads to comparison, creating a sense of inadequacy about their own life — or appearance. Add on top of these issues, the videos of trauma we regularly witness on our feeds; it’s too much, sis.

So let’s talk about how to take care of our mental health when it comes to social media and signs we need to take a break from FB, Twitter or the ‘Gram.

Today we chop it up with Nadirah Habeebullah, LMFT, of Healing Her Trauma. She weighs in on how our social media use affects our well-being, why we should create boundaries as we use social media, the false ideas our feeds ‘feed’ us and more.