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What if the things you believe about yourself… aren’t actually true?

What if “I’m not smart enough,” “I’m too much,” “I’m lazy,” “I’m not capable,” or “I’m just not good at this” aren’t facts at all?

What if they’re stories you picked up somewhere along the way and repeated so many times that they started to feel like your identity?

In this episode of Mind Your Mama, I sit down with Emily Erb from the Stop It Podcast for one of those conversations that starts with limiting beliefs and somehow ends up touching damn near everything: confidence, self-worth, motherhood, perfectionism, procrastination, people pleasing, childhood conditioning, negative self-talk, and the stories we carry into adulthood without even realizing it.

We talk about where these beliefs come from, why knowing better doesn’t always mean believing better, and what happens when you finally start questioning the voice in your head that keeps telling you who you are allowed to be.

Because at some point, you have to ask:

Who told me this was true about me?

And maybe more importantly…

Why am I still letting it run my life?

This is not a quick “just think positive” conversation.

It’s honest, funny, uncomfortable, personal, and the kind of episode that may have you catching yourself halfway through thinking, Oh shit… I do that too.

And by the end, we get into something I think most women forget far too often:

You already have an unbelievable amount of evidence that you can do hard things.

Maybe it’s time to start believing the evidence.

Listen to the full episode wherever you get your podcasts.

In this episode: limiting beliefs, self-doubt, negative self-talk, self-worth, confidence, motherhood identity, perfectionism, people pleasing, childhood conditioning, mindset, overcoming self-doubt, personal growth, subconscious beliefs, and breaking old patterns.

What if the things you believe about yourself… aren’t actually true?

What if “I’m not smart enough,” “I’m too much,” “I’m lazy,” “I’m not capable,” or “I’m just not good at this” aren’t facts at all?

What if they’re stories you picked up somewhere along the way and repeated so many times that they started to feel like your identity?

In this episode of Mind Your Mama, I sit down with Emily Erb from the Stop It Podcast for one of those conversations that starts with limiting beliefs and somehow ends up touching damn near everything: confidence, self-worth, motherhood, perfectionism, procrastination, people pleasing, childhood conditioning, negative self-talk, and the stories we carry into adulthood without even realizing it.

We talk about where these beliefs come from, why knowing better doesn’t always mean believing better, and what happens when you finally start questioning the voice in your head that keeps telling you who you are allowed to be.

Because at some point, you have to ask:

Who told me this was true about me?

And maybe more importantly…

Why am I still letting it run my life?

This is not a quick “just think positive” conversation.

It’s honest, funny, uncomfortable, personal, and the kind of episode that may have you catching yourself halfway through thinking, Oh shit… I do that too.

And by the end, we get into something I think most women forget far too often:

You already have an unbelievable amount of evidence that you can do hard things.

Maybe it’s time to start believing the evidence.

Listen to the full episode wherever you get your podcasts.

In this episode: limiting beliefs, self-doubt, negative self-talk, self-worth, confidence, motherhood identity, perfectionism, people pleasing, childhood conditioning, mindset, overcoming self-doubt, personal growth, subconscious beliefs, and breaking old patterns.

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What happens when motherhood comes before you’ve even had the chance to figure out who you are?

In this episode of Mind Your Mama, I sit down with Dr. Chiquita Mack for a conversation about motherhood, identity, depression, marriage, ambition, and the parts of becoming a mom that women are often expected to quietly carry.

Chiquita shares pieces of her journey from becoming a young mother while chasing huge dreams to eventually realizing she had completely lost herself somewhere along the way.

But this isn’t a polished “look how successful everything became” story.

We talk about the lonely parts. The resentment. The invisible load. The moments when you’re technically functioning but know something inside of you isn’t okay. And what can happen when you finally stop pretending you’re fine and start listening to yourself.

If you’ve ever looked at your life and thought, “I love my family… but where the hell did I go?” this conversation is for you.

We get into:

• Losing your identity inside motherhood
• Maternal mental health and depression
• The invisible mental load women carry
• Marriage, resentment, and asking for help
• Why motherhood can uncover things you thought you already healed
• Learning to hear yourself again
• Building a life that includes the woman underneath all the roles

And yes, we also talk about the messy, unpretty, occasionally poop-filled reality of raising kids because apparently no motherhood conversation is complete without it.

Listen now and come hang out with us.

Guest: Dr. Chiquita Mack

Instagram: @theChiquitaMack

Host: Lauren Trout, Mind Your Mama Podcast

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I have spent way too much of my life asking, “Do I look sexy?” instead of asking the much better question:

“Do I actually FEEL sexy?”

Because apparently having three kids, boobs that have been through a breast reduction and then motherhood, a stomach with its own personality, and being touched by children approximately 47,000 times a day will really make you rethink some shit.

So we’re talking about sex. Really talking about it.

The body image spiral. Feeling touched out. Watching yourself during sex instead of actually enjoying it. Why shared responsibility is basically foreplay now. Why emotional safety does NOT mean boring sex. And why your partner cannot reconnect you to a body you’ve completely disconnected from yourself.

Also: one-sided sex? We’re grown. Absolutely not.

Maybe you don’t need to “get your old body back.”

Maybe you need to figure out who the hell this version of you is now — what she wants, what turns her on, what shuts her down, and what makes her feel hot as fuck.

Because your body changed.

Your desires might have too.

And neither one means something is wrong with you.

Your body is still yours.

Your pleasure is still yours.

And yes, you can have really fucking good sex in the body you have right now.

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I went from “I’m stepping into my purpose” to literally stepping in dog shit and cleaning up vomit in a matter of hours.

Very humbling. Very on brand for motherhood.

This mini episode is about what happens when life immediately tests the version of you who just decided she’s ready for more.

Do you let one shitty night become proof that everything is off track?

Or do you decide, “Nope. I’m still going.”

Because real change does not require perfect conditions.

And yes — sometimes shit is just shit.

Literally.

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What if some of the things you call your “personality” are actually patterns you learned to survive, belong, or be accepted?

In this episode, Lauren gets personal about growing up feeling like she had to prove she was smart, capable, and worthy—and how those old stories can quietly follow us into adulthood.

This is a conversation about identity, people-pleasing, self-worth, ambition, childhood conditioning, and the roles we learn to play just to feel like we belong.

The question isn’t only, “Who am I?”

It’s:

Who told me who I had to be?

And what parts of that story am I finally ready to question?

YES YOU ARE.

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What if you stopped waiting to feel ready?

In this episode, Lauren gets real about self-doubt, confidence, comparison, and what happens when you walk into the room before you believe you belong there.

After stepping onto a stage this weekend, she realized something we all need to hear: confidence doesn’t always come first. Sometimes you make the move scared—and the confidence comes because you did.

This is about remembering everything you’ve already survived, appreciating how far you’ve come, and refusing to let fear decide what you’re capable of next.

Because you are not starting with nothing.

You are starting with evidence.

YES YOU CAN.

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What if the part of your life that feels the most uncomfortable isn't proof you're doing something wrong?

What if it's the exact place where you're changing?

Lauren sits down with Emily Erb for a raw conversation about the messy middle — the space between who you've been and who you're becoming. The part nobody puts on Instagram. The second-guessing. The negative self-talk. The urge to quit. The what the fuck am I even doing? of it all.

They get into nervous system regulation, self-worth, motherhood, learning to tolerate discomfort, why rest can feel harder than pushing through, and the stories we create about ourselves when life doesn't go according to plan.

But here's the part we forget:

You're already sitting on a mountain of evidence that you can do hard things.

And even while you're figuring it all out, you're still allowed to laugh, blast your favorite song, eat the damn peanut butter cup, and find joy right in the middle of the hard shit.

Two things can be true.

You can be struggling AND growing.

You can be scared AND capable.

You can be sad AND still experience joy.

Maybe you don't need to escape the messy middle.

Maybe you need to stop believing it means you're failing.

🎧 Listen if you're navigating a life transition, questioning what's next, working through self-doubt, trying to regulate your nervous system, or becoming a version of yourself you haven't met yet.

YES. YOU ARE. And YES. YOU CAN.

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Life can be really fucking hard without every moment of your life having to feel hard.

Somewhere along the way, we learned that struggling is supposed to look like sweatpants, tissues, ice cream, canceled plans, and shutting ourselves away until we magically “get through it.”

But what if resilience looks different?

In this bonus episode, Lauren talks about finding joy in the middle of the mess, breaking generational patterns around how we experience hard seasons, and refusing to let one painful chapter take the rest of your life hostage.

Because sometimes healing looks like doing the deep work.

And sometimes it looks like calling your best friend, turning the music up, laughing your ass off, and remembering that you are still in there.

You don't have to wait until everything is okay to start living again.

And you definitely don't have to feel guilty when happiness finds you in the darkness.

Go find your Colleen. 💗

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What happens when the life you worked so hard to build doesn’t fit anymore?

The career. The relationship. The friendships. The version of you everyone expects you to keep being.

Lauren is in the messy fucking middle of some big questions herself, and this isn’t an episode from the other side. There’s no perfect ending, five-step plan, or bullshit promise that making the scary decision will suddenly make everything easy.

This is a conversation about what courage actually looks like when you don’t know what happens next. About the cost of staying. The fear of disappointing people. The identities we learned to hide inside. And why the hardest part of changing your life might be believing you’re allowed to want something different in the first place.

If you’ve been quietly wondering, “Can I really do this?”

This episode is for you.

Yes. You are.

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What if she didn't lose her sex drive?

What if it was worn down one disappointment at a time?

Today we're talking about sex, emotional safety, resentment, the slow death of desire, and something I call “yes-fucking”: when someone keeps saying I hear you, I understand, I'll change... and then absolutely nothing changes.

This one is personal. It's uncomfortable. And men, you need to hear it too.

Not for little ears. 🎧

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