By Karlee Fain
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What do you do when you don’t know what to do…next?
Especially when you're the "together one in your circle, " people count on you...
Uncertainty, for many of us, feels uncomfortable.
But the in-between is far from a liminal space where we wait or try to force action. It’s an important phase that offers us something very rich indeed… the gift of simplicity.
This week, Karlee unveils the wisdom of learning to live into the questions that simplify our thoughts and clarify our next steps.
In this episode, you’ll hear how people experiencing the challenges of feeling checked out or in a fog reclaim purpose and lean into the richness of uncertainty. By asking themselves good questions, they could take that 3% step forward in their relationships, health, and career. You’ll learn the importance of honing your focus on the doable stuff so you can begin to embrace the fog as an opportunity for growth in all areas of your life.
If you’re ready to make things more doable and thrive in the face of big questions, then this episode is for you.
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Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Book: Letters to a Young Poet by Rainer Maria Rilke
Book: Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Warren Buffet
Steve Jobs
Brené Brown
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How do you see yourself in this moment?
Are you a person who’s working hard to become successful? Are you taking painting classes on weekends to become an artist? Are you a person with a lukewarm temper who wants to become someone who approaches life with a little more grace and forgiveness?
What have you been wanting to be that you could just decide, right now, that you are?
This week, Karlee shares stories of transformation that didn’t take years or decades to achieve. Simply by making the decision in the moment to see things differently, change happens.
In this episode, you’ll learn how instantaneous shifts in perspective can change how we see ourselves and how we view the world around us. You’ll hear the inspiring stories of people who dared to pause and, just by taking that moment to reconsider, were able to recalibrate how they view themselves and others. You’ll also learn how to be that version of yourself you’ve been waiting to become, right now.
If you’re ready to make the brave choice to “be”, instead of waiting to “become”, then this is the episode for you.
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Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert
“Hope” poem by Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer
How to Love the World: Poems of Gratitude and Hope by James Crews
Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries: The Gateway to Authentic Living with Karlee Fain and Maria Sirois
Dirt Gems by Anne Louise Burdett
Episode 35: Trust Your Knowing
Episode 123: When Tradition Lays a Trap
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Suzi Banks Baum
Polly Hatfield
Maria Sirois
Anne Louise Burdett
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Life is like a… Venn diagram.
Yes, in our best times it’s also like a delicious box of dark chocolates. But in today’s episode, we’re pointing to something more specific: the career, health, and relationship trifecta.
It’s what we call the “Big 3”.
We all strive for a thriving career, vibrant health, and life-giving relationships. The thing we don’t realize is that there’s a point at which they all intersect.
If your work-life mojo is in sync, then these 3 areas of life can actually help support each other.
This week, Karlee helps you map out the current state of your Big 3 so you can recognize how, and where, to find support when one area needs attention.
In this episode, you’ll learn how to create kinship between life, work, and your relationships. You’ll gain access to a simple exercise that will help you Venn diagram your Big 3, so you can find the support you need by leveraging what's already good. You’ll also learn how to make these areas work regeneratively so they become allies to one another.
If you’re ready to evaluate your mojo AND appreciate what’s already working, then this is the episode for you.
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Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
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People Mentioned in this Episode:
Kimberly Blaeser: Learn more and support her work here: https://www.kblaeser.org/
About Standing (in Kinship) poem by Kimberley Blaeser: https://www.poetryoutloud.org/poem/about-standing-in-kinship/
Kamala Harris Venn diagram and human rights: https://www.yahoo.com/news/m-going-confess-love-venn-144616746.html
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In the span of your day, how often do you get sidetracked by the unexpected?
You’re super focused on a work project, and then wham!! An attention-grabbing subject line lands in your inbox and, well, it’ll just take a minute. Or you’re watching your kid’s basketball game and your pocket vibrates. Curiosity gets the better of you and before you know it, you’re swept into a work issue that pulls your attention away from the court.
Those “little” things that interrupt our days and our thought processes can often completely take over our plans.
Having a solid and supported system in place to face those distractions head-on is the only way to regain autonomy over your time.
This week, Karlee helps you discover a way to hone your focus and dial in your discernment so you can decipher when it's necessary to change plans or simply say “no, thank you”.
In this episode, you’ll learn how to reframe the distractions you come up against in your work and personal life so that you can prioritize what matters most. You’ll learn how to keep control of the wheel and not be led off course, especially when the unexpected doesn’t support you in the direction you want to go. And you’ll learn how to build a plan that binds you to your best choices.
If you’re ready to stop feeling pulled and start making choices that support who you want to be and where you want to go, this is the episode for you.
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Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Episode 161: The Sinkhole Effect | What to do when good people have you feeling bad
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Kurt Vonnegut: https://www.vonnegutlibrary.org/
Maria Sirois: https://www.mariasirois.com/
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Is there someone in your life who, as much as you care about them, often leaves you feeling not so good?
Whether it’s a friend, a family member, a coworker, or anyone for that matter, the energy exchange you get from your encounters leaves you feeling drained.
It’s like every time you meet, you descend a little bit deeper into an emotional sinkhole. And you have to spend the time between pulling yourself out of it before the inevitable next encounter.
The tricky part is that you know they aren’t bad people. They’re just in their own world right now, focused on their own things, unable to see how their actions affect you or your organization.
These situations can feel exhausting and be challenging to navigate. But they aren’t impossible.
This week, Karlee explains how the “sinkhole effect” works and how it affects our relationships with others. Toughing it out through these sticky situations isn’t good for anyone, and it’s a drain on your precious energy reserves.
In this episode, you’ll learn what it feels like to be in a sinkhole situation through real-life examples of people who have successfully navigated their way through one - without making things worse in the process. You’ll learn a simple exercise that will help you understand the emotional cost-benefit of keeping things the way they are versus instigating change, and where to start if change needs to happen.
If you’re ready to give yourself some grace and stop doing the energetic heavy lifting, then this episode is for you.
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Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Book: The Power of Full Engagement: Managing Energy, Not Time, Is the Key to High Performance and Personal Renewal by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz
Book: The Joy of Leadership: How Positive Psychology Can Maximize Your Impact (and Make You Happier) in a Challenging World by Angus Ridgway and Tal Ben-Shahar
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Shame is a trickster.
It can sneak up on us at the worst moments, kick us when we’re down, and make us feel inferior to others.
But here in the Messy & Magnificent community, we’ve got a trick up our sleeves that can rival that ol’ dog we call shame…
It’s recognizing what you’ve already done well already.
Recognizing your strengths can snuff out the self-judgment so you can let yourself off the hook and start to focus on getting resourced for what’s next.
This week, Karlee reveals that shameful trickster behind the curtain, showing you how to extinguish the insecurities you feel now and instead, acknowledge the strength and determination that got you where you are today.
In this episode, you’ll discover why shame creeps up on all of us, and you’ll hear the familiar untruths it leaves in its wake. You’ll hear real-life examples of high-achievers who are battling the shame game and learn how to build up your gratitude as a feel-good defense mechanism to instantly shift your mindset.
First, gratitude for how well you’ve done with what you’ve had. Then, it’s the right time to seek the knowledge and resources you need to move forward.
If you’re ready to release the weight of shame, guilt, and self-judgement, and feel genuine gratitude for the “you” that got you here, and THEN focus on what’s next, then this episode is for you!
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Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Join us next year for the Navigating Change Workshop (note: the 2025 dates for this program will update soon - email [email protected] if you want us to let you now when enrollment officially opens)
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Maria Sirois
Prentice Hemphill
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Ever fall down the slide of rumination? Or get caught in a downward mental spiral that kicks you will you’re down?
Whether it’s a career setback, an emotional hurdle, or a broken bone that seems like it’s taking forever to heal, you just can’t seem to get out from under that cloud of negativity.
You know it's time for a shift, but “unicorn and fairy dust” levels of positivity don’t feel true.
Have you thought about going neutral?
This week, Karlee reminds us of a middle ground- a place between the emotional poles that can hold us when we’re in the in-between space. A place where we can allow ourselves to wander, and perhaps even our minds a new path to walk towards a genuinely more hopeful next moment.
In this episode, you’ll learn that when things feel challenging or when we’re not at our best, there’s more than just positive and negative to choose from. You’ll come away with two simple and pragmatic first steps that will help you shift your less helpful thoughts into something better, but not something that feels unrealistic or dishonest.
If you’re ready to embrace neutral when nothing else seems to fit and create space for a little more wonder in your life, then this episode is for you.
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Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Bai, Y., Ocampo, J., Jin, G., Chen, S., Benet-Martinez, V., Monroy, M., Anderson, C., & Keltner, D. (2021). Awe, daily stress, and elevated life satisfaction. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 120(4), 837–860. https://doi.org/10.1037/pspa0000267
Positive Emotions Broaden and Build, Barbara Fredrickson, University of North Carolina
The neural correlates of the awe experience: Reduced default mode network activity during feelings of awe. Michiel van Elk 1 2 , M Andrea Arciniegas Gomez 1 , Wietske van der Zwaag 2 3 , Hein T van Schie, Disa Sauter
https://philosophybreak.com/articles/iris-murdoch-unselfing-is-crucial-for-living-a-good-life/ Iris Murdoch (1919 - 1999) was an Irish-British philosopher
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Ethan Kross: https://www.ethankross.com/
Iris Murdoch: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Iris_Murdoch
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Nature works in phases, rhythms, and cyclical patterns. This is essential for achieving balance and harmony.
So when things are feeling particularly heavy or difficult, for you, for someone close to you, or someone in your organization, then it makes sense for us to take a cue from nature, too.
When we allow ourselves and each other the space to wax and wane as life naturally dictates, it opens up valuable opportunities to co-collaborate.
This week, Karlee shares how you can beautifully navigate situations that require balancing the specific needs of yourself or your organization with the needs of those who might need a little extra space in that moment.
In this episode, you’ll learn why the bigger picture needs don’t have to heel to the needs of the individual while you dig deeper to create more understanding. You’ll be invited to hone in on the specific needs of the organization and focus on what’s truly important when light wanes from one direction. You’ll also begin to flip the default script and recognize that, often, the two sets of needs aren’t in competition, after all.
If you’re ready to masterfully navigate the cyclical patterns of life and work, then this episode is for you.
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Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Article: Leaders Don’t Have to Choose Between Compassion and Performance by Mark Mortensen and Heidi Gardner. Harvard Business Review
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When was the last time you sang at the top of your lungs from the driver's seat of your car or from the privacy of your shower?
When was the last time you felt truly heard by your closest confidants? Or had a deep and meaningful conversation that left you feeling grateful to have such a sympathetic, understanding ear?
Whatever those life-giving things are for you, one thing is probably certain…we all do better when they happen consistently.
This week, Karlee shares a realization about that feeling we get when we’re truly at peace, in total comfort of our surroundings and who we’re surrounded by.
In this episode, you’ll hear what it feels like to embrace natural tranquility and learn how to create awareness so that you can identify when you feel it and when you don’t. You’ll learn how to transform frenetic, anxious energy, even in the midst of chaos, to regain control of your impulse reactions and find your calm center.
If you’re ready to stoke the bonfires of your better living, surrounded by people and experiences that feel life-giving, then this episode is for you.
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Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Article: Developing Executive Presence HBR 2011 by Joshua Ehrlich
Song: James Blunt’s Bonfire Heart
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Maria Sirois
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Is there a conversation that needs to be had, but you’re dreading it - and maybe even avoiding it?
Tough conversations are a part of life. They’re unavoidable. But all of the pent-up anxiety we create around that discomfort doesn’t help the situation feel any easier.
So, what if there was actually a way to simplify the words so that the things we needed to say were quick and definitive, and that could be the end of it?
This week, Karlee reveals why challenging conversations can feel so icky, and how you can start to manage them like a boss in a way that feels kinder and a little more gentle on your conscience.
In this episode, you’ll learn how to create a conversational boundary when you need to tell someone something they’re not going to like. You’ll get a few helpful, definitive scripts that will help you say the thing, and know what to do when there’s pushback. You’ll also learn why saying less is more powerful, and how to hold your ground like one famously fierce boundary pro.
If you’re ready to stand your ground and defend boundaries where they need to be laid, then this is the episode for you.
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Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
YouTube video: The Most Special Panda: Megh Er
Proven Boundary Scripts: What to say and how to say it without blowing things up
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Dr. Maria Sirois
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