“If we want our children to be happy and successful, if we want them to reach their highest potential in self-transcendence, then the most important thing we can do is replace screens with activities that turn their focus outward.” —Clare Morell

It’s no secret that addictive digital technologies like smartphones and social media apps are harming a generation of kids socially, mentally, and even physically. But a workable solution seems elusive. After all, don’t kids need phones, and won’t they be vulnerable or socially isolated without them? In this interview with Clare Morell, author of The Tech Exit, we discuss the lies parents have been sold about parental controls, screen-time limits, and even the effectiveness of screens in the classroom. There is another way!  If you need a shot in the arm to make the break from tech, listen in and see how digital technology is anything but necessary for children to live happy, healthy, and socially full lives.  

• Putting limits on something immediately implies harm. Why are we choosing to expose our children to something that is harmful? 

• Dopamine that is released when a child uses screens affects the brain like a drug and produces cravings, not satisfaction.  

• Since screens have been in our schools, math and reading scores have hit an all time low.  

• Replace screen time with responsibilities and tasks, as well as hobbies and play. 

• Screens make us all feel like we don’t need other people.  It decreases community inherently, 

• Life is not about being constantly amused and entertained.  We all need time for reflection, activity, and boredom.  

• Are we happy with the screen time use in our home right now?  Are we happy with our own screen time?  How can we be better? 

• How have screens affected our family life?  What do we want to change about this? 

Resources

• thetechexit.com 

• clare.morell.substack.com

• Messy Family Guide to Tech:  https://messyfamilyproject.org/guide/screens-your-child/

Parenting teens can feel like navigating a storm. Emotions run high and mistakes are inevitable. In this updated reflection on our original 2017 episode, we dive into the art of disciplining teenagers not just to manage behavior, but to raise mature disciples of Christ.

We share what we've learned from parenting our ten kids, what it means to move from control to connection, and how to maintain strong relationships during the most challenging years. Whether you're in the thick of adolescence or preparing for it, this episode offers encouragement, clarity, and practical tools.

Topics include: • Building trust and fostering independence • Avoiding the trap of control or punishment • Communicating values in a way teens can hear • Creating rules that actually work

In what ways do we tend to default to control instead of connection when our teens challenge us?

How can we help each other start with our own hearts before reacting to difficult teen behavior?

What opportunities can we create this week to invest in one-on-one connection with our teen(s)?

Are there any household rules we need to revisit or simplify to better serve our teens’ growth?

What does it mean to us to parent for Christian maturity rather than just obedience?

“The two great commandments name the three loves – loving God, loving neighbor, and loving yourself. All three loves are necessary and central to our Faith.  All three.” - Dr. Peter Malinowski

How can I learn to truly love my family?  The reality is that the degree to which you love yourself will be the maximum that you can love your family.  Ordered self-love is not an optional thing – it’s essential.  This is especially true for spouses and parents because their love is tied intimately to the full flourishing of others, namely, their children!  We are made in God’s image and likeness, which means that, like the Trinity, we are constantly in relationship with others and even with ourselves.  Learning to love ourselves directly affects how well we can love others.  Listen in for advice from Dr. Peter Malinowski, Catholic psychologist and teacher in the field of therapy using Internal Family Systems.  This podcast is essential to learn how to love your spouse and children well, by first learning to love yourself.  

• We are made in the image and likeness of God, which means that like the Trinity, we have the capacity for relationship within ourselves.

• The primary human relationship that we have is with ourselves, then others. 

• 90% of conflicts with your spouse are a reaction to unresolved issues from the past, not what is happening in the present.  

• The “innermost self” is the core of the person, who we really are.  Our “parts” are small personalities inside of us who battle within us. 

• How can you begin to see each other the way that God sees you? 

• Think about a conflict you had recently.  Ask your spouse, “Tell be about why you felt the way you did.” and be open to learning more. 

• To find a therapist:  www.soulsandhearts.com/therapists

• Interior Integration for Catholics podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/interior-integration-for-catholics/id1503898046

• Epidode 157 to 159 for an overview of IFS

To learn more: https://www.soulsandhearts.com/

Listen in as we respond to Catholic parents seeking guidance on navigating sensitive family issues through faith. One parent is concerned about supporting her 11-year-old daughter who expressed same-sex attraction after speaking with her bisexual sister. Another couple is figuring out how to explain same-sex relationships to their young children with both compassion and clarity about Church teaching. A mother balancing part-time parish work and parenting feels overwhelmed by her toddler’s distress and behavior changes. Others seek advice on newborn sleep training and resisting parenting product marketing. They all value faithful, practical support in raising children with love, discipline, and Catholic values amid modern challenges and we did our best to respond to them from our own experience - always giving principles but encouraging them to make their own choices.  

• Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First 3 Years Matters   https://www.amazon.com/dp/0143109294?linkCode=ssc&tag=onamzmessypar-20&creativeASIN=0143109294&asc_item-id=amzn1.ideas.26NWEBLKG2VH&ref_=aip_sf_list_spv_ons_d_asin

• Age Appropriate:  https://messyfamilyproject.org/mfp-048-age-appropriateness/

• The Art of Raising Humans:  https://messyfamilyproject.org/mpf-326-the-art-of-raising-humans/

• When a child is coming to sexual maturity around 11-13 it is a very sensitive time of development and parents need to be very careful about the messages those kids are receiving at that time. 

• How we respond emotionally to alternative lifestyles is a powerful example to our children of how to love people who don’t share our values

• Kids, especially toddlers, have no idea how to express their emotions so we have to recognize what they are going through, even if it's not the ideal situation, and respond to it. 

• The key to babies sleeping is routines!  And getting them to a point when they are almost asleep, but not quite asleep.  Give them support to fall asleep independently and little by little they will be able to do it! 

• Every parent needs to take in the different philosophies of parenting and do what works for them!  As children grow, you will respond to them differently - sometimes with more directives, and sometimes with more conversations.  It all depends on their stage of development!

“What do we feel is the first and last need of the Church? …the Spirit, the Holy Spirit…. He is her divine breath, the wind in her sails, the principle of her unity, the inner source of her light and strength.” - St. Paul VI

We can’t wait for you to hear this podcast!  The week before Pentecost, we did a webinar with Dr. Sean and Nicole Tobin, a Catholic couple passionate about helping families live in the power of the Holy Spirit. Sean is a clinical psychologist, worship leader, and co-founder of the Divine Mercy Clinic and Nicole holds a master’s in Theology and co-founded the Los Angeles campus of the Encounter School of Ministry with Sean. Together, they speak and minister nationally, helping families become more fully alive in the Spirit through healing, activation, and practical faith formation. They came and spoke to our people about how the Holy Spirit can help us be the parents God wants us to be and the parents our children need.  None of us can raise our kids alone!  Not only do we need our spouses, but we also need God present in our lives every day through His Holy Spirit.  Listen in to get some amazing wisdom and to learn how God wants to empower our parenting in a new way.  

• Desperation with expectation is an invitation to the Holy Spirit.

• Virtue does not come from us just “trying harder”, it comes as a fruit of the Holy Spirit.  

• “What do we feel is the first and last need of this blessed and beloved Church of ours? We must say it, almost trembling and praying, because as you know well, this is the Church’s mystery and life: the Spirit, the Holy Spirit. He it is who animates and sanctifies the Church. He is her divine breath, the wind in her sails, the principle of her unity, the inner source of her light and strength.” Pope St Paul VI

• Heaven has been invading earth since Pentecost… it continues the mission of Christ in us.

• The biggest hindrance in our home is our busyness.  We have to notice and be sensitive to the Holy Spirit. Tune in and listen.

• Children thrive in structure and routine, so teach them to give God the first and your best. Have them read scripture first thing, then pause and have them listen and journal each and every day.

• Healing is an easy first step - pray for this.

• What’s one way we can invite the Holy Spirit more deeply into our home?

• Is there something we need to surrender or ask God to heal in our family?

“We need to give God room to show up. Often we try to fix and solve everything without waiting for God to act” - Jonathan and Amanda Texiera

The number one conflict in marriages, statistically, is money.  How we spend our money reflects our values, but also our belief in the providence of God.  Do we truly believe that God cares about all of our life, including our financial needs?  How much are we truly trusting in Him and His provision and not just giving in to panic and fear?  In this podcast, we invited our friends Jonathan and Amanda Texiera of Wallet Win to give us some encouragement to give our entire lives over to God and believe that He cares for us completely.  They give spiritual principles, but also practical advice for families to reject fear and embrace trust.  

• Remind yourselves of what God has done in your lives and invite God into your money, he wants to be part of your life

• Give God room to show up - we try to fix and solve everything without waiting for God to act

• Create financial oneness in our marriage

• Live as financial disciples - play the long game

• Look at the fruits of panic and trusting providence.  How have you experienced these? 

• List the ways that God has provided for you.  Where can you trust him more? 

https://walletwin.com/

"Fairy tales do not tell children the dragons exist. Children already know that dragons exist. Fairy tales tell children the dragons can be killed." - G.K. Chesterton

Movies shape more than behavior — they form the imagination, the moral compass, and the heart. Catholic parents are not merely protecting innocence; they are cultivating virtue and wonder. In this episode, we explore how stories shape our children, how to choose wisely, and how to use movies as part of a rich Catholic family culture. Jesus used stories to teach. So do we.

Here are four filters that parents can use to decide what movies to watch with their children:  

1. Content – Surface-level: language, nudity, violence, disrespect.

   • Different for every family. 

   • Talk about this with spouse

   • May change as the kids get older

2. Context / Theme– 

   • Does it glorify sin, or does it show redemption?

   • Does this movie affirm the dignity of the human person?

   • What’s the movie saying about truth, identity, family, and faith?

   • Does it honor the sacrificial nature of love?

   • Does it support the family or undermine it?

   • Is faith treated with reverence, or ridicule?

3. Beauty

   • Is it ugly?is does it nourish the soul and imagination?

   • Is this edifying? Does it educate, challenge, or cause me to grow and bear good fruit?

4. Character Arc – Are the heroes virtuous? Are sinners redeemed?

5. Remember: It's not enough to avoid what is harmful. We must actively seek what is holy, good, and true.

• IMDB parents guide - use this to search by adding your movie title https://www.imdb.com/title/tt26743210/parentalguide/

• Common Sense Media — secular, but useful for content breakdowns.

• MovieGuide — faith-based reviews of current films.

• Catholic News Service Movie Reviews — Catholic perspective with theological commentary.

• Your Own Conscience — Don’t ignore the check in your spirit as a parent.

Motherhood changes you because it literally alters a woman’s brain—structurally, functionally, and in many ways, irreversibly. - Louann Brizendine, The Female Brain

Women are gifted in a way that men are not.  Women can hold many different tasks in their mind at the same time, see the needs of others, and know the needs of the household and balance them all.  Sometimes this can feel empowering, but sometimes it's overwhelming, especially in times of great stress. In some circles, there is a call for men to share the “mental load”, but is that even possible?  What is the appropriate role of fathers and husbands and how can they support their wives in this burden that they carry?  Listen in as we tackle this tricky topic giving both perspective and advice on rejoicing in our differences.    

• Women are gifted in a way that men are not.  Embrace it and appreciate that. 

• Reject a spirit of comparison and envy.  

• Live a balanced life - you are not a victim and you always have a choice.

• Appreciate your husband’s mental load

• Create space for him to be needed.  

• How does the mental load affect each of us?  

• Have we fallen into a pattern of comparison or envy?  How can we learn to be more grateful for our spouse and their contributions? 

Resources

Download For-Women-Only-Survey

Download FMO-Survey-Results

“True power is not dependent upon the invented honors of earth.  True power is that which guides, shapes, carves, and claims the souls of men.  And the souls of men are most often won and lost at the feet of mothers.” - Kimberly Ells

Does it feel like its harder to be a parent today than ever before? There are powers arrayed against the family - powers in secular philosophies, modern politics, and even our education system.  The roots of these forces are deep and have been growing for years, but we are just now seeing their ugly fruit.  We would like you to take some time to comprehend how these philosophies have affected your understanding of the roles of mothers, fathers, children, and the family as a social unit.  This podcast was inspired by and draws from The Invincible Family by Kimberly Ells. The world needs parents more than ever!  We hope this conversation inspires you to double down on being an intentional, and therefore, invincible family.  

• What is the ultimate goal of socialism, feminism, and sexual radicalism?  To separate children from their parents by deceiving parents into giving up their rights to their children. 

• Satan wants us to feel quaint, small, and insignificant.  But the reality is that if we are going to change this world, we need to believe that what we are doing is mighty and important, and IRREPLACEABLE. 

• Children are the future. Every revolutionary wants to control the children.  Whoever controls the children controls the society.  So the parent/child bond needs to be broken for secular forces to control our children. 

• First, it started with Dad.  Now they are working on unseating moms, taking her out of the home, denigrating having children, and being a mother.  

• The best thing you can give your child is not education - the best you can give your child is YOU.

• Women cannot do everything men can do.  And confident women are perfectly fine with this fact. 

God has selected you uniquely to be the mother for these children.  He will equip you for the work He wants you to do!

No one feels prepared to be a parent.  Even if you were one of the oldest of 10 kids in a Catholic family (like Alicia or Katie) or a family of 7 (like Suzanne) you can never really be ready!  The key to surviving, and even thriving, is stepping fully into your identity as a daughter of God.  All the love that we have for our spouse and children needs to come from a deep place of confident love from our Heavenly Father.  Listen in to this interview with Suzanne Bilodeau, author of She Loved: Resting in the Beauty of Motherhood, a compilation of letters from older mothers to their younger selves.  In our conversation we talk about actually NOT finding our identity in our motherhood, but in our daughterhood, how fear is a liar, and the importance of compassion for yourself. 

• Fear is a liar.  Satan tells you that you are not enough.  God says - I made you for this moment. 

• We can be transformed when we recognize that before we are a wife or mommy we are a daughter.  That is foundational.

• We all need to have compassion for ourselves.  This is a theme found in most of the letters written for She Loved!

• Don’t be a martyr to your motherhood.  Take time for yourself to reconnect with God and others.