The world says husbands and wives have the same or even interchangeable roles.  Some fundamentalist Christians and even Catholics say wives should let their husbands decide everything (even in regards to sexual intimacy!) and wives should obey as long as it is not immoral.  This way of thinking does not reflect the rich, intricate, dynamic teachings of the Church in regards to men and women.  A true Catholic marriage calls men and women to act in complementarity so they both become who God is calling them to be. Listen in while we unpack this controversial but essential topic on the role of a wife in a marriage.  (podcast on a husband’s role in marriage coming soon!)

MFP 181: The Role of a Submissive Wife

Parenting is not a clean-cut, simple process for those who like to follow the rules. Family life is messy and unpredictable, but it is the greatest adventure you will ever have. We are Mike and Alicia Hernon, parents of 10 children ranging from 10 to 27 and we would like to invite you into some of the conversations we have had with each other about marriage, parenting, and Catholic family life. Our hope is that our conversation sparks a dialogue between you and your spouse that leads to greater unity and intentional Christian parenting in your home. Listen in to our podcast and start the conversation as we seek to lead our families to heaven. 

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Our parents made us sisters, but God made us friends.     Summary One of the greatest blessings of Alicia’s life is that God gave her 9 brothers and sisters to laugh, play, fight, create, and pray with most of her life! This conversation is from a girls getaway weekend with the five Doman sisters.  Now, because all the Doman siblings are practicing Catholics  in good relationship with each other and their parents, people may put them in a category of “the perfect Catholic family”.  But that is far from true.  As you will hear, each one of these sisters has lived through tragedies and difficulties that were completely unexpected and not chosen by them at all. It is by God’s grace that each one of them has grown into the woman God is calling her to be and it is through that relationship with Christ, as well as the accident of birth, that we are able to have true sisterhood together.  Listen in as we talk about God’s faithfulness through the difficulties of life and how true sisterhood with those in your family and friends are essential to our survival.     Key Takeaways   Life is not always easy, but God is near   We can learn from those who God gives us, even when they are different from us.  Don’t get frustrated by differences, embrace them!   When we are joined together by common faith in Christ, we can develop true friendships     Couple Discussion Questions   What relationships can we invest more in to develop sisterhood and brotherhood?    Are we happy with our relationships with our siblings?  Why or why not? What can we change about this?    How does sharing values with others change us?   

MFP 288: Sisterhood - an interview with the Doman Women

Summary In this episode, we explore the essential aspects of training for virtue and the challenging task of granting freedom to our children. We emphasize the importance of always communicating that you are on their side as a mentor, teacher, and guide, expecting mistakes along the way. We discuss the value of risking giving your child freedom, acknowledging it's not an easy journey. Key discussion points include how to provide more freedom for kids to make good choices, understanding if teens view parents as mentors, and identifying areas needing better boundaries and more training at home. Join us for practical strategies and insights to support your children in making virtuous choices while balancing freedom and boundaries.   Key Takeaways   Always communicate that you are on their side as a mentor, teacher, and guide.    Expect mistakes   Be willing to risk giving your child freedom - beware!  It's not easy!    Couple discussion questions     How can we give our kids more freedom to make good choices? What are my fears about this?    Do my teens see me as a mentor?  Why or why not.  Plan some time to talk to them about this.     Where do we need better boundaries in our home?  What are the areas in which our children need more training?     

MFP 287: Training for Virtue and Giving Freedom

The most important challenge you can take   What does it take to be a great parent and have a joyful family? We think it all boils down to three essential elements. We have turned these three elements into the Play and Pray Challenge!  More than ever, we need to celebrate the love of Jesus in the month of June, because it is HIS love and lordship that will truly fulfill all our deepest longings!  What is the challenge? In the month of June do these three things with your family -  Organize and execute an amazing FAMILY DAY, plan and go on a DATE NIGHT, and proclaim Jesus Christ as the KING OF THE HOME by placing the image of the Sacred Heart in their house and “enthroning” Him as King.  We want to make this a fun and rewarding experience for families, so we have created some resources to help you out. Go to our website messyfamilyproject.org/challenge to get our Play and Pray Challenge Kit.  There are even promo materials for you to put up at your parish or school!   Get the free download and let us know your family is taking the challenge - https://messyfamilyproject.org/challenge/   Related podcast episode:  MFP 091: King of the Home - https://messyfamilyproject.org/mfp-091-king-of-the-home/  MFP 257: How to Change Your Heart  -  https://messyfamilyproject.org/mfp-257-how-to-change-your-heart-lessons-from-the-sacred-heart-of-jesus/   Key takeaways:   One of the greatest assets we have in parenting is the ability to choose how we spend our time.  Protect your yes with 1,000 no’s   Your children need to be known and loved by you. Joy must be alive in your home.   Your marriage gives you the grace to be a parent. So invest deeply in your marriage!   Devotion to the Sacred heart is a game changer for families   If you want to pray with your kids you need to play with them.       Couple Discussion   How do we waste time with our kids?  How do we lavish love on them?   What brings joy to the hearts of our children? How can we do more of that?    What is my understanding of the love of Jesus flowing from His Sacred Heart?  How can I express this love to my children?    

MFP 286: Learning to Love by Being Loved

Summary In this next part of our series on tech, we talk about the specific challenges that tech use brings to boys and girls.  Just as men and women have different gifts, they also deal with different temptations in their tech use.  Because of this, parents must be proactive in teaching boundaries to their children so they can use tech with freedom when they leave your house and enter the world of adulthood. During this conversation, we give you some principles that you will need to discuss with your spouse to make a tech policy of your own. Every family must have some boundaries, because if you don’t define them, then the reality is that Big Tech will be calling the shots in your house. Their goal is to control your kids and they have the means to do it.     Key Takeaways   Because of the genius of men to create and subdue the world they are more tempted to be addicted to video games.  Because of women’s gift of relationships they are more tempted to be absorbed in social media.     Parents must know the symptoms of addiction and immediately respond if they believe their child has an addiction.  Their child’s future success in life depends on it.    The best filter is a well-formed child who knows how to respond to toxic online content.    You must teach and model healthy tech use for your kids - nothing is private, have a healthy skepticism of any online content, and learn good manners.       Couple Discussion Questions   Are we aware of the symptoms of tech addiction?  Are any of our children in danger of this addiction?  If so, what are we going to do about it?    Do we have a written tech policy?  Plan a time to discuss with your spouse and create one.     What is our plan for social media use for our children?     Resources   The Messy Family Guide to Technology - https://messyfamilyproject.org/guide/screens-your-child/    

MPF 285: Tech Traps for Boys and Girls

The destructive effects of video games are not on boys' cognitive abilities or their reaction times, but on their motivation and their connectedness with the real world. ~Dr. Leonard Sax Technology can be a blessing or a curse. It can be used for great good and yet it can expose people to grave evil. Helping our children learn how to responsibly navigate the use of technology, especially social media, is one of the immense parenting challenges of our age.  In this podcast, we look at the unique challenges that technology presents to parents and why parents must meet this challenge head-on!  We talk about how to discern your tech use as a family and why just locking down every device is simply not enough.  Like most areas of parenting, we need to first train ourselves and then take the time to train our children.   KEY TAKEAWAYS:   Don’t be naive. Stay on top of what your kids are watching and what they are engaging with.  It is our responsibility to prepare and guide them.    Discern your tech use as a person and as a family. Walk them through the seven keys to empower them to make good choices because tech is a powerful gift of God and should be used for good.   Seven keys the church gives us to guide us in using technology    Does it communicate a balanced worldview?   How is the creator's attitude oriented towards the subject?   Does it dignify the human person?   Does it speak the Truth?   Is it inspirational?   Is it done with skill?    Is it motivated by experience?    Train your children to use it as they grow. Like driving a car, prepare them to use it as they mature and are old enough to use it wisely and virtuously     COUPLE DISCUSSION   In what ways have we been blessed by media and technolgy?  How has it helped us?    How can we discern our media use as a family?     If our goal is to form our children to become adults who can make good media choices, how and when can we give our children appropriate freedom?  What does that look like for our kids today?      Resources:  Infinite Bandwidth: Encountering Christ in the Media. By Dr. Eugene Gan https://www.afterbabel.com/p/algorithms-hijacked-my-generation  https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/article-abstract/2799042    https://www.mayoclinichealthsystem.org/hometown-health/speaking-of-health/are-video-games-and-screens-another-addiction    https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2024/03/teen-childhood-smartphone-use-mental-health-effects/677722/?gift=9xPqLPcwLfFbf_nnCRecvKJ-3gklcv6nZX-Hliug6W4&utm;_source=copy-link&utm;_medium=social&utm;_campaign=share   https://ifstudies.org/blog/is-your-son-addicted-to-video-games  

MFP 181: The Role of a Submissive Wife

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