Mindset Mastery with Deirdre Maguire

U105 with Frank Mitchell

From mastering six gears in a camper van on Achill Island to navigating the emotional gears of life, Deirdre Maguire brings humour, wisdom, and clarity in this vibrant Monday morning chat with Frank Mitchell.

In this episode, Deirdre shares:

• Her hilarious motorhome adventure on the West of Ireland roads 
• A raw and real story about a Vespa incident that rattled her peace – and how she used mindset tools to reset in the moment
• Why envy isn’t something to be ashamed of, but something to lean into – it’s showing you what you deeply desire
• Her two-step mindset mastery tool for transforming envy into action
• A powerful reframe:
  "Envy is the art of seeing what’s possible for you, disguised as someone else’s success."

This is your sign to stop scrolling, stop shaming yourself, and start following the breadcrumbs toward what you truly want.

Because clarity is power. And envy is trying to hand it to you.

Learn more: www.deirdremaguire.com

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The more you rehearse the worst-case scenario in your mind, the more your nervous system believes it's real.
 Heart racing. Breath shallow. Muscles tense.
 You're not in danger — but your brain thinks you are.
 And when that happens, even the tiniest step forward can feel impossible.

But here’s the breakthrough:
If fear is built through repetition — then so is confidence.

If you can visualise failure, you can visualise victory.
 If you can rehearse disaster, you can also rehearse domination.

The battlefield isn’t “out there.”
 It’s in here
The voice in your head might be loud, but it doesn’t always tell the truth.

 Fear isn’t your limit — it’s your signal. 

It’s the flag waving at the edge of your growth.

3-Step Mindset Tool: Rehearse Bravery, Not Breakdown

1. Flip the Script

If you can imagine falling… try imagining landing.
Tell a better story in your mind — where you speak and you’re heard.
Where you leap and you rise.
Where you fail and grow stronger for it.

Tool: Say aloud: “This is a signal, not a stop sign.”

2. Get Comfortable with the Uncomfortable

Fear shrinks with exposure, not avoidance.
 It gets louder the more you ignore it.
 But when you take action — even shaking, even scared — it loses its power.

Tool: Do something small today that scares you — send the email, say the truth, show up.

3. Rewire Through Repetition

The first time is terrifying.
 The 10th time is tolerable.
 The 100th time? 

3It's freedom.
 The brave ones didn’t start brave — they started scared and kept going.

Tool: Ask: What fear needs exposure today?
Don’t wait for courage. Act — and let courage meet you there.

 PS (Closing Quote):

“Fear doesn’t go away. You just stop flinching when it speaks.”
 The only way out… is through.

 “Today on Mindset Mastery Monday – How to Kill Fear at the Source and Take Back the Mic in Your Mind.”

We think: When/then 

When I have the money, 

then I’ll feel relaxed, confident, happy.

But what if the real formula for wealth – and life – is the other way round?

Most people live in this order:
Have → Do → Be
 “Once I have the time/money/energy… then I’ll do what I want, and I’ll be happy.”
 But that doesn’t work — because it waits for life to change before you do.

 ‘The Science of Getting Rich’ by Wallace D. Wattles.

 It’s not just about money. 

It’s about living a rich life — in every sense. Confidence. Peace. Purpose. Joy.
 

🔁 The Real Formula Is:

Be → Do → Have

 1.Choose who you want to be now.

 2.Act from that energy.

 3.And then the results come.

 Example: you want to feel more confident. “Once I lose the weight… or earn more… or get the relationship… then I’ll be confident.”
 
  Decide to be confident now?
 What would change? Your posture, your choices, your conversations?
 That energy makes you act differently – and that creates different results.
 
 It’s not

 fake-it-till-you-make-it. 

It’s:

Be it till you see it

 3-Step Listener Takeaway:

Be → Do → Have
 1. BE – Pick your identity today. Calm? Capable? Courageous? Choose it now.
 2. DO – Let that version of you take the next action – even a small one.
 3. HAVE – Watch what changes as you embody the person you’re becoming.

- Frank, ever done something bold just because you felt like someone who could?
 - Would you agree most people wait too long for life to give them permission?
 - What would U105 listeners say if we asked them: Who are you ready to be — starting today?

 Final Thought:

This isn’t just about being rich with money.
 It’s about being rich in mindset, 

 and in how you show up in your life.
 When you lead with who you want to be, everything else starts to catch up.

💬 Easy Closing Quote:

“You don’t get what you want. You get who you are.” – Unknown

Most people believe pain is purely physical – caused by injury, wear and tear, or genetics.
 But what if pain is actually your *body’s way of expressing what your mind can’t*?
 
 According to Dr. John Sarno and Nicole Sachs, chronic pain is often a protective distraction – a brilliant trick the brain uses to keep us from feeling uncomfortable emotions like rage, sadness, shame, or grief. This is called TMS – Tension Myoneural Syndrome.
 

 Their message is clear:
 Your pain is real – but its root is emotional, not structural.
 
 when we give ourselves permission to feel and express our emotions safely and honestly, the pain no longer needs to “speak for us.”

 Practical Examples:

 For example, Michael’s migraines would spike during family conflicts. Once he acknowledged repressed anger toward his father and tapped into that story, the migraines lost their grip.

 Jane had chronic back pain for years – MRI scans showed nothing. After starting expressive journaling and emotional release work, her pain significantly eased.

 3-Step Mindset Tool: How to Listen to Your Pain and Let It Go

1. Acknowledge It Without Fear

Instead of fighting pain or fearing it, gently say: “I see you. I hear you. I know you’re trying to protect me.” This interrupts the fear-pain-fear cycle.

2. Feel to Heal

Give yourself a safe space to express the emotion underneath. Ask: “What is my pain trying to distract me from?” Let yourself write, speak, cry, or tap it out.

3. Rewire the Story

Shift the belief from “There’s something wrong with me” to: “My body is wise. I’m listening now.” 

Use  affirmations, to calm the nervous system and update the message.

 Call to Action:

This week, instead of silencing your pain—get curious. Journal, tap, or simply sit with it. Ask: “What truth is this pain pointing me toward?”

💬 PS Quote to End With:

“Your symptoms are not the problem. They’re your body’s way of trying to get your attention.” – Nicole Sachs 

“Invisible Weights: What Are You Carrying That’s Not Yours?” 

What if your stress isn’t even yours? 

We explore the invisible emotional weight you’ve been lugging around—and how to finally put it down.

We carry a lot—responsibilities, expectations, roles we never asked for. But some of the heaviest weights aren’t visible at all. They’re emotional hand-me-downs: guilt, shame, worry… Not yours, but inherited, absorbed, or assigned. And they drain our joy.

Today is your permission slip to *put it down*. You can still love people, be there for them, and care deeply—without carrying their pain as your own.

3-Step Mindset Tool: How to Drop the Weight That’s Not Yours

1. Notice the Load Ask: “Is this mine?” Whether it's guilt, stress, or emotional exhaustion—pause and check: *Did I create this? Or did I absorb it?*

2. Name the Pattern Are you the fixer, the peacekeeper, the over-giver? Identifying your default role helps you change the script.

3. Return to Sender With love and respect, you can energetically release what’s not yours. Say it: *“This is not mine to carry. I set it down with love.”*

When it comes to saying sorry, which sounds most like you, 

A. “Sorry, I'm breathing.” You apologise for everything, even things that aren't your fault.  

B.“Sorry, not sorry.” You avoid apologising unless absolutely necessary. 

C. “I'm sorry but” you say it but it comes with a built-in excuse. 

D. “I own it”. You apologise clearly, kindly and without losing your dignity. 

  
 Main Message: 
We’ve all been there – stuck between our pride and the pit in our stomach that says, “I should make this right.” 
 
But here’s the truth: Apologising doesn’t make you weak – it makes you wise. 
It’s not about grovelling. It’s about growth. 
It’s not about giving away your power. It’s about owning your impact. 
 
3-Step Mindset Tool: How to Apologise with Power (Not People-Pleasing) 
1. Pause Before You Apologise 
Ask yourself: Am I apologising because I’ve hurt someone? Or because I feel uncomfortable with conflict? 
A real apology needs to come from clarity, not guilt. 
 
Reframe: “What’s the most respectful way I can take responsibility here?” 
 
Example: You snapped at your partner after a stressful day. Instead of blurting "Sorry, I'm just tired!", pause, reflect, and say, "I’m sorry I took that out on you – that wasn’t fair." 
 
2. Drop the 'But' 
"I'm sorry *but* I was tired." 
"I'm sorry *but* you started it." 
That tiny word cancels everything before it. 
 
A powerful apology sounds like: 
“I’m sorry for how that came across. It wasn’t my intention, but I can see how it affected you.” 
 
Example: A work colleague was hurt by your comment. Instead of saying, "I'm sorry, but you were being oversensitive," say, "I'm sorry my words landed that way – I didn’t mean to hurt you." 
 
3. Don’t Lose Yourself in the Apology 
You can be sorry for what happened without making yourself wrong as a person. 
 
Healthy mindset: “That wasn’t okay – and I want to make it right.” 
 
Example: You missed a friend’s event. Don’t say, "I'm the worst friend ever!" Instead: "I'm sorry I missed it. I really care and want to hear all about it." 
 
Psychology Behind Apology Patterns 
Why some people can’t apologise: 
- Deep shame or fear of being wrong 
- Belief that mistakes equal failure or rejection 
- Childhood conditioning: “If I’m wrong, I’m unlovable.” 
 
Example: Someone who can never say sorry at work because they believe admitting fault will make them look weak or incompetent. They might deflect, blame others, or minimise the issue instead. 
 
 
Why some people apologise all the time: 
- Habitual people-pleasing 
- Fear of conflict or abandonment 
- Internalised low self-worth: “Sorry I exist.” 
- Socialised to be small, agreeable, or not take up space 
 
Example: Someone constantly says "sorry" for asking a question, expressing an opinion, or even just walking past someone. It's less about the situation and more about feeling unworthy of taking up space. 
 
The key question to ask yourself: 
“What’s behind my apology strategy?” 
 
Is it healing or hiding? Am I seeking connection or avoiding discomfort? 
 
Apologising isn’t just about manners. It’s about mindset. 
 
📚Recommended Reading: 
“The Gifts of Imperfection” by Brené Brown 
A foundational read for anyone who over-apologises due to shame, perfectionism, or not feeling “enough.” 
Key insight: You don’t have to hustle for your worth. Owning your truth is where your power lies. 
 
Quote: “Owning our story and loving ourselves throug

“What in your life are you a beginner at these days?” When was the last time you did something Something that made you feel like beginner all over again?

If we only play the games we know we can win, life gets smaller.

The power of being *rubbish* at something new

— and why it might just be the secret to staying alive inside.

The Problem:

As we get older, we stick with what we know.

We don’t want to look silly.

We shrink We only play the games we *know* we can win.

And slowly… our lives get smaller. Safer. Staler.

Core Message:

Growth doesn’t live in mastery — it lives in messy beginnings. The willingness to be a beginner again is how we stay ‘alive !’

3 Mindset Moves to Reignite Beginner Energy:

1. Ask yourself: What haven’t I done “yet”?

Write a list. Painting? Dancing? Coding? Spanish?

Let curiosity lead.

2. Normalise the awkward stage.

If you feel awkward

congrats, you’re doing it right!

3. Share your beginner stories. There’s power in saying, “I’m learning.” It keeps you humble, open and interesting.

Bonus: it gives others permission to begin too.

Call to Action:

This week, try something new — not to be good at it, but to feel the joy of *beginning again*.

Pick up the pen.

Book the class.

Join the dance floor.

P.S. Quote to Close:

“If you only do what you already know how to do, you will never grow.”

In the busyness of life—deadlines, routines, responsibilities—it’s easy to forget that joy and laughter are not luxuries, they’re essential. What if I told you that adding just a bit of playfulness into your day can lift your mood, boost your health, and even make you more productive?

Step 1: The Benefits of Playfulness

Research shows playfulness can: - Reduce stress - Boost creativity - Strengthen relationships - And increase happiness

When we play, we’re present. Whether it's a hobby, a joke, or simply goofing around—play gives the mind a break and the heart a lift.

Step 2: Letting Go of Seriousness

As adults, we often wear a 'serious hat' all the time. But here's the truth—taking life too seriously can weigh us down. By lightening up, not sweating the small stuff, and letting our inner child out to play, we make room for joy in the everyday.

Step 3: Fun Activities to Try This Week

Here are a few easy ways to bring more fun into your week: 1. Play a game – Board games, card games, even charades with the family. 2. Try something new – A class, a creative hobby, even dancing in your kitchen. 3. Laugh more – Watch a comedy, hang out with a funny friend, or just look for the humour in the little things.

Quote (Deirdre):

"We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing." – George Bernard Shaw So here’s your Mindset Mastery message today: Don’t wait for fun—create it. A little laughter can go a long way.

We often rush through life so fast — working, striving, doing — that we lose sight of whether we’re actually moving in the direction we want. A pause isn’t about losing momentum — it’s about regaining clarity and intention. Like Ciara Daly has shown through the launch of her new Academy — powerful change often starts not by doing more, but by taking a moment to breathe, to refocus, and then reignite with purpose.

3 Steps:

1. Pause with Purpose: Take 10 quiet minutes today. Ask yourself: "What is working in my life — and what isn’t?" 2. Reconnect to Your Direction: Remember where you actually want to go — not where habit or busyness is pushing you. 3. Reignite with Intention: Pick one small, meaningful action you can take this week that feels aligned with your true goals, not just the day-to-day noise.

Inspirational Line:

A pause today could be the beginning of your next great chapter tomorrow.

Quote:

Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes — including you. — Anne Lamott

In this conversation on U105, Deirdre speaks about the critical importance of self-worth and how it underpins every personal choice we make — especially when it comes to our health. She shares the idea of ‘value tagging’, encouraging us to treat ourselves with the same care, respect, and priority we naturally give to the things we treasure most.

Deirdre emphasises that when we truly understand our own value, it becomes easier to make decisions that honour our wellbeing. She also highlights the power of optimism and mindset in helping us move towards our personal goals — that it’s not just about what we do, but how we see ourselves while doing it.

She offers practical ways to strengthen self-worth, such as journaling and positive affirmations, tools that help us reconnect with our inner value and stay committed to the journey — like the one so many are taking with "The Shred."

At the heart of her message is this: when you value yourself, your choices naturally start to reflect that truth.