What if your marriage doesn't need a new person? What if it needs two people willing to become new versions of themselves, intentionally choosing each other, over and over?  

That's the question at the heart of my conversation with Kameran Alareqi, a Gottman Certified marriage coach, host of the Married and Connected podcast, and founder of the Recognizing Potential Coaching Program.

Kameran doesn't talk about marriage from a textbook. She's lived through infidelity, infertility, divorce, and ultimately reconciliation with her husband. And what she discovered is that rebuilding a marriage isn't necessarily about going back to what you had. Sometimes it's about creating something neither of you has ever had before.

In this conversation, we go much deeper than communication tips and marriage advice. We talk about identity, childhood patterns, pride, friendship, resentment, humility, and what it really takes to change the person you're bringing into a relationship.

We also explore a question I think many people quietly wrestle with: When is fighting for your marriage an act of courage, and when does it become self-abandonment?

Kameran shares what reconciliation actually required, how she learned to take responsibility for her own transformation, and what it can look like to fall in love with the same person again, not by recreating the old marriage, but by intentionally building a new one.

If you've ever wondered whether people can really change, whether a disconnected marriage can become a connected one again, or whether it's possible to find your way back to the person sitting across the table, this conversation is for you.

Because sometimes the question isn't, "Do I need a different marriage?" It's, "Am I willing to become the person who can build the marriage I want?"

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Anxiety doesn't always arrive with racing thoughts or panic attacks.

Sometimes it shows up as perfectionism. People pleasing. Constant overthinking. Staying busy so you never have to slow down long enough to notice how exhausted you've become.

It quietly convinces us to stop taking chances, stop trusting ourselves, and settle for surviving instead of truly living.

This week on Message in the Middle, Marianne sits down with registered psychotherapist, internationally certified EMDR therapist, expressive arts educator, and author Elke Scholz for an honest conversation about reclaiming your life from anxiety.

Drawing from more than thirty years of clinical experience and her own personal journey with anxiety, Elke shares practical, compassionate tools that help people move from fear toward confidence without waiting until anxiety disappears.

Together they explore:

• The subtle signs of anxiety many people never recognize

• Why workplace stress feels heavier than ever

• How overthinking, perfectionism, and people pleasing often mask anxiety

• Why listening to your body may be the first step toward healing

• How creativity can unlock healing in ways words sometimes cannot

• Daily practices that build resilience and emotional freedom

• Why you don't need more time. You need more life inside the time you already have.

If you've been waiting until you feel less anxious before living the life you really want, this conversation is your reminder that you don't have to wait.

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• Website: www.elkescholz.com
• https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYf99EPFC3m01ft5ugIIC-g
• https://www.linkedin.com/in/elke-scholz-a2aa6b17/
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• https://www.instagram.com/lovingyourlife1?igsh=M3hpbWNsb2R2Y29l

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We spend years preparing for retirement. We save, invest, plan for healthcare, and think about how we'll spend our time.

But what about preparing for who we'll be when the work is gone?

What no one tells you about life after work is that retirement isn't simply a change in schedule. It's a change in identity. When the meetings end, the calendar goes quiet, and the role you've spent decades becoming disappears, the freedom you imagined can sometimes feel surprisingly unfamiliar.

In this episode of Message in the Middle, I sit down with Cheryl Fimbel, who spent forty-five years leading healthcare organizations through major change before experiencing an unexpected career transition of her own just before retirement.

That experience led Cheryl to explore the emotional side of retirement that financial planning often overlooks.

We talk about why the first ninety days matter so much, why high achievers can struggle with unstructured time, how grief can show up even when retirement is a choice, and why purpose isn't something you discover overnight. We also explore emotional readiness, relationships, routine, community, and what it takes to begin building a meaningful life after work.

Because the question isn't simply, "What will I do when I retire?"

It's also, "Who am I when I'm no longer doing the work that defined me?"

Whether retirement is years away or already part of your story, this conversation offers a different way to think about the transition and a reminder that the next chapter isn't about replacing who you were.

It's about making space for who you're becoming.

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Crown Years Media Website: https://crownyearsmedia.com

The Hidden Side of Retirement Book on Amazon: https://a.co/d/08hFM0IJ

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What happens when you've achieved everything you thought you wanted, only to discover there's something deeper calling you?

For more than thirty years, Kathy Robinson built an impressive corporate career, rising to become Chief Audit Executive and Chief Risk Officer at a Fortune 250 company. Then, at the height of her success, she made the courageous decision to walk away. What followed wasn't the end of her story. It was the beginning of a profound transformation.

In this thoughtful conversation, Kathy shares the inspiration behind her new book, Walking with the Sage: A Story of Leaving Everything to Find More, and explores why midlife isn't a crisis to survive, but an invitation to become more fully ourselves. Together, we talk about identity, reinvention, aging with intention, and the wisdom that often emerges when we're willing to slow down and listen.

If you've ever wondered whether your best years are behind you, or if there's still another chapter waiting to be written, this episode offers hope, practical insight, and a gentle reminder that the answers you're searching for may already be within you.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• Why major life transitions are invitations for growth rather than signs of failure

• What it means to be "in the goo" and why the messy middle is where transformation begins

• How nature and stillness help us reconnect with our inner wisdom

• The difference between living as a warrior and living as a sage

• Practical ways to navigate uncertainty with greater self-trust and authenticity

• Why your most meaningful chapter may still be ahead

Whether you're navigating a career change, an empty nest, retirement, or simply feeling called toward something more meaningful, this conversation will leave you feeling grounded, encouraged, and inspired to trust your own path.

Because sometimes the bravest journey isn't climbing higher. It's having the courage to come home to yourself.

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For years, Nancy Deyo lived by the same rules many of us have been taught to follow: work hard, stay disciplined, push through discomfort, and keep going.

Those strategies helped her build a successful career as a Silicon Valley CEO. But after a medical crisis on Mount Kilimanjaro left her living with chronic pain, years of misdiagnosis, opioid dependence, and an entirely different reality than the one she had planned, she was forced to ask a difficult question:

What do we do when the strategies that made us successful stop working?

In this deeply honest conversation, Nancy shares what it was like to grieve the loss of the life she expected, navigate years of being told nothing was wrong, redefine resilience, and learn that perseverance doesn't always mean pushing harder.

Together, we explore what it means to stop fighting for the person you used to be and begin building a life that honors who you are now.

Whether you're navigating chronic illness, burnout, caregiving, grief, retirement, or simply discovering that the old rules no longer fit, this episode is an invitation to consider a different path forward.

Because sometimes resilience isn't about enduring more.

Sometimes it's about learning to listen.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Living with chronic pain and medical uncertainty
• The emotional impact of being dismissed or misunderstood
• Opioid dependence and recovery
• Grieving a former version of yourself
• Acceptance versus giving up
• Slowing down and redefining success
• Reinvention in midlife
• What resilience looks like when pushing harder no longer works
• Lessons from Nancy's forthcoming memoir, Perilous Ascent

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• Substack Life Inside Pain: https://nancydeyo.substack.com
• Website: https://nancydeyo.com

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What happens when the person who once cared for you begins to need your care?

For many people in midlife, one of the most unexpected transitions isn't retirement, an empty nest, or a career change. It's becoming the caregiver for an aging parent.

In this deeply moving episode of Message in the Middle, Marianne sits down with psychologist, memoirist, and poet Sarah Vosburgh to discuss her memoir, Who Will Name the Bees?, a powerful reflection on her mother's journey through Alzheimer's disease and her own experience navigating the emotional realities of caregiving.

Together they explore:

• The moment a daughter becomes a caregiver
• The complicated emotions of loving someone through Alzheimer's
• Guilt, grief, and the weight of making difficult decisions
• The role reversal that happens when parents begin to depend on their children
• What remains when memory begins to fade
• The invisible emotional labor caregivers carry
• How writing became part of Sarah's healing journey
• Resilience, family dynamics, and finding meaning through loss

Through lyrical storytelling and honest reflection, Sarah offers a compassionate look at one of life's most challenging experiences while reminding us that connection, love, and identity often endure long after memories begin to disappear.

Whether you're caring for an aging parent, grieving a loved one, navigating dementia or Alzheimer's, or simply trying to make sense of a changing family relationship, this conversation will leave you feeling seen, understood, and a little less alone.

Connect with Sarah Vosburgh:

• Website: https://www.SarahVosburgh.com
• Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/SarahVosburghAuthor
• Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/scvosburgh
• X: http://x.com/SCVosburgh
• TikTok: http://tiktok.com/SarahVosburghAuthor
• Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/author/sarahvosburgh

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Some questions don't have easy answers.

Have you ever experienced an unexplained fear that didn't seem connected to anything in your life? Felt an immediate connection with someone you had just met? Or found yourself repeating the same emotional patterns despite years of self-reflection and personal growth?

In this follow-up conversation, Marianne welcomes licensed somatic psychotherapist and certified spiritual integration hypnotherapist Melanie Smithson back to Message in the Middle to explore a topic that invites curiosity more than certainty: past-life regression and the possibility that some of our present-day struggles may have roots beyond this lifetime.

Whether you approach this conversation through a spiritual lens, a symbolic one, or with healthy skepticism, Melanie offers thoughtful insights into why some experiences seem resistant to traditional explanations and how exploring them can sometimes open the door to deeper healing.

Together, they discuss:

•  What past-life regression actually is 
•  Why some fears and emotional patterns seem to have no obvious origin 
•  Soul connections and why certain relationships feel instantly familiar 
•  How the body and spirit may work together in healing 
•  The role curiosity plays in personal growth 
•  Why some of life's biggest questions don't always have simple answers 

This isn't an episode about convincing you what to believe.

It's an invitation to stay curious.

Connect with Melanie:  http://www.smithsonclinic.com/

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Why do we keep reacting in ways we don't fully understand? Why do certain situations seem to hit harder than they should? And why can we have years of insight into our patterns and still feel stuck repeating them?

In this episode of Message in the Middle, Marianne sits down with Karen Rubinstein, speaker, author, and creator of The RETURN Way™, to explore the hidden fears and stories that often drive our reactions, relationships, and behaviors.

Drawing from her own journey through alcoholism, recovery, trauma healing, and personal transformation, Karen shares how she discovered that most of what we call stress isn't actually about the moment we're living through. It's about the meaning our nervous system attached to experiences long ago.

Together, Marianne and Karen discuss:

• Why insight alone doesn't always create change

• The difference between self-awareness and self-judgment

• How shame keeps us stuck in familiar patterns

• What survival mode can look like in high-functioning women

• Why emotional intelligence is more practical than most people realize

• The shift from self-improvement to self-alignment

• How naming our fears begins to loosen their grip

If you've ever wondered why certain emotional triggers keep showing up, why healing feels harder than simply trying harder, or why you still struggle with patterns you thought you'd outgrown, this conversation offers both understanding and hope.

Because real transformation doesn't begin with becoming someone new. It begins with understanding who you've been all along.

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• https://www.karenrubinstein.com
• https://substack.com/@karenrubinsteinoutloud
• https://www.karenrubinstein.com/the-return-way

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What happens after you speak up?

In this deeply thoughtful conversation, Marianne sits down with broadcaster, author, and keynote speaker Lisa Cornwell to explore truth, conflict, accountability, emotional healing, and the complicated aftermath that can follow when someone chooses to speak openly.

Following her memoir Troublemaker: A Memoir of Sexism, Retaliation, & the Fight They Didn’t See Coming and a Washington Post investigation into systemic issues in sports media, Lisa became a central figure in a national conversation about workplace culture and retaliation. But what makes this conversation so compelling is not just what happened publicly. It’s what happened internally afterward.

Together, Marianne and Lisa explore the difference between being right and being effective, the emotional exhaustion of constantly defending yourself, the survival skills high-achieving women often have to unlearn, and the life-changing power of self-awareness.

They also discuss emotional regulation, communication with intention, healing after conflict, making peace with being misunderstood, and what it means to stop living in a constant state of defense.

This episode is thoughtful, emotionally honest, nuanced, and incredibly relevant to the cultural moment we’re living in.

If you’ve ever struggled with speaking up, questioned whether the fallout was worth it, or found yourself trying to rebuild peace after difficult experiences changed you, this conversation will resonate deeply.

Connect with Lisa: https://www.lisacornwell.com

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What happens when we slow down long enough to truly see another human being?

In this deeply thoughtful episode of Message in the Middle, Marianne sits down with Jody Zarn, an author, corporate trainer, and TEDx speaker whose life changed after buying a cup of coffee for a man named Leroy who was experiencing homelessness.

What began as one small act of kindness became a life-changing friendship that challenged everything Jody thought she understood about trauma, mental illness, dignity, and human connection. As she slowly earned Leroy’s trust, she discovered a man whose story, intelligence, pain, and humanity were far more layered than the labels people placed on him.

Together, Marianne and Jody explore the emotional tension between helping and rescuing, the invisible ways trauma shapes us all, and why so many people today are quietly carrying the ache of feeling unseen.

This conversation is emotional, nuanced, hopeful, and a reminder that every human being has a story beneath the surface.

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• https://www.jodyzarn.com
• https://mybook.to/JodyZarn

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