MentalityWithEbuka

In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu is joined by co-host Banky Wellington, alongside medical doctor, health advocate and digital creator Aproko Doctor, for a deeply insightful conversation on addiction and the hidden ways men cope with pressure, pain and emotional overwhelm.

The discussion explores how addiction, whether to alcohol, drugs, gambling, work, sex, social media, success, or validation, often hides beneath the surface of male coping mechanisms. For many men, addiction is not always loud or obvious; sometimes, it looks like overworking, emotional avoidance, chasing constant approval, or using substances and distractions to escape unresolved pain.

Against the backdrop of Nigeria’s growing substance abuse challenge, with about 14.4% of Nigerians aged 15–64 reportedly using drugs, nearly three times the global average, the episode examines addiction not simply as a moral failure, but as a response to pressure, silence, trauma, loneliness, and the expectations placed on men to “be strong” without support.

Together, the conversation unpacks the relationship between masculinity and escapism, the shame that prevents men from seeking help, and the importance of recovery, accountability, honesty, and healthier coping systems. The episode also challenges men to confront the things they run to when they are unable to speak about what they are running from.

Connect with the Hosts:

• Ebuka – Instagram, X
• Banky W – Instagram
• Aproko Doctor – Instagram
• MENtality Podcast – Instagram

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MENtality With Ebuka is a production of Knight & Sheriff and EME.

In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu is joined by co-host Banky Wellington, alongside comedy icon and media entrepreneur Ali Baba and entrepreneur Samuel Otigba, for a deeply reflective conversation on grief and emotional suppression among men.

The discussion examines how men are often conditioned to internalize pain, despite experiencing profound losses, whether through bereavement, relationships, identity shifts, or missed opportunities. The episode unpacks how this silence shapes emotional wellbeing and long-term mental health outcomes for men across Nigeria and the broader African context.

Grief is not a weakness, it is a human experience. This episode challenges long-held beliefs about masculinity and calls for a cultural shift toward emotional openness, healthier coping mechanisms, and redefining what it truly means to be strong as a man.

Connect with the Hosts:
 • Ebuka – Instagram, X
• Banky W – Instagram
• MENtality Podcast – Instagram

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MENtality With Ebuka is a production of Knight & Sheriff and EME.

Boys today are growing up in a world very different from what many adults knew. In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, Host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu and Co-Host Banky W are joined by IK Osakioduwa, the MD of Lite Radio, and Host and Co-host of “Menisms” Podcast, Sonariwo On Deck and Murewa to explore how gaming, social media, isolation, online dating, and rising incel culture are shaping young boys.

Why are so many boys struggling quietly? Who and what are they listening to? And what do they actually need from the men and families around them?

MENtality with Ebuka is a production of The She Tank Studios and EME.

Connect with the Hosts:
 • Ebuka – Instagram, X
• Banky W – Instagram, X
• MENtality Podcast – Instagram

 Listen & Subscribe:

  • YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/@Ebuka

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Becoming a father changes a man in ways few people talk about. In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, Host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu and Co-Host Banky W are joined by Artiste, Timi Dakolo and Dancer, Actor, Influencer, Hermes Iyele for an honest conversation about fatherhood – what shapes it, what challenges it, and what it demands.

How did their own upbringing influence the fathers they’re becoming? What does being present truly look like today? And how do men balance discipline, love, emotional safety, sacrifice, and the everyday pressures of raising children?

A grounded conversation about the realities of modern fatherhood  and how men can approach it with intention.

MENtality with Ebuka is a production of The She Tank Studios and EME.

Connect with the Hosts:
 • Ebuka – Instagram, X
• Banky W – Instagram, X
• MENtality Podcast – Instagram

 Listen & Subscribe:

  • YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/@Ebuka

 • Apple Podcasts – Link

 • Spotify – Link

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In this special episode of MENtality with Ebuka, Ebuka Obi-Uchendu sits with Co-Host Banky Wellington and Creative Consultant & Music Executive Alexander Ikemefuna for an honest, vulnerable, and deeply reflective conversation about male friendships – how they form, why they break, and the unspoken emotional world men rarely discuss.

From growing through boyhood labels and early rivalries, to ego, loyalty, distance, marriage, vulnerability, and the quiet ways men show love, the trio unpack the joys and complexities of male friendships.

MENtality with Ebuka is a production of The She Tank Studios and EME.

Connect with the Hosts:
 • Ebuka – Instagram, X
• Banky W – Instagram, X
• MENtality Podcast – Instagram

 Listen & Subscribe:

  • YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/@Ebuka

 • Apple Podcasts – Link

 • Spotify – Link

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In this follow-up of the relationship episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu, Co-Host Banky Wellington are joined by Creative Consultant & Music Executive Alexander Ikemefuna, and Singer-Songwriter Johnny Drille  for an honest, thought-provoking conversation about marriage, manhood, and the pressures that come with both.

From why and when men choose to marry to the fear of commitment, financial expectations, and the weight of cultural and family pressure, the group reflects on how men today navigate love, relationships, and identity — and the ways upbringing and faith could  shape how men show up in relationships.

MENtality with Ebuka is a production of The She Tank Studios and EME.

Connect with the Hosts:
  • Ebuka – Instagram, X
• Banky W – Instagram, X
• MENtality Podcast – Instagram

 Listen & Subscribe:

  • YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/@Ebuka

 • Apple Podcasts – Link

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Join the Conversation:
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In the second episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu, Co-Host Banky Wellington are joined by Entertainer Bovi Ugboma  and Media Entrepreneur Do2dtun “Energy gAD”  for an unfiltered,  hilarious, and deeply honest conversation about heartbreak, gender roles, submission, cheating, and the evolving shape of modern relationships.

From their first heartbreaks to questions about monogamy, the “provider” myth, and what it really means to lead or love in 2025, the men hold nothing back.

MENtality with Ebuka is a production of The She Tank Studios and EME.

Connect with the Hosts:
 • Ebuka – Instagram, X
• Banky W – Instagram, X
• MENtality Podcast – Instagram

 Listen & Subscribe:

  • YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/@Ebuka

 • Apple Podcasts – Link

 • Spotify – Link

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In the first episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka-Obi Uchendu and Co-Host Banky Wellington sit with Artist & Activist Seun Anikulapo-Kuti and Creative Entrepreneur Noble Igwe for a brutally honest conversation about money—how it shapes men, pressures men, defines men, and often breaks men.

From the expectations placed on boys from childhood, to the pressure to provide, the rise of betting culture, the glorification of wealth, and the fear of appearing unsuccessful, this episode digs into the financial weight Nigerian men silently carry every day.

MENtality with Ebuka is a production of The She Tank Studios and EME.

Connect with the Hosts:
 • Ebuka – Instagram, X
• Banky W – Instagram, X
• MENtality Podcast – Instagram

Listen & Subscribe:
 • YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/@Ebuka

Join the Conversation:
 • Use #MENtalityWithEbuka
 • Rate & Review the show