By Karlee Fain
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Does the level of uncertainty these days feel like it’s at a perpetual crescendo?
You sure aren’t alone…
If you’re also a voyager on these choppy seas, then like many of us, the pace of unpredictability has you thinking about what, and who, is really important.
And how you can protect it.
This week, Karlee opens up a candid conversation about authenticity, offering a more mature definition of what it means to be authentic in relationships- especially in times of uncertainty.
In this episode, you’ll learn how to approach authenticity in a way that’s reciprocal, serving the needs of others while allowing you to hold true to your values. You’ll learn why authenticity is a two-way street that requires consideration of how we interact with others. And, you’ll hear a powerful prompt that will empower you to hold true to your values in a way that doesn’t cause harm to others.
If you’re ready to anchor into stability through these uncertain times and build stronger, more authentic connections, then this episode is for you.
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Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Kripalu Center for Yoga & Health
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Dr. Maria Sirois
Brené Brown
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Trying to control the choices of others takes up a LOT of space, depleting us of precious energy that could be better spent elsewhere. But you don’t want things to fall apart without you either.
Whether it's a lifestyle choice you don’t agree with, a work ethic that doesn’t seem sustainable from your perspective, or a loved one who isn’t doing what you think they should be doing in a crisis, trying to apply your agenda to someone else’s life is a losing game - for everyone involved.
The trick is learning when to release your grip on others and focusing instead on what you can control….yourself.
This week, Karlee shares practical advice to help you decipher when it makes sense to lean in, and when the best thing to do is to lean back and surrender your agenda.
In this episode, we dive into the liberating shift from trying to influence others to refining our own inner responses. Explore how to recalibrate your boundaries, reclaim your energy, and refocus on what truly matters to you. We’ll share insightful, real-world examples and a straightforward, actionable prompt to help you tap into authentic self-control—leading to a deeper sense of agency and freedom. This episode offers a fresh, strategic perspective for savvy leaders ready to invest energy where it yields the greatest return: within.
If you’re ready to surrender your agenda and reclaim your energy, then this is the episode for you.
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Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Episode 161: The Sinkhole Effect | What to do when good people have you feeling bad
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You’re pulled in a million directions, huh? Gosh, it’s easy to lose a sense of who we are when this happens - but some people have a solution…
Today’s most successful leaders do one very important thing…they know how to “unforget”.
In this episode Karlee dives into the ancient Greek concept of unforgetting, a powerful idea introduced by Socrates himself.
You know those moments when something just clicks, and you feel inspired or clear?
That’s the magic of unforgetting—and it’s not about gaining more; it’s about remembering what’s already there, and there’s a system for helping this happen.
This week, Karlee shares why the unforgetting of who we are is so important and how to de-clutter the external so you can unforget the internal.
You’ll hear how successful leaders are realigning with their inner knowing by taking the time to be “un-influencers”. You’ll also hear actionable prompts to help you make decisions based on what you know to be true for yourself and for those you lead.
If you’re ready to clear the mental clutter and spark clarity by tapping into your inner knowing, this episode is for you.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
On Culmination:
Episode 145: Going Deeper, Not Faster | A Culmination Episode to Bolster Your Wits, Wisdom, and “Enoughness”
Episode 90: Room for Rest: How to Reclaim Your Productive Downtime like a Pro
Episode 73: The Purposeful Pause - How Women Get Colossal Results By Contracting Before We Expand
Kripalu Workshop: Better Boundaries: A Gateway to Authentic Living Nov 15-17th
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Dr. Maria Sirois
Larry Jackson – Associate Dean of Academic Affairs and Philosophy Lecturer at Columbia University
Robyn Hannigan - President of Ursinus College, Geologist
Quotes Mentioned in this Episode:
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Authenticity is the collection of choices that we have to make every day. It's about the choice to show up and be real, the choice to be honest, the choice to let our true selves be seen.” -Brené Brown
“Put your feet on the earth, feel the ground beneath you.” -Robyn Hannigan
“Becoming a leader is synonymous with becoming yourself. It is precisely that simple and it is also that difficult.” -Warren Bennis
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As the end of the year gets closer, do you feel the pressure heating up?
Is there a little voice nagging at you to hurry up and meet those goals you set back in January, telling you it’s time to push harder?
Before you decide to go full throttle, there’s something you should know…
It’s all a trap.
This week, Karlee explains why the end-of-the-year hustle is a never-ending cycle that doesn’t lead to sustainable success. Pushing to do it all before the calendar changes goes against the cues of the natural world, which shows us that this is a time to rest and regenerate.
In this episode, you’ll learn the importance of setting goals through purpose rather than push. You’ll hear how sustained success depends on our ability to tap into a more regenerative way of approaching this season, highlighting the natural rhythms of life instead of an imaginary finish line. You’ll hear a simple, actionable tip for recalibrating your pace so you can carve out moments of rest - and reclaim some of your better thinking.
If you’re ready to make the extraordinary decision to discern your own pace, then this is the episode for you.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Episode 138: From Burnout Culture to Rest Culture with Saundra Dalton-Smith
Kripalu Workshop: Better Boundaries: A Gateway to Authentic Living Nov 15-17th
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Dr. Maria Sirois
Quotes Referenced in this Episode:
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” — Maya Angelou
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What do you do when you don’t know what to do…next?
Especially when you're the "together one in your circle, " people count on you...
Uncertainty, for many of us, feels uncomfortable.
But the in-between is far from a liminal space where we wait or try to force action. It’s an important phase that offers us something very rich indeed… the gift of simplicity.
This week, Karlee unveils the wisdom of learning to live into the questions that simplify our thoughts and clarify our next steps.
In this episode, you’ll hear how people experiencing the challenges of feeling checked out or in a fog reclaim purpose and lean into the richness of uncertainty. By asking themselves good questions, they could take that 3% step forward in their relationships, health, and career. You’ll learn the importance of honing your focus on the doable stuff so you can begin to embrace the fog as an opportunity for growth in all areas of your life.
If you’re ready to make things more doable and thrive in the face of big questions, then this episode is for you.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Book: Letters to a Young Poet by Rainer Maria Rilke
Book: Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Warren Buffet
Steve Jobs
Brené Brown
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How do you see yourself in this moment?
Are you a person who’s working hard to become successful? Are you taking painting classes on weekends to become an artist? Are you a person with a lukewarm temper who wants to become someone who approaches life with a little more grace and forgiveness?
What have you been wanting to be that you could just decide, right now, that you are?
This week, Karlee shares stories of transformation that didn’t take years or decades to achieve. Simply by making the decision in the moment to see things differently, change happens.
In this episode, you’ll learn how instantaneous shifts in perspective can change how we see ourselves and how we view the world around us. You’ll hear the inspiring stories of people who dared to pause and, just by taking that moment to reconsider, were able to recalibrate how they view themselves and others. You’ll also learn how to be that version of yourself you’ve been waiting to become, right now.
If you’re ready to make the brave choice to “be”, instead of waiting to “become”, then this is the episode for you.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert
“Hope” poem by Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer
How to Love the World: Poems of Gratitude and Hope by James Crews
Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries: The Gateway to Authentic Living with Karlee Fain and Maria Sirois
Dirt Gems by Anne Louise Burdett
Episode 35: Trust Your Knowing
Episode 123: When Tradition Lays a Trap
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Suzi Banks Baum
Polly Hatfield
Maria Sirois
Anne Louise Burdett
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Life is like a… Venn diagram.
Yes, in our best times it’s also like a delicious box of dark chocolates. But in today’s episode, we’re pointing to something more specific: the career, health, and relationship trifecta.
It’s what we call the “Big 3”.
We all strive for a thriving career, vibrant health, and life-giving relationships. The thing we don’t realize is that there’s a point at which they all intersect.
If your work-life mojo is in sync, then these 3 areas of life can actually help support each other.
This week, Karlee helps you map out the current state of your Big 3 so you can recognize how, and where, to find support when one area needs attention.
In this episode, you’ll learn how to create kinship between life, work, and your relationships. You’ll gain access to a simple exercise that will help you Venn diagram your Big 3, so you can find the support you need by leveraging what's already good. You’ll also learn how to make these areas work regeneratively so they become allies to one another.
If you’re ready to evaluate your mojo AND appreciate what’s already working, then this is the episode for you.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
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People Mentioned in this Episode:
Kimberly Blaeser: Learn more and support her work here: https://www.kblaeser.org/
About Standing (in Kinship) poem by Kimberley Blaeser: https://www.poetryoutloud.org/poem/about-standing-in-kinship/
Kamala Harris Venn diagram and human rights: https://www.yahoo.com/news/m-going-confess-love-venn-144616746.html
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In the span of your day, how often do you get sidetracked by the unexpected?
You’re super focused on a work project, and then wham!! An attention-grabbing subject line lands in your inbox and, well, it’ll just take a minute. Or you’re watching your kid’s basketball game and your pocket vibrates. Curiosity gets the better of you and before you know it, you’re swept into a work issue that pulls your attention away from the court.
Those “little” things that interrupt our days and our thought processes can often completely take over our plans.
Having a solid and supported system in place to face those distractions head-on is the only way to regain autonomy over your time.
This week, Karlee helps you discover a way to hone your focus and dial in your discernment so you can decipher when it's necessary to change plans or simply say “no, thank you”.
In this episode, you’ll learn how to reframe the distractions you come up against in your work and personal life so that you can prioritize what matters most. You’ll learn how to keep control of the wheel and not be led off course, especially when the unexpected doesn’t support you in the direction you want to go. And you’ll learn how to build a plan that binds you to your best choices.
If you’re ready to stop feeling pulled and start making choices that support who you want to be and where you want to go, this is the episode for you.
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Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Episode 161: The Sinkhole Effect | What to do when good people have you feeling bad
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Kurt Vonnegut: https://www.vonnegutlibrary.org/
Maria Sirois: https://www.mariasirois.com/
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Is there someone in your life who, as much as you care about them, often leaves you feeling not so good?
Whether it’s a friend, a family member, a coworker, or anyone for that matter, the energy exchange you get from your encounters leaves you feeling drained.
It’s like every time you meet, you descend a little bit deeper into an emotional sinkhole. And you have to spend the time between pulling yourself out of it before the inevitable next encounter.
The tricky part is that you know they aren’t bad people. They’re just in their own world right now, focused on their own things, unable to see how their actions affect you or your organization.
These situations can feel exhausting and be challenging to navigate. But they aren’t impossible.
This week, Karlee explains how the “sinkhole effect” works and how it affects our relationships with others. Toughing it out through these sticky situations isn’t good for anyone, and it’s a drain on your precious energy reserves.
In this episode, you’ll learn what it feels like to be in a sinkhole situation through real-life examples of people who have successfully navigated their way through one - without making things worse in the process. You’ll learn a simple exercise that will help you understand the emotional cost-benefit of keeping things the way they are versus instigating change, and where to start if change needs to happen.
If you’re ready to give yourself some grace and stop doing the energetic heavy lifting, then this episode is for you.
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Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Book: The Power of Full Engagement: Managing Energy, Not Time, Is the Key to High Performance and Personal Renewal by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz
Book: The Joy of Leadership: How Positive Psychology Can Maximize Your Impact (and Make You Happier) in a Challenging World by Angus Ridgway and Tal Ben-Shahar
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Shame is a trickster.
It can sneak up on us at the worst moments, kick us when we’re down, and make us feel inferior to others.
But here in the Messy & Magnificent community, we’ve got a trick up our sleeves that can rival that ol’ dog we call shame…
It’s recognizing what you’ve already done well already.
Recognizing your strengths can snuff out the self-judgment so you can let yourself off the hook and start to focus on getting resourced for what’s next.
This week, Karlee reveals that shameful trickster behind the curtain, showing you how to extinguish the insecurities you feel now and instead, acknowledge the strength and determination that got you where you are today.
In this episode, you’ll discover why shame creeps up on all of us, and you’ll hear the familiar untruths it leaves in its wake. You’ll hear real-life examples of high-achievers who are battling the shame game and learn how to build up your gratitude as a feel-good defense mechanism to instantly shift your mindset.
First, gratitude for how well you’ve done with what you’ve had. Then, it’s the right time to seek the knowledge and resources you need to move forward.
If you’re ready to release the weight of shame, guilt, and self-judgement, and feel genuine gratitude for the “you” that got you here, and THEN focus on what’s next, then this episode is for you!
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Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Join us next year for the Navigating Change Workshop (note: the 2025 dates for this program will update soon - email [email protected] if you want us to let you now when enrollment officially opens)
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Maria Sirois
Prentice Hemphill
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