Most of our parents were already married and have kids by the time they were in their 40s, but here we are, still wondering if the person we like likes us back, if the 'date' we had over the weekend was really a date or 'just coffee', or if it's really normal for a busy person to take a week before responding to our text, and so many more! Joining us in this conversation are three single men in their early, mid, and late 40s who share their thoughts and views on this subject. This episode gives us a peek into male perspectives and helps us understand how they approach dating in their 40s. This episode requires a big-portion meryenda because a lot of tea will be spilled!

Timestamps:

00:14 A little chit chat

01:12 Tina's hair and our episode topic

04:24 Meet our guests or searchers

06:59 Our meryenda

09:32 Let's define Dating

11:47 Let’s define the Relationship. Or not?

17:29 When was your relationship?

18:49 Was it a conscious decision to stay single?

24:23 Where are you looking for dates?

28:38 Preferences, essentials, and non-negotiables

36:02 Exploring dating apps

37:31 Have your preferences changed along the years?

46:55 Reflections on why we’re still single

57:43 TOTGA - The One That Got Away

01:01:08 Usapang Exes

01:11:34 Wrap up

Feel free to slide into their Instagram DMs:

Clark: @clarenceesber

Dating apps mentioned: (Not sponsored)
https://www.catholicmatch.com/
https://www.okcupid.com/

https://coffeemeetsbagel.com/

https://bumble.com/

https://tinder.com/

Relationship tools mentioned:

Love Languages: http://5lovelanguages.com

Attachment theory: https://youtu.be/Qa11KTYzDdw?si=w71xQz90IVaP6RUo

Disclaimer:

Please know that we are not licensed therapists. If you are experiencing serious emotional or mental issues, we urge you to seek professional help. Here's a good place to start if you’re in the Philippines: ⁠https://mentalhealthph.org/⁠

Connect with us:

Facebook: ⁠http://facebook.com/meryendatherapy⁠

Instagram: ⁠http://instagram.com/meryendatherapy⁠

Music by Arrigo Martelli

For feedback and/or topic suggestions, email us at [email protected]⁠.

This is an independently produced podcast. You can help support us by buying us meryenda. :) https://buymeacoffee.com/meryendatherapy

New beginnings, especially in our 40s, can be uncomfortable and daunting — but it's all worth it! Joining us in this episode are Jen and Maan, who both made the decision to leave their stable and comfortable life in Manila and Singapore, to start again in Canada. We talk about how their journey started, how it's going now, the challenges and successes they've made in their new environment. This meryenda session hopes to give encouragement and share some tips and 'hacks' they learned along their journey, that might be useful to other people who are about to embark on their own 'new beginning'.

In this pilot episode of Meryenda Therapy, we talk about what Carl Jung said: “Life really does begin at 40. Up until then, you are just doing research.” Joining us are our friends Mae and Bhevz, two amazing women in their 40s and late 30s who share their thoughts on this quote and the apprehensions and impressions many of us might have experienced approaching our 40s. It’s a fun first meryenda session so join us with your favorite meryenda!

Topics include:

Disclaimer:

Please know that we are not licensed therapists. If you are experiencing serious emotional or mental issues, we urge you to seek professional help. Here's a good place to start if you’re in the Philippines: https://mentalhealthph.org/

Connect with us:

Facebook: http://facebook.com/meryendatherapy

Instagram: http://instagram.com/meryendatherapy

Music by Arrigo Martelli

Please rate our episode and/or send us feedback or topic suggestions.

Email: [email protected]

This is an independently produced podcast. You can help support us by buying us meryenda. :) https://buymeacoffee.com/meryendatherapy

Presenting our podcast where we celebrate our 40s one meryenda at a time.

Connect with us:

Facebook: http://facebook.com/meryendatherapy

Instagram: http://instagram.com/meryendatherapy

Music by Arrigo Martelli

Please rate our episode and/or send us feedback or topic suggestions.

Email: [email protected]

Wanna buy us meryenda? https://buymeacoffee.com/meryendatherapy