Millennials & Money Cafe

How to Change Your Life and Why It Feels Hard Podcast is at the bottom of this page for your listening pleasure or find it on iTunes under Millennials and Money Cafe 

Or you can read below: I thought you’d like the notes on the tapping I take you through.

To start, I’d like you to Think About:

What would you love to have all the time in your life? You can do this by taking a piece of paper and drawing a line down the middle of it. On the top write familiar for one column and unfamiliar for the other. On one the familiar side put what you want to change and on the other side list what you want. See below for examples.

You can PAUSE the video now for 1 min. and make the list and then listen as I will have many more examples you can fill in later.

We are creatures of comfort. We do what comes easy even if it’s not good for us (an addiction) and we want something else because our comfort is in what is familiar.

So what is familiar? It is something that you’ve done many times that now doesn’t feel new, hard or awkward to you. A lot of your familiar characteristics and habits are formed in childhood. So unless you change have applied new practices of ways of being and believing and made them your new familiar you are still living your childhood programming (your home, school, culture, education, political, social economics … environments)

Your self-esteem, wealth issues, social comfort, relationships, well-being…are all a result of your past experiences and influences.

If you are trying to become more successful in any area of your life, accomplish a goal that is out of your familiar comfort zone, you will NOT achieve it unless you choose unfamiliar thoughts/feelings/actions and practice them long enough so they become familiar.

You don’t know what you don’t know!

Making the unfamiliar familiar requires daily choices, awareness, repetition, persistence and commitment.

Example: I stopped eating dairy because it made my psoriasis flare up and it was hard to not eat it when it was everywhere around me…but my vanity was more important than my addiction to dairy and I wanted healthy skin so I would feel good about myself.

Your brain wants what is familiar, it goes with habit or what is easiest unless you give it directions. You do what you know until you learn something new and apply it to living your life.

That is what I am teaching you now and giving you an opportunity to reprogram with the tapping session coming up. I am going to show you the new unfamiliar you might KNOW you can have and become. We each need people in our life who show us what is possible, give us permission in a way to become what feels more true and aligned with our soul-self than the programming we are living that was taught to us at a young age and we live out as being who we are as adults.

It can feel hard to break habits/patterns because they are familiar. The hard part is putting your attention on the good, inspiring, praising, uplifting, successful – unfamiliar focus and take your focus off your old limiting familiar stuff that is holding you back from creating what you want.

EX: Believing in yourself instead of beating yourself up with negative self-talk  such as I don’t matter or I’m never enough.

What would you like to be more familiar with in your life?

It’s not arrogant to think you’re the best or good thoughts about yourself-you’re not saying you’re the best in everything.

You’re rewiring your brain to the experience of pleasure, wealth, co0nfidence, well-being and love… that were not familiar to you as a child, so you can create them in your life NOW.

Ask Yourself how can my life get, feel, be better? What would I have to think, feel and do?

Inspired,

Your power comes in making choices and keeping your focus on what you want and sticking with them until they become the new familiar in your life. You can work on one or multiples at a time.

Anything you do over and over will become your new familiar, so watch who you hang out with and what they are projecting into your conversations: like

Putting yourself down                                                                           Self-praise

Powerful transformation is happening inside me and I am receiving the gifts of who I really am into my subconscious mind. I am becoming my best expression of myself.

I have extraordinary drive and ambition to live my life more fully appreciating the simple daily pleasures and my capacity to create. I am unstoppable. I can handle every situation life has to offer. I have all the support I desire to live a fulfilling and meaningful life. I love and accept all of me I am successful and I share my success. I praise myself and others daily. It feels great to honor and respect myself. I am healthy and vibrant. I am living an abundant and rich life. I deserve all of this and more. I can do this! I will do this!

Please pass this on to others you believe will benefit and leave me any comments or questions 

Well you’re not alone if you do. 

The fears are explained, as well as, instructions for the tapping session.

Let me know how it worked for you and what you discovered about yourself in the comments below or email me.

If you want to discuss fears more deeply, call me for a discovery session.

iTunes Podcast below

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This week I share a meditation with you that will help you change how you feel. You’ll be guided to raise your vibration and expand your emotional experiences so that you override the negative emotions that have been habitually and unconsciously limiting you.

If you don’t like your current reality you have to do something new to create a new one. Just like I have been doing. You create your world through your thoughts, feelings and actions. So let’s change how you feel about yourself and the world around you in order to create a better world for you to live and thrive in.

When I did listened to myself I found out how abusive and disempowering I was to myself without my awareness. I learned this voice was not who I was and that I could become the Marilyn I imagined I’d like to be. So I started using a variety of tools and myself as a guinea pig to transform my life.

Today I’m a successful work in progress, what I call a Brilliant Juicy Mess. I love myself, my life and I’m thriving in the moment. I still catch moments of the old programming playing in the background, but they don’t run me any more. I want this for you—because you are so much more than you can imagine and the negative voice is limiting your ability to fully express what you came into your body to create at this time in history.

You are a brilliant juicy mess that we want to see and hear and play with. There is no reason that you should have to suffer needlessly.

You are the creator of your world, Yes YOU Are! Through your  feelings, memories, thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, and perceptions (all connected) you produce the results of your life.

Allowing yourself to feel more elevated emotions for longer periods than what your currently experiencing  is like editing your role as supporting actor to lead role.  This shift in presence and soon belief about what is possible changes how you “see and experience” yourself and your world.

There are Instructions in the beginning of the podcast, but I’ve also written them out here for your convenience. The meditation starts at 9 minutes.

I’d recommend that you introduce this meditation into a daily practice for at least 3 weeks to reprogram your old vibration into a higher and more vital energy for creating the life you deserve.

This is not an easy exercise because most of us don’t want to become conscious of the thoughts and feelings we’re currently running our lives because

Here is help:

Use these 3 fears to help you pin down the thoughts that are driving you daily feelings…

Fear of not being enough (Smart, skinny, wealthy, sexy, pretty, good, perfect…)

Fear of Rejection (I’m alone, I’m worthless, I’m not loveable, I feel abandoned…)

Fear of Being Powerless- “I can’t______________ (do this, find love, be seen and heard, be supported…)

These feelings leave you feeling not safe, shame, insecurity, stressed, and disempowered.

2. Write down what your best day feelings are? Use a day you’ve actually experienced or make up one.

If you need help, use the feeling list and look at the opposite of your fears.

Check out last weeks vlog to add more meaning to this meditation and exercise Change What is Holding You Back from Success

Let me know how you liked this podcast and any questions.

It’s the Holiday stress time when life can feel overwhelming with added social events and longer to do lists. The stress, anxiety and overwhelm can be minimalized if you take good care of yourself. With strategic planning and conscious monitoring of your energy and emotions, you will have a holiday that fulfills you instead of depletes you.

To help you navigate I’m sharing 5 Powerful Steps for Highly Sensitives to Kick Holiday Stress with tools to help you.

1. Don’t take things personally

When other people do, say or react remember, It’s not about you!

How people react and feel is the result of the “meaning” they put on an event. It has to do with what they believe about themselves and the world. People’s reactions are their responsibility and are a result of their beliefs, habits and childhood conditioning.

(Abuse is not to be tolerated, which is another matter that I’m not discussing here)

2. Take responsibly for your thoughts, emotions, and actions

You create how you feel. So choose the emotions you want to experience this holiday season and then think the thoughts that help to create those feelings. Create emotional intentions for your holiday season and plan out how to manifest them.

Let’s pretend you want a peaceful and fun holiday season. What thoughts and actions lead you to peaceful feelings?  Do the same for feeling fun. Make a list of the thoughts and actions and start implementing them. Remember all of this creation starts with you first and then overflows into your world

Peaceful:  Meditate and ground daily, attend Xmas-eve midnight mass and/or  winter solstice gathering, spend time in nature, give myself plenty of time, only go to events that are meaningful to me, have clear boundaries, plan and structure for ease, know your limits, ask for and allow support, remove clutter from your environment and mind, don’t listen to news, spa day, aromatherapy bath…  “I am peaceful, my life is filled with peace, what makes my life so peaceful?, I am so grateful for all the peace in my life,…”

Fun:  Join a caroling group, attend only fun holiday parties, bake with your family/friends, make fun handmade gifts for friends, dance, dress up, give to people who don’t expect it, create new traditions, intimate dinner parties, decorate and celebrate… “My life is filled with fun, I am fun, I love having fun, Fun opportunities abound, what is making my life feel so fun, I am surrounded with fun and peaceful people, I will have fun this holiday…”

3. Take care of yourself energetically, mind, body, and spirit.

We are made of energy and we are receiving and projecting energy all day long. As energy beings, we are like radio towers tuning in on other people’s frequencies around us. We can pick up and own a lot of energetic information that is not ours. As HSPs you can pick up on other people’s feelings and moods (empathy) and take them on as your own. So it is really important to become conscious about clearing your energy field (your body and the space around you) and not taking on other people’s emotions.

Visualize every morning and evening what you envisioned in Step 4. Feel the feelings and see yourself already doing, having and being what you dreamed up above.

Embody these emotions throughout the day.  Make decisions and plans while you are feeling these emotions.

Stay focused on your intention, taking one step at a time expanding your emotions as if you’ve already achieved it and you love your life.

An Energy Gift for You! 

BELOW IS A: GUIDED & HEALING Inner Child VISUALIZATION

I created this guided meditation to feel better in mind, body, and spirit. With all the chaos and stress in our lives, it can be challenging to feel positive and have elevated energy about our future throughout the day. We are easily influenced by the drama and challenges of the day to not be inspired, grateful, or compassionate. This short but powerful meditation will help you up-level your daily emotions and focus and therefore change your life.

In this guided meditation you will change your energy from those emotions that drain or stress you into those that will elevate and inspire you.

Examples of Draining and Limiting Emotions:

Examples of Elevated Emotions:

Try this meditation for 7 days in a row and see what happens and then keep going for 30 days and then let the elevated energies become part of your state of being every day.

Notice what happens to your state of mind, health, and well-being, opportunities showing up, and how you feel more connected to everything.

Remember your energy is a magnet and you’ve got to change your addiction to your stress hormones so you can attract new opportunities and people into your life. It all starts with you feeling whole and connected.

I’d love to hear your comments, so please email me ([email protected]) or leave comments here about your experience with this meditation.

I have created an energy healing for you that is a combination of inner child work and Ho‘oponopono prayer that I have found to be a very powerful healing process.

Ho‘oponopono is a Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness.  Inner Child work is imaging yourself giving your inner child what s/he didn’t receive as a child.

You are to compassionately and lovingly observe your inner child as the adult, creating a SAFE place for them to express themselves, so they don’t have to hide out or feel abandoned any longer.

The healing through this process can happen on many levels; emotionally, physically, mentally, financially, spiritually… It is a very personal journey of letting go, forgiving and healing.

You will be guided through this healing in this audio which is 18 minutes long. 18 minutes can change your life!

This Millennials and Money Cafe Podcast interview is with Dan Negroni, who is helping Millennials and Baby Boomers resolve cross-generational issues in the workplace through his new book, Chasing Relevance, and coaching programs. Dan is a business management and talent development consultant and coach addressing today’s critical cross generational issues. He leverages his authentic, no nonsense approach and experience to help companies bridge the gap between managers and their millennial workforce.

In this podcast you will learn about

The main problem Dan sees keeping the gap between the working generations

There are many tips, like the ones below, in the interview

Millennial tip: Understand you can only control yourself, so do your inner work for better relationships.

BabyBoomer tip: Stop the nonsense of false myths about Millennials and

Millennial tip: Learn to ask questions about your boss or manager in order

Millennial tip: understand yourself inside-out and then you will know that what you are asking for is something you deserve and it is a reasonable thing to ask and will provide value to others.

Steps you can take to prepare to grow and learn in the workplace

71% of millennials are disengaged in the workplace, meaning they want to find another job.

Dan wants CEO’s and managers to know that to be successful in their business they need to take care of their employees. That they have an obligation to support Millennials in finding their way in their workplace. Millennials can ask for support from their boss by asking questions that are focused on learning and serving.

Learn how you can self-mentor

Launchbox365.com

Please leave comments about what was helpful about this interview or questions your may have, so we can all learn more about each other.

A one of a kind author, consciousness thought leader and podcast host, Matt believes in potential. His own, yours, everyone’s. He is the author and creator of the Zen Athlete program, which contains in the depth training videos and audios to help you master the mental game of sport. He is also the creator of the Heart Journey Hypnosis Meditation, helping you discover your life purpose. Matt is an athlete, trainer, speaker and explorer of the mind and world dedicated to raising the consciousness of the planet.

I trust you’re going to love Matt Belair as much as I did. His high energy opens up your heart and mind.

When you hear yourself say “don’t, not, and no”

Whatever you put your energy, focus and attention on you will get more of that.

Observe your internal dialogue… narrow it into visualizing your desired outcome.

Accept what is and move forward.

Get out of your mind and into your heart to find out what is really important to you.

www.mattbelair.com        www.zenathlete.com

Matt and I would love to see your comments about this podcast below

You want to feel significant and loved and in our conversation you will discover how to feel those on your own. Stop the spiral of taking yourself down and learn how to lift yourself up! Learn empowering thoughts and tools to get you positively back to your true self and change your life.

Lori Harder is a leading expert in the field of fitness, transformational work, mindfulness, and self-love. She is a self-made millionaire, successful entrepreneur, network marketing professional, author, cover model, and three-time fitness world champion. Lori offers a carefully curated set of practical tools to promote sustainable health, spiritual well-being, and financial freedom. Through her books, unique coaching methods and programs, she has helped countless people connect with their soul, transform their bodies, empower their minds, gain finial independence, and fall  in love with themselves and their lives. Throughout her career, Lori has regularly appertain on the covers of and published articles for Oxygen Magazine, Strong Fitness Magazine, Health and fitness Magazine and Prosper Magazine. She has also been featured on NBC, Fox and TLC networks

Topics we cover and you want to know about are:

Learning how can you can  love myself more right now is very powerful personally and professionally.

Here is Lori’s blog Creating Mental Space to Allow for What You Want Learn about letting go of old in order to create new. You are taking up your valuable heart real estate with negative thoughts and it is keeping you from feeling what you really desire and accomplishing what is important to you .

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