In this enlightening conversation, Hilda Lunderstedt and Karen Bigman explore the often-taboo topics surrounding sex and intimacy in midlife. Karen shares her journey from life coaching to becoming a certified sex educator and menopause coach, highlighting the challenges women face regarding pleasure and communication in relationships. They discuss the importance of understanding one's body, the health benefits of orgasms, and the need for open conversations about desires and intimacy. The discussion also touches on dating in midlife, the societal pressures women face, and practical tips for navigating relationships and self-discovery.

Takeaways

Menopause is often discussed, but sex remains a taboo.

Women are not taught they deserve pleasure, impacting their sexual experiences.

Communication with partners is crucial for intimacy and pleasure.

Men often struggle with sexual dysfunction, affecting their confidence.

Good sex is subjective and varies from person to person.

Health benefits of orgasms include improved immune function and emotional connection.

Dating in midlife requires self-awareness and understanding of personal desires.

Women often prioritize others' needs over their own, leading to neglect of self-care.

Survival tips for midlife dating include being aware of red flags and knowing oneself.

Creating a supportive community can help individuals navigate their sexual journeys.

Chapters

00:00 Taboos in Midlife: A Conversation Starter

01:27 Karen's Journey: From Life Coach to Sex Educator

05:29 Breaking the Silence: Talking About Orgasms

08:12 Understanding Women's Pleasure: The Importance of Communication

12:02 Navigating Sexual Dysfunction: Men's Challenges in Midlife

16:54 Redefining Good Sex: Personal Experiences and Expectations

21:41 Health Benefits of Orgasms: Myths and Realities

23:02 The Importance of Pleasure in Midlife

23:50 Navigating Dating in Midlife

24:20 Understanding Physical Pleasure

25:17 Self-Discovery Through Relationships

27:02 The Differences in Dating Post-Divorce

28:23 Knowing Yourself Before Dating

29:03 Survival Tips for Midlife Dating

31:12 The Role of Food and Energy in Dating

32:22 Prioritizing Self-Care as Women

33:34 Coaching and Community for Sexual Wellness

35:04 Challenging Sexual Beliefs

36:13 The Impact of Beliefs on Sexuality

38:35 Resources for Further Exploration

midlife, sex education, orgasms, communication, dating, pleasure, taboo, health benefits, relationships, self-discovery