MidlifemanifestoPodcast

So here we are at the end of my very first season and what a guest to finish on!

Kate & I went to school and guides together. My life as a guide was pretty short lived after the guide camp weekend we talk about which was something of a cross between SAS Who Dares Wins and some weird Bear Grylls experiment.

After leaving our comprehensive school in Pudsey, I went onto a YTS scheme.....(remember them?) and Kate went off to the University of Cambridge. We've pretty much not seen each other since and reconnected on social media years later.

At school, she was clever (obvs) but she was also rather creative and had this uncanny knack of persuading the school to allow her to put on her own (rather risqué) productions. So her super successful career in PR and Communications (she is currently Global Communications Director for Microsoft) was a surprise to me as I imagined she would one day become the female Noel Coward or some such. It seems it came as a surprise to Kate too! Armed with her freshly minted Cambridge degree, she headed to the bright lights of London to seek her fortune in journalism and broadcasting and landed in the foodhall at Harrods serving 'ladies who lunch' over the counter. 

Getting involved in the underground arts scene in London allowed Kate to continue to explore her creative side and she tells us about her brief radio career with an unknown Irish bloke called Graham Norton (whatever happened to him?) But it wasn't paying the rent and so she found herself working in a book shop to pay the bills. It was from her work there that she found herself in events and PR. 

What is interesting is that despite her dazzling career success she doesn't describe it as linear, in fact her trajectory has been made up of good and bad decisions along the way. These decisions weren't so much part of a master plan for global success, but more as a way to pay her rent. She feels the modern notion of 'passion' for one's career ambition is somewhat disingenuous and that her most brave and effective career moves have been driven by the desire to be able to afford posh shampoo!

I had to ask Kate about what it was like being a woman from a comprehensive school in West Yorkshire, working in an often male dominated environment surrounded by people from all sorts of varied backgrounds. Anyone who knows Kate knows that it's unlikely she would ever have been fazed by that. We talk about where her self assuredness and confidence came from. She feels her childhood definitely played a part in this. She was never given reason to question whether she had a right to a voice. In an all female household (she grew up with her Mum, Sister and Grandma) her voice, ideas and opinions were considered equal to those of the adults in the house. This is in sharp contrast to mine, where my Dad's favourite motto was "children should be seen and not heard" Perhaps that is part of the secret of success? To stand up and be counted in a world full of expert opinions and loud voices, your right to be there and be heard needs to be intrinsic. 

We also talk about midlife and what that has brought for Kate. I know you'll enjoy this episode.

I am massively grateful to all my friends who have given up their time to appear as guests on my podcast. I have loved every minute of this project. Thank you too to my listeners for your fabulous comments and reviews. It means a lot! 

Recorded in April 2020 during Coronavirus lockdown.

Lisa is an old (as in long time...) friend, fierce feminist and all round talented person. She's been involved in writing many of the UK's most popular shows of the last 20 years including Fat Friends with James Corden, Emmerdale, Waterloo Road, Ackley Bridge, New Tricks, Midsomer Murders and Call the Midwife amongst others. As Chair of the Writers Guild, she is also passionate about supporting fellow writers.

Because this isn't enough to keep her busy...(!) she is also Chair of the Royal Television Society in Yorkshire and over the last 5 years has run the Yorkshire RTS Awards. In fact she is a recipient of an RTS Award herself.

She's also a regular contributor to BBC Radio Leeds, has appeared on BBC Radio 4 and has been on the judging panel for BAFTA. In this interview, Lisa talks about her career journey and how having the confidence to identify and make the most of opportunities as they appear, and the ability to be able to handle rejection has been fundamental to her success.

Lisa is a massive advocate and supporter of local Yorkshire talent and is proud that her home town of Leeds is bursting with talent and artistic innovation.

Midlife has afforded Lisa a greater level of self acceptance. She also talks about how it has greatly enhanced her ability to communicate and create compromise which is the best way to affect change. Lisa is acutely aware of the inequality in TV and spearheaded a campaign to raise awareness and shake up the industry. As you might imagine, it's an ongoing challenge!

Follow Lisa on Twitter for a good dose of Yorkshire Realism!

https://twitter.com/WorksWithWords

and read her latest blog here....

http://deadlinesanddiamonds.blogspot.com

When Jen offered to be a guest on my podcast, it was to talk about the huge decision she made to give up her life-long Teaching career in midlife. I was happy for her to share this but the story I was most interested in was the one about having a father who held strong homophobic views. So strong was his homophobia that for years, Jen felt she had to live a double life until in midlife, her and Fiona decided to marry. Jen had to face the fact the she could no longer keep her sexuality a secret.....

This podcast was recorded in March 20 pre lock-down.

Jen now runs a tutor centre in Leeds. Click on the link below to check out what her and her team provide.

The Learning Curve

Meet my friend, Jo. In midlife she gave up a comfortable salary and a stable managerial role to retrain as a social worker. Cue University and a subsequent fulfilling career in Child Protection,  a brave move at any age. But just listen as she talks with passion about supporting disadvantaged children and families. She was born for this! 

But it wasn't plain sailing....Her diagnosis of breast Cancer around the time of her graduation threw a massive spanner in the works. Listen to Jo's remarkable story. 

In this episode, my friend Karon talks about the shock and the emotional fallout of her parents surprise divorce after 50 years of marriage. There is some frank talk and the odd F bomb thrown in.....

I hope you find this as fascinating as I do.

Meet Tina, my patient, brave and kind friend who is talking about the loss of her young son, Sean and the work of  www.candlelighters.org.uk charity who support young people with life limiting conditions.

Trigger Warning. As you may imagine, this is sometimes a difficult listen. 

This podcast is a must listen if you often find yourself experiencing worry, self doubt or overthinking. Jane is a certified Clarity Coach and specialises in helping women rediscover their true selves in midlife. You will love her. She talks so much sense!

Find her on facebook at Jane Gray - Clarity Coach

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Here is my creative and eternally optimistic friend, Juliet who shares the deeply personal story of her chaotic childhood and how she has not let it define her life as an adult. She's a huge advocate for creativity for mental health and despite currently undergoing treatment for Hodgkins lymphoma, is busy creating opportunities for creativity and networking in her local community. Juliet was recently interviewed by Suzy Walker, Editor in Chief of Psychologies magazine.

Join me and my lovely Back in Time 'Sister' as we chat about her recently aired programme and our shared and unique experiences on the BBC series. 

Catch up on the series here

 https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episodes/m000frl8/back-in-time-for-the-corner-shop

There are so many things we can learn about life from our friends. Mikki's is a story of adventure, love, loss, grief, vulnerability and hope. 

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