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Most Influential Person

My Mother.

Effect on Emotions

Mindfulness has made it possible for me to respond instead of react.

Instead of carrying anger all the time so that when something is said that's harmful and hurtful, I am ready to retaliate with the same type of expression, I now realize that love is the answer.

So for everything that happens, it's like, go inside and find what would love do.

What would love say? What would love think? How would love behave? That's how mindfulness and slowing down is really blessed and helped me.

Thoughts on Breathing

Breathing, for me, represents the source of life.

When breath ends, we've transitioned to a new place, and so I treasure breath like I treasure love. There is such gratitude and acceptance and, I can't say enough, for the breath.

With each breath, I am given an opportunity, a possibility to be my best self, to think my best thoughts, to say the best words. That's the importance of breathing for me.

Without breath, I am not. With breath, I am.

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Book: Unclutter Your Mind: 500 Ways to Focus on What's Important by Donna Smallin

Book: Discover Your Inner Strength by Jim Bandrowski, Stephen Covey, Ken Blanchard, Brian Tracy, Rubye Braye, and others

App: Sonic Aid CDs

Bullying Story

When I integrated Cloverdale, [a middle school in Montgomery, Alabama] I was bullied in ways that were just horrific.

It is not enough to be told. I won't use the terms and the phrases. I don't want to put them in the universe again.

Things that were believed about black people, things the children and their parents said to black people and things that were done to black people.

My mother, embracing nonviolence, simply said, "If you get in a fight and come home and I am made aware, you will have another fight with me." She was so committed to nonviolence, but that didn't mean that I had to be passive, that I couldn't stand up and confront evil, but that I was not to retaliate with violence.

And so I found myself whispering prayers, both for me and those that I interacted with, the other children and their parents, the teachers at the school, and the administrators at the school, "Help us all. Help us all."

I can remember sitting in church listening to Dr King addressing the importance of nonviolence and not retaliating with violence. That would be like putting gasoline on a fire. You don't fight fire with fire.

And it was just a gift. And even now as an adult, there are times when I just project love and light out into the universe, knowing that, like the symbol for the ying and the yang, there will always be light, there will always be darkness. The brightest light helps to balance the darkest darkness.

It's like, let me carry this bright light. And in so doing, I don't do it just for me, but to help model the way for others.

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Most Influential Person

David Goggins, former U.S. Navy Seal https://davidgoggins.com/

Effect on Emotions

I'm more aware of them [my emotions], almost like I can see them before they're coming or I can sense the triggers and become mindful of what's happening and what my trigger points are. This has allowed me to manage my negative emotions and process them a lot more effectively than I used to. It's been absolutely huge for me.

Thoughts on Breathing

Breathing helps calm me. It really helps calm me. It's that resetting and emotional trigger. I got a lot of practice doing [this breathing with] some of these ultras [I've done].

You really have to reset your breathing when you look down and you see you've got a really technical route to run and it's 1:00 AM in the morning, the wind's blowing and you're scared as well.

Not only are you breathing hard because you're tired because you're 14 hours into a run. You're also scared because it just looks really dangerous and there's that trigger that is activated through [breathing].

Not only does it allow me to regulate my body functions, if you will, my cardiovascular system. It also allows me to center myself and to regain my composure.

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Book: Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life by Byron Katie

App: 0-100 Push-Ups Trainer by www.ZenLabsFitness.com

Bullying Story

I was bullied. I was 11 years old. In the UK education system, you go into secondary school at age 11. So at that time, it's kind of a whole new playground. The area in which we grew up is a place called is a place called West Drayton, which is a suburb in west of London. It's a white working class community and I was one of very few British Indian kids that were in that school.

This school had a registration system had to be overhauled because the amount of bullying that existed. With any kind of registration you would typically be put with people in your same class or at your same level. For example, you wouldn't put a commanding officer and a new recruit in the same class. My school was different in that they'd put the 11 year olds with the 16 year olds all the way through the registration.

And in that registration, there were four brothers, ages 11, 12, 14 and 16. And really it just happened that, they took a liking to me. But, you know, it just evolved into really horrible kind of tense registration experiences because I was an easy target. I was there kind of by myself. They would do the play fighting, but really actually they punched you quite hard and then if you try and fight back a little bit, then one of the other brothers would kind of push you.

I eventually moved school. I moved off after two and a half years. So by the time I was 13 and a half or 14, I think I always recall that as I just told you, I would once or twice try to kind of fight back if you will. And I did again when I was about 13 and a half and one of the brothers kind of just struck me in the face. I remember falling over. It was at lunchtime and I was walking away and trying to just do my best to hold back from, from crying.

I also bullied as well in parallel. It was weird. I saw other people, when I look back on it in hindsight.

It's difficult for me to talk about because I'm kind of ashamed of it, but I mean it's the reality of what happened.

There was another guy, a kid, a Hungarian migrant, I think. Solveeka was his first name, I think. And, you know, he was from a migrant family just as I was, but he was the first generation migrant. I wa

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Most Influential Person

Dr. Joe Dispenza https://drjoedispenza.com/

Effect on Emotions

I'm more in touch with them [my emotions], and less afraid of them and I love that our emotions are governed by our thoughts and I can back out of anything and not be fearful of my own emotions.

Thoughts on Breathing

Breathing is a big one because if I'm not conscious of my breathing and I notice they're shallow breath's going on, that automatically triggers that sympathetic dominance and I think my body goes into this panic mode so I can remember to breathe.

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Book: Secrets of the Lost Mode of Prayer: The Hidden Power of Beauty, Blessing, Wisdom, and Hurt by  Gregg Braden

App: Water Your Body (This App will remind you to drink water)

Bullying Story

I was married for four years. It's been a long time, but I married somebody who would be considered a bully. It wasn't physical, it was that emotional and mental abuse that I simply didn't have the tools in my mindfulness box to understand how to deal with.

I just figured I'm a nice person and everybody should be nice to me. And this person, you know, he decided he was going to take advantage and I wished that I had been more present of mind to that lack of coherence between the brain and the heart because I knew walking down the aisle that I probably shouldn't be doing this.

And I did it anyways because the invitations were out. People were sitting there and I was like, oh my God, how embarrassing is this going to be? I was 20. I was young. I didn't have the experience that I do now.

I would not put up with things that I put up with in order to go through with that.

So in hindsight, you know, if we don't learn from our mistakes, I don't know what good they are. So make them young, I guess.

That would've been great to be able to manage that situation better, to be more mindful.

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Most Influential Person

Walt Disney and Dr. Suess. Also Jayson Gaignard, Joe Polish, Jay Abraham, Dean Jackson. There are so many.

Effect on Emotions

Breathing and mindfulness are one and the same. How I think of things tells me how I feel about them.

Thoughts on Breathing

People don't realize the importance of breath.

You know, you'll go to a car and you'll stand there and try and work out what's the best gas to put in the machine, but you won't pay attention to you recharging and paying attention to your breath.

Take the time to breathe.

Suggested Resources

Book: Bluefishing: The Art of Making Things Happen by Steve Sims

App: It shuts your phone off. I don't know the name of it, it allows you to surf the Internet but the phone will only connect to the internet for like a three hour period and you get yourself into a habit of that. You start focusing on making the most value out of your time, so it's one that shuts your phone off. Tim Ferriss told me about it.

Bullying Story

I would openly say I wasn't the sharpest tool in the shed is a young lad. I noticed very, very early on that fear was the issue. If we don't have fear of something then we achieve way, way more. But we're held back by how much we actually fear.

And I remember as a kid being a very big lad. I don't know if it was the Irish genes or whatever, but I've always been a big, big boy. Um, and I remember at school, all the young lads wanting to earn their stripes, would pick on the big lad. You know, I got picked on a lot, so I got picked on way more than the smaller kids.

So if you want to know about bullying, I, I believe for a long period I was the one getting bullied. I remember this lad coming up to me, that was a bit bigger, not as big as me, but still big enough to cause me to be a bit concerned.

And he came up to me in the school class, and he was trying to earn his stripes around his mates so we have two or three of his mates around him and I remember this vividly, walks up to me in a class and he's like, me and you, school end. I'm going to have you, you know, and it was a typical kind of like, you know, 13 year old hard talk that sounds pathetic now.

And in a split second, all I could think about was, oh my God, after school, I'm going to get beaten up. And then I thought, I don't want to spend the whole afternoon worried about getting beaten up. So I stood up and punched him in the head and I got suspended. But I wasn't fighting.

And then I came back to school and it was funny. I came back to school and he didn't pick on me, but other people still did. I remember this feeling of being bullied and then I never used to respond.

People used to push me around and I didn't want to fight.

And then I remember seeing some other people being bullied and I remember stepping in. And the only fights I ever got in was when I saw other people being bullied, I hate people being bullied. I hate people being intimidated and the trouble is nowadays and I don't want to get psychological, but we bully and intimidate ourselves.

We already have talked about how we dilute our own dreams. That's a bully on your shoulder. Get rid of that bastard. He's not worth being there.

But it was funny because when when was on the train, and it was funny you brought this question

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Most Influential Person

Jack Canfield

Effect on Emotions

Oh, mindfulness has been a game changer. It's allowed me to be with my emotions and transcend them.

One quick story is in relationship to survivor's guilt. I struggled with survivor's guilt when I came back from the war. I lost a friend. I let that guilt consume me in many dark ways through alcohol and all these kinds of things that drove me to some dark places.

I felt I didn't deserve to be here; I didn't deserve to be alive. But now my guilt is an ally. I still feel it. I have a picture of my friend that says on the wall and it says, this should have been you. You earned this life.

So mindfulness has allowed me to be with that guilt and be okay with it and channel it to something useful.

Thoughts on Breathing

I'm starting to get much more proactive, you know, through yoga and through my running because I'm really working on it a lot more.

I also recently learned from my friend about the Wim Hof breathing method, Wim Hof, The Iceman. So it's starting to get much more proactive.

Before that it was just really through deep breath and meditation, but it's definitely something I'm working on now. Enhancing to take my running and my life to the next level.

My nutritionist friend Anthony, he had studied with Wim Hof, so he taught me a little bit about the Wim Hof breathing method and I mean on my second try, I held my breath for I think two to two and a half minutes. I'm not somebody who could do that. Like for some people it might be nothing, but for me I was never able to do that. Like that was not good at that.

But just through this technique, I was blown away by how long I was able to hold my breath on my second try of doing it.

Suggested Resources

Book: Buddha's Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Love, Happiness, and Wisdom by Rick Hanson

Book: Fearvana: The Revolutionary Science of How to Turn Fear into Health, Wealth and Happiness by Akshay Nanavati

App: The timer on my phone

Bullying Story

This story is kind of awful. I'm not proud of it. But there was this one kid in Singapore, he was this little Indian kid and I used to kind of tease him a lot on the playing field. It was nothing serious, you know.

But one day it got pretty serious. We were in the class and I essentially was the leader of this outfit where I got every kid in class; boys and girls, even the girls to get up and essentially punch this kid.

The poor kid was obviously helpless, I mean, this is the entire class. He left the class crying. I still pretty vividly remember it.

The whole class got in trouble, but they knew that I was the leader of this little band of bullies. I was suspended from school for a few days.

Needless to say, my mom wasn't too proud of me. I wasn't too proud of it as well, but that was the one that stands out because that one was pretty awful to subject a kid to.

So I actually apologi

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Most Influential Person

Oprah

Effect on Emotions

Mindfulness has clarified my emotions and slowed them down. It has detached the emotions from who I am and what my actions are going to be and it's really slowed down that process. My actions and who I show up to be is a lot more intentional.

Thoughts on Breathing

Oh breathing is huge. I think it's probably the core of my mindfulness practice. It's the core of everything for me. So there are times where the very first thing that I'll do is just stop, close my eyes, take three deep breaths. And even just that allows me to find that pause and get centered. It's huge.

Suggested Resources

Book: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

App: Hi Future Self (Schedule notes and messages to yourself that come on your phone at certain times)

Bullying Story

Actually have a reverse kind of a story which I think is really interesting. I am the mom to a two and a half year old, very strong willed, very opinionated, very chock full of personality, little girl.

So [she's] two and a half and she goes to school a couple days a week and there have been a couple instances where she's hitting and she's like, you know, kind of like somebody takes her toy and she hits or you know, she didn't want somebody to touch her so she hits, right.

And I have found that this is a very uncomfortable but necessary for my husband and I. We have already had this conversation of like, dude, she's one of those kids who's going to go after what she wants.

She's the one who walks in the room with a class full of kids who are like a year older than her and she will take over the room, which is a great skill. But we both realize we really have to make sure that we're watching this so it doesn't turn into bullying. We [believe we] can really massage it into all the great skills that are a [strong leader].

So that was the most recent experience that I've had with really recognizing it and needing to teach her those lessons of when it's okay to be physical with somebody. I mean, I don't want my kid to get beaten up either.

I don't want people to just take from her and that can be okay. So I want her to learn how to stand for herself and when it is not okay. So that's the most in my face bullying thing that I'm super aware of right now as a mother, oh my goodness. And it's, it's scary because I'm in charge of that.

And so for mindfulness, obviously mindfulness for me and Chris as parents and being aware of that and needing to deal with that in the moment and actively trying to teach her what to do when you get angry and how can you breathe? And we do that.

[We tell her] hey, when you're mad, you know, stomp your feet and take a deep breath. And sometimes if she's really mad she'll be like, no, I don't want to. But you know she's learning that.

So she's learning to take a deep breath, do the pause, so that you can see what's going on versus what the emotions are driving you to.

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Most Influential Person

Ram Daas www.RamDaas.org  and the Seva Foundation www.Seva.org

Effect on Emotions

Mindfulness has made me more present. It's about understanding those emotions and having nothing attached to them; allowing them to be.

It's not about shoving those emotions away.

It's about seeing those emotions and being present with them and just allowing them to have their light. Not to be attached to what they are or what I'm feeling about them.

Thoughts on Breathing

Whenever I get into an emotional state, the first thing I start doing is noticing my breathing.

A mindfulness practice is usually centered upon noticing your breath and your belly rising and falling.

The first thing I do when i get tense or stressed or really upset, I start really feeling my breathing. The worst thing you can do in those moments is to get into shallow breathing.

Suggested Resources

Book: Be Here Now by Ram Daas

Book: How Can I Help? by Ram Daas

Book: Grist For The Mill by Ram Daas

App: N/A I think 'Community' is the best tool for those wanting to embrace a mediation practice.

Bullying Story

I had some experiences as a child where I was bullied a little bit. I was a smaller guy, and of course, you know people will pick on you because you're smaller sometimes.

I had good friends and they were always around to help take care of me if it was needed. I was  really good at standing up for myself.

One time I was up the block from where I used to live in Santamonica. I saw this guy walking quickly down the sidewalk and he had a dog on a leash. It was a smaller dog and he was almost dragging it. The dog was suffering. I thought, this was not right, so I stopped him and said, what the hell are you doing, this dog is not able to keep up with you.

I had the presence to intervene and I really made it a point that what he was doing was not okay. I think he heard it. He was very upset about something.

What I regret was that I didn't take more control because he continued on. I thought afterwards, he might have just continued on with that and I thought I should have done more. I had the presence, which is all about being in mindfulness mode, to do something, but I felt I could have done more.

When I think back to being present, or not being present, it's about being fully present to actually see the experience through to a conclusion somehow and now just let it take on it's own life.

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Most Influential Person

  A past chief monk in charge of the Shaolin temple

Effect on Emotions

Oh, it's beautiful. You know, sometimes of course you get angry, you get upset. But normally for me it's 30 seconds. And then I get over with it.

You know, human beings react to things. Then I breathe back to my knowledge state. That's just mindfulness.

To me meditation is a conscious mode and back into the conscious mode. But most people probably are in reaction mode all the time.

But I think when people do meditation; I do three hours a day, two hours a day, minimum one hour a day, every single day, seven days a week for 50 something years.

Thoughts on Breathing

I like to breathe into my abdomen and just listen to my breath and get into that meditative mood right away.

And then I see things in a different way a minute later and totally different from a minute before.

Suggested Resources

Book: Potentiality by Barbara Vetter

Book: Various Books by Bruce Lipton such as The Biology of Belief

App: N/A

Bullying Story

I know a lady, her name is Pat and she's 81 years old. She was 81 years old a couple of years ago. She came to do some self defense with me and to learn how to survive as an 81 year old, single who sleeps by herself.

I told her a couple of things. The first thing was, you have to meditate everyday to be mindful, to be conscious. That way, if anything happens you won't be chaotic and you'll be free of fear.

Then there was a 20 some year-old boy who came into her house and put a gun to her head. She said, 'how dare you, I know kungfu'.

And then she changed her mindset from the fear to kungfu mindset. That's consciousness. That's mindfulness. And the kid was just scared.

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Most Influential Person

Eugene E. Whitworth, Author

Effect on Emotions

I can handle very stressful situations very calmly and keep my thinking clear and I really give it, (mindfulness) credit also for giving me a lot of creative ideas and a creative way of handling different situations.

Thoughts on Breathing

There is an interesting book that is saying how the author went and and interviewed only people that had lived more than 120 years or more than 200 years I think is what he ended up with. But his goal was over 120 years. And in that book it says, how do we breathe and what did he learn from these people that were really old.

What he learned was that they spent hours everyday just on their breathing exercises. And so I learned different breathing exercises by reading that book. The book is called, Breaking the Death Habit by Leonard Orr.

Suggested Resources

Book: Way Of The Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman

Book: The Tao of Pooh by Benjamin Hoff

Book: Mindfulness For Beginners by Jon Kabat-Zinn

Book: A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook by Bob Stahl and Elisha Goldstein

Book: Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman

App: Robert Monroe's recordings by the Monroe Institute www.MonroeInstitute.org

App: Jack Purcell Recordings on Meditation

Bullying Story

I saw so much bullying when I was growing up that I think that's the reason I spent the 18 years developing neimology science because I was seeing the benefits of it.

[I could see] that it could help people know how to handle different things, but I really got to see bullying grow when I was a teacher and I would watch how kids would shame other kids or make them feel less than.

They would make little snide comments like, who are you, who do you know or just this, this niceness. And they're so subtle sometimes that I think a lot of people wouldn't catch them.

I love teaching middle school and that's where bullying really comes out. That's just a tough year for everybody.

When I would watch a kid make some kind of awful remarked to somebody else, I learned to say to them, wow, I just heard what you said. And for you to do that, you must really be in pain yourself or you wouldn't want to be causing somebody else that kind of pain.

And is this happening to you in school, out of school? Would you like to talk with me in public or private, but we need to discuss this because your level of hurt is now coming out to cause other people pain and that's not appropriate.

That's how I would handle that. But I will tell you, because I grew up where so many people were being bullied, we learned to defend ourselves and how to talk back right away.