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What happens when family members critique your clothing choices or lifestyle? When is it appropriate to step back from unreasonable demands? Today, we're tackling these questions through our popular "Am I The Asshole" segment, examining four scenarios that strike at the heart of personal boundaries and autonomy.

First, we explore an 18-year-old's dilemma when her aunt criticizes her bathing suit choice at a family camping trip. The generational divide becomes apparent as we unpack how older family members sometimes project shame onto younger women's bodies. We offer practical advice for addressing these uncomfortable situations without compromising your self-expression.

Next, we examine a fascinating case where financially independent adult children become targets of jealousy from family members whose kids haven't developed the same work ethic. The contrast between a 21-year-old who's been working since age 15 versus cousins who've "never worked a day in their lives" sparks an important conversation about how success can trigger others' insecurities.

The third scenario involves morning showers, overnight shifts, and household dynamics – seemingly small conflicts that reveal larger issues about whose comfort takes priority. When a girlfriend stops visiting after being told her 8:30am shower disturbs others, who's really being unreasonable?

Finally, we tackle the thorny issue of unpaid labor in relationships. When does helping your partner's business cross from supportive to exploitative? We break down why paperwork and site visits aren't just "helping out" – they're work that deserves compensation.

Throughout these discussions, we notice a pattern: people who question whether they're being unreasonable are often the ones with the healthiest boundaries. As Trina points out, "Someone who is an actual asshole is not asking if they're an asshole."

Join us for these thought-provoking conversations that will help you recognize when standing your ground isn't just acceptable – it's necessary for your wellbeing. Subscribe to Mind Your Heart Podcast for more candid discussions about mental health and navigating life's complicated moments.

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What happens when two empaths sit down to answer seven deceptively simple questions about their inner lives? The result is a heartfelt exploration of emotional intelligence that might just change how you approach your next meaningful conversation.

In this uniquely personal episode, we dive into a set of questions designed to reveal what's truly in someone's heart and mind. Originally created for parents wanting deeper connections with their children, we discover these questions work brilliantly for any relationship seeking greater understanding. From "What do you think about when you're quiet?" to "What makes your heart feel happy?", each question peels back layers of our emotional landscape.

The conversation takes a particularly moving turn when we both identify as highly sensitive people, sharing stories of being labeled "too emotional" throughout our lives. We reflect on how society's perception of sensitivity is evolving, challenging the harmful notion that emotional awareness is something to overcome rather than embrace. One particularly powerful anecdote involves creating safe spaces for children to experience emotions in a classroom setting, demonstrating how emotional openness can be nurtured from a young age.

Whether you're seeking to understand yourself better or hoping to connect more deeply with someone you love, these seven questions offer a powerful template for meaningful conversation. Try asking them to someone in your life - their answers might surprise you, and the connection you build might be transformative. After all, the quiet spaces between our thoughts often hold the most profound truths about who we really are.

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What does it mean when someone asks "how are you" but doesn't really want the honest answer? Emily and Trina dive into this deceptively complex social interaction before opening up about their current mental health journeys. 

Emily shares her recent struggles with depression while simultaneously battling recurring illnesses, a UTI, and infections from antibiotics. She candidly discusses her PCOS diagnosis and pre-diabetes, revealing the frustration of needing medication long-term when she'd hoped to function without it. This leads to a powerful conversation about accepting help when our bodies need it and the disappointment that sometimes comes with that reality.

The mood lightens as Trina recounts her recent European adventure through Ireland, London, and Paris. Her description of finding peace in Ireland's breathtaking landscapes and an adults-only infinity pool overlooking mountains serves as a beautiful contrast to daily life stresses. This travel segment highlights how sometimes physically removing ourselves from our environments can provide much-needed perspective and moments of tranquility.

The conversation then shifts to setting boundaries with family members who cause emotional harm. Using the vivid metaphor of someone "taking a sledgehammer to your safety," they explore how walking away from harmful relationships isn't running—it's making an active, healthy choice. They discuss the manipulation tactics used to make boundary-setters feel guilty and the importance of recognizing these patterns.

Throughout this heartfelt catchup, Emily and Trina weave together personal experiences with broader mental health concepts, creating a tapestry listeners can relate to. Whether you're struggling with health issues, difficult relationships, or simply feeling overwhelmed, their authentic sharing creates a safe space to reflect on your own journey toward peace and self-advocacy.

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What happens when complex family dynamics collide with strong personalities? Emily and Trina tackle this question head-on through the lens of Reddit's popular "Am I The Asshole" forum. Their candid conversation explores moral gray areas where there are no perfect answers—only messy, human situations that require thoughtful consideration.

The duo dissects a Mother's Day celebration drama where a newly-married stepmom expects recognition despite the child not even knowing about the marriage. This sparks a deeper discussion about what truly makes someone a parent beyond legal titles. Is it fair to expect immediate recognition, or does parenting status develop through consistent presence and care? Emily and Trina offer nuanced perspectives that challenge listeners to reconsider their assumptions about blended families.

When examining a case involving a hurtful 13-year-old niece, they push back against the common excuse that "kids will be kids." Instead, they make a compelling argument for natural consequences as powerful teaching moments. Their distinction between normal teenage rudeness and actual bullying highlights how these terms have become diluted in everyday language.

The hosts' chemistry shines throughout as they navigate grammatically challenging submissions with humor and patience. Their analysis of teenage friendship dynamics—particularly around the pressure to appear romantically successful—demonstrates remarkable empathy while maintaining healthy boundaries.

What makes this episode particularly valuable is how Emily and Trina consistently look beyond surface-level judgments to examine the underlying emotional needs driving these conflicts. Their practical wisdom offers listeners tools for navigating their own complex relationships with more awareness and compassion.

Ready to sharpen your moral compass while enjoying genuine conversation between friends? Subscribe now and join the conversation about where to draw lines in relationships—and how to do it with both kindness and self-respect.

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The medical establishment has a dirty secret: most doctors receive only ONE HOUR of menopause training during their entire education. This staggering knowledge gap explains why millions of women suffer needlessly through perimenopause and menopause without proper care or understanding.

When host Trina shares her personal journey through menopause that began relatively young at age 47, she reveals the physical and emotional hell she endured. From debilitating hot flashes that made her feel like she was "burning from the inside" to extreme mood swings, brain fog, and depression - these symptoms weren't just inconveniences but life-altering challenges that healthcare providers routinely dismissed.

Most shocking is how symptoms many women attribute to aging, autoimmune conditions, or mental health issues might actually stem from hormone imbalances. Vaginal atrophy (which affects urinary health too), unexplained weight gain, osteopenia, skin changes, and even cognitive difficulties can all connect back to plummeting hormone levels. Meanwhile, common ingredients like soy act as hormone disruptors, making symptoms worse while hiding in everything from supplements to medications.

The disparity between how we treat men's and women's health becomes painfully obvious. As Trina points out, "If we were to tell men that their penis was going to shrivel up, it would be a medical emergency," yet women are expected to accept vaginal atrophy as an inevitable part of aging. While medications like Viagra receive fast-track approval, many hormone treatments for women remain understudied or inaccessible.

Finding specialized care often requires deep research, significant financial investment, and persistence against a system that continues to marginalize women's experiences. But the transformation possible with proper hormone management - from improved cognitive function to better sleep, mood stability, and sexual wellness - makes the fight worthwhile.

Have you experienced unexplained symptoms your doctor dismissed? Listen now, then share with the women in your life who deserve better healthcare. Together, we can demand the medical system stop treating women's bodies as mysterious afterthoughts.

Links Mentioned in the Show:

You Are Not Broken, Dr. Kelly Casperson: 318. How (AND WHY) to Prescribe Hormones

The Drive: Women's Sexual Health, Menopause, and Hormone Replacement Therapy (Dr. Rachael Rubin)

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Ever feel like the universe is trying to slow you down by any means necessary? That's exactly what happened when Emily traveled to Peru for what was meant to be a rejuvenating retreat but turned into an unexpected journey of physical limitations, emotional revelations, and reluctant self-care.

At nearly 12,000 feet elevation (double that of Colorado!), Emily's body quickly made it clear that she wasn't in Florida anymore. Despite faithfully attending Pilates three times weekly at home, Emily found herself struggling to breathe after the simplest walks. The shame and frustration of being physically limited despite her preparation became her first teacher – forcing her to confront expectations she'd placed on herself and her body. When retreat leader Jaden found Emily in tears, her gentle reminder that "the whole reason we're here is to hold space for what you need" became permission Emily didn't know she needed.

Between the stunning vistas of Machu Picchu, textile-making demonstrations with all-natural materials, and cultural ceremonies that left Emily speechless, Peru itself became a profound teacher. The locals' reverence for Pachamama (Mother Earth) and their understanding that honoring the earth means honoring ourselves challenged Emily's perspectives on our relationship with nature. Even as she struggled with the intensive schedule that left little downtime between experiences, these cultural immersions provided moments of pure magic that transcended Emily's physical discomfort.

Coming home should have meant rest, but instead brought illness followed by a back injury – forcing the slow-down Emily had been resisting. As wedding planning intensifies and life's demands continue to multiply, this Peru experience serves as a powerful reminder that sometimes our greatest growth happens when we surrender to our limitations rather than fighting against them. What parts of your life might be asking you to slow down and honor what your body and spirit truly need?

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What happens when family boundaries get blurred and relationships hit unexpected roadblocks? In this episode of Mind Your Heart, Emily and Trina dive into the wildly popular "Am I The Asshole" subreddit to analyze complex family dynamics that leave people questioning themselves.

The duo tackles four fascinating scenarios with their trademark mother-daughter candor. They explore a woman's reluctance to move in with her boyfriend because his 12-year-old daughter clearly doesn't like her—a situation that triggers deeper discussions about blending families, children's emotional needs after divorce, and the importance of not rushing relationships when kids are involved. Both hosts validate the woman's decision to trust her instincts rather than forcing a potentially harmful living situation.

Their analysis continues with other equally compelling scenarios: questioning whether it's appropriate to verify with a parent before giving an 11-year-old coffee (absolutely yes!), navigating boundaries when family members visit your home while you're away, and perhaps most provocatively, a husband expecting his wife to clean up his vomit while she's already caring for their toddlers. This last scenario sparks particularly passionate reactions as they discuss entitlement in relationships and the notorious tendency for some men to become "such babies" when sick.

Throughout their thoughtful commentary, Emily and Trina blend psychological insights with practical wisdom, helping listeners recognize healthy boundaries and problematic relationship patterns. Their perspectives offer valuable frameworks for evaluating similar situations in your own life, whether you're dealing with blended family challenges, in-law boundaries, or partnership expectations. 

Ready to gain clarity on those messy relationship situations that leave you wondering if you're overreacting? Listen now and join the conversation about where reasonable boundaries begin and end.

Trina's First Published Book- Hilarious Would You Rather This or That Writing for Kids

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What happens when a mother and daughter candidly explore the most challenging aspects of their relationship? This raw, heartfelt conversation between Emily and Trina delves into those small moments that forge powerful bonds – from end-of-day debriefings that echo childhood rituals to the physical grounding that happens when anxiety takes over.

Through audience questions, they navigate recent misunderstandings between them, revealing how a text message beginning with "For your information..." spiraled into feelings of disconnection until they committed to face-to-face honest communication. Their vulnerability shines as they discuss how third-party intervention can sometimes worsen communication problems rather than solve them.

The conversation takes unexpected turns as they challenge mental health myths, particularly around medication. Both share personal struggles with finding the right treatment – Emily describing herself as "trying every medication ever with all the worst side effects" while her partner found success immediately. This contrast highlights an important reality: mental health journeys look dramatically different for each person.

Perhaps most powerful is their reflection on strength. Trina reveals how her understanding evolved from believing strength meant "putting it all together" to recognizing that "real strength comes in vulnerability." Meanwhile, Emily shares what she would tell her 17-year-old self struggling with an eating disorder: "You won't have to carry this forever."

For listeners wanting to start mental health conversations but feeling overwhelmed, their advice is refreshingly simple: take one small step. "You don't have to figure out how to get on the right train yet," Emily explains. "Just get off the wrong one."

Tune in for a conversation that feels less like a podcast and more like sitting with trusted friends who aren't afraid to share both their struggles and their wisdom. What small step toward better mental health might you take today?

Trina's First Published Book- Hilarious Would You Rather This or That Writing for Kids

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Have you ever stood firm in your faith when everything seemed to be crumbling? After a longer-than-usual break between episodes, we're back with an intimate catch-up that covers everything from unexpected job loss to standing mere inches from Hugh Jackman.

When Jake suddenly lost his church position, it could have triggered panic. Instead, we witnessed how unwavering faith creates space for better opportunities to emerge. The contrast between toxic work environments and healthy ones becomes crystal clear as we discuss the difference between places that expect endless dedication without proper support versus organizations that recognize talent, respect boundaries, and equip their team with necessary tools. This transition serves as a powerful reminder that sometimes life's interruptions become its greatest gifts.

The conversation shifts to the hustle behind the scenes when you're balancing entrepreneurship with adventure. From publishing a children's book to preparing for trips to Peru and Morocco, we reveal the unglamorous reality of working double-time before taking time off. It's the side of business ownership that social media rarely shows – late nights ensuring client work is complete so you can fully immerse yourself in experiences abroad.

Perhaps most touching is our discussion of pure joy found in unexpected places. The emotional high of seeing Hugh Jackman perform created a happiness that lingered for days afterward. We explore those rare, transcendent moments when connecting with something meaningful creates an almost indescribable feeling – a mixture of pride, gratitude, and wonder that lifts your spirits above life's chaos.

Throughout it all, our mother-daughter dynamic provides contrasting perspectives on everything from work-life balance to raising children in a travel-filled life. Whether you're navigating career changes, planning adventures, or seeking those elusive moments of pure joy, this episode reminds you that faith can carry you through uncertainty to something better waiting on the other side.

Trina's First Published Book- Hilarious Would You Rather This or That Writing for Kids

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Language evolves at lightning speed, creating chasms of understanding between generations that are both frustrating and hilarious. Our mother-daughter hosting duo tackles this linguistic divide head-on by quizzing each other on slang from their respective eras.

Emily challenges mom Trina to decipher modern Gen Z terms like "riz" (short for charisma), "no kizzy" (an intensified version of "no cap," meaning complete honesty), and "bussin" (describing something exceptionally good). Meanwhile, Trina introduces 80s classics including "tubular," "bodacious," and "gag me with a spoon" - terms that once defined coolness but now sound like relics from another linguistic universe.

What emerges from our playful cross-generational translation game is the surprising revelation that while vocabulary changes dramatically, the purpose behind slang remains remarkably consistent. Whether you're a teen in 1985 or 2023, you need shorthand expressions for authenticity, style assessment, and emphasizing statements. The embarrassment both hosts feel when saying these terms out of context highlights another truth about slang - its power often depends on organic adoption within specific communities. We explore which terms have staying power (like "vibe" or "sus") versus which fade into linguistic obscurity, reflecting on how some former slang eventually becomes standard language.

Whether you're constantly trying to keep up with evolving language or you find yourself frequently explaining your generation's expressions to confused onlookers, this episode offers equal parts nostalgia and laughter. Share your favorite generational slang terms with us - we're curious which expressions from your era have survived the test of time!

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