Mindset Performance Indicators give us a glimpse on how individuals will process information and ultimately behave in various situations. This episode talks about the fourth category of mindset performance indicators, wellbeing

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[00:52] And we've got six performance indicators in well being.

[00:56] And to me, this is really how we process struggles, how we process stress and things that don't always go the right way.

[01:07] How do we feel about ourselves?

[01:08] All those sorts of things are really wrapped up into the well being.

[01:14] Right. And in addition to that, it's also, it's self care, you know, self regard, taking care of myself.

[01:22] Right.

[01:23] And just knowing, hey, what do I need to do to make sure that I'm able and to perform at highest capacity?

[01:31] So the first performance indicator inside well being is dealing with difficult situations. Now, on a previous show, we had talked about optimism being a yemenite key indicator for success. And inside this well being, there's really three different stress components dealing with stress that we deal with. And I think how you process stress leads to whether you're optimistic or pessimistic. It's a component of it anyway. And so dealing with difficult situations, I would say, is, you know, life in general throws something at you. Are you able to deal with it and process it in a healthy way or do you let it consume you?

[02:34] No, that's exactly right. And it's, it's having the energy also to be able to deal with difficult situations, but also the mechanisms in place to handle those. Reading the book now, Jason Selk, Ellen Reed, relentless solution focus. And it's basically speaking about how do we handle bad things? And we know that bad things happen. We experience adversity in difficult situations, but it's not wallowing in that. It's acknowledging it. But, okay, now let's break that mindset. Let's get out of that. Let's flip the switch to, okay, now, how do I fix it? What's next? What do we do to solve this? Or if it's, hey, it's just something I've got to persevere through, then how can I do it as optimistically as possible?

[03:28] So the next performance indicator is the stress and coping inside a work scenario.

[03:35] Okay, so this, you know, if you're in the t, in a team, in.

[03:39] A locker room or in a work.

[03:41] Environment, if somebody took your job or if a main player gets injured, you know, arguments inside the locker room, somebody gets promoted over you, are you going to be able to process that and again, handle that and seek results in a healthy way, or is it going to handcuff you and keep you from performing your role, your position, your job, like you can perform?

[04:17] Right.

[04:18] And also, just what are the mechanisms you've got in place for coping with that stress? Because again, you got pressure and stress, and there's a difference in those two. But the example that you were just alluding to, if somebody got injured and now you've gotten promoted, you know, there's, now there's some stress and also some pressure because now you gotta step up and perform.

[04:44] Right?

[04:45] And do you have the mechanisms in place to be able to help you? Okay, Bledsoe goes down. All right, Brady, you're in. Let's go.

[04:55] Right.

[04:56] Lead this team to a victory.

[04:58] Yeah. And can you silo those sorts of things and not let it affect how you interact with people, how you do your job? And I think that's an important component of it to being able to silo it is a part of a component to dealing with and processing it.

[05:21] Yeah, yeah.

[05:23] All right.

[05:23] Self care and self regard.

[05:26] How would you define this one, man?

[05:29] This is, this is, I think, one that what we have found so many people struggle in because we're so focused on what we're doing that we don't 

[06:15] Yeah, I think there's also a big component to this where athletes, and I'd say even high achievers, they always view themselves as being able to improve and, you know, we're not a finished product. I didn't do this perfectly. I can do it better. And so they tend to score lower on this tends to 

[06:48] Have done something better in the game and we could have won bigger or it wouldn't have been as close.

[06:54] Yeah, well, and there is that. That intrinsic motivation that those high performing athletes have. It's like I don't need some external motivation is good from time to time, you know, whether it's fabricated or manufactured. But for the most part, my motivation comes from me 

[07:15] Right.

[07:16] And it's at the same. And thinking about Kobe Bryant, he talked about working, working out three times a day. He's getting up early. He's working out now. He did the self care, and self had the self regard after that of, hey, I need to rest. I need to hydrate. I need to. I need to eat some protein. I need to take care of my body because of what I've just put it through. So he. I would love to have seen him take this because I would be willing to bet you he. He maxed this thing out because he understood, hey, if I. I've got to take care of my body so that when I get in the situation, I know that it's going to respond in a way that I wanted to, that helps me be successful, ultimately helps the team be successful.

[07:59] All right, number four is self criticism, and this one is, again, we see this a lot of times in athletes, but it shows up in different ways. Right. So it's. Am I watching film? Did I do if I played ten plays or did I do all ten of those?

[08:24] Perfect. Probably not.

[08:25] But we might have won the game and I might have performed and executed on nine of them. And I did something a little bit wrong on the 

[08:39] Right.

[08:39] And I'm talking, you know, that mental. Talking to my. Down to myself. Those sorts of things also can show up on. Off the field where, hey, I'm at that pro level, and now I have stuff for the first time ever, or.

[08:58] Even at college now with name, image, and likeness.

[09:00] Now I have money and these sorts of things, but I didn't come from.

[09:07] A place where we did. Do I really deserve this? Do I deserve to be here?

[09:11] And you talk yourself down from just going out and achieving what you're really capable of achieving.

[09:19] Yeah. And some self criticism is not bad.

[09:22] Right?

[09:23] And even if, you know, we're going to be our worst critic, right. Because our expectations are higher than anybody else's expectations for us. So it's not a bad thing. But if we know that, then we know. Okay, I can be self critical, but I need to flip that right and then start to figure out, okay, what is it that I can do better?

[09:44] How can I improve?

[09:45] What is it that, how do I get out of that space? Because again, it can be very debilitating if we wallow in that. Like, well, Bruce Lee talks about the mind, the body not understanding. When you tell, when the mind says or you say, I'm not good at this, the body doesn't understand whether that was said sarcastically.

[10:08] Right.

[10:09] It's just, all it knows is, hey, here's the, this is one of the synapses firing of, hey, I'm saying that I'm not good at something, then the body responds negatively because of that negative statement. So it's, again, we can be critical, but it can also, it can be motivating at the same time. If we understand it and can get out of that space, we gotta get out of pretty 

[10:44] Yeah, I mean, two things. You know, I had two thoughts as you were talking there. I think it's, as a coach, it's being able to identify if my player 

[11:49] Players versus the 20 have the same.

[11:52] Skill set, but it's just that one component that elevated them to the top five. And so it's being able to, if.

[12:00] You can process this as an athlete or in the workplace on your own.

[12:04] And, and get out of that space quickly, great.

[12:07] But if you're a coach and you.

[12:09] Have someone with high talent that scores.

[12:11] Lower in this, being able to get.

[12:13] To them quickly, to get them out of that, that headspace so that they can operate at peak talent, peak performance.

[12:23] Right.

[12:24] And I don't know if you've seen the show, Ted Lasso, and he's coaching a premier, Larry, Premier League soccer club, football club. And he comes from american football and never had this. He's never had any coaching or any experience in football in what folks would say, grill football. But he's telling one of his players who made a mistake. He was like, what animal has the shortest memory? And he says, it's the goldfish. Got a ten second memory. So basically telling him, hey, a goldfish, you know, you got 10 seconds, now move on, get. You know, let's get back to the optimism, the positivity, and let's go perform at this high level that you can perform at. And you, you had this conversation, too, with a. With one of the guys training for the combine, right? And you were an encourager. You helped to motivate him and affirming.

[13:22] Right.

[13:22] So now it's okay. Now just let what you do, just let it happen. Go do it.

[13:30] All right, number five, stress and coping in personal scenarios. So, you know, just like the stress and coping in work scenarios, but this.

[13:40] One'S inside your personal life.

[13:41] And so if your girlfriend or boyfriend breaks up with you, can you silo that and still show up and execute on the.

[13:51] On the field, in the work environment.

[13:54] Like you need to, right. If a death in the family or you and your buddy have a fight.

[14:03] Anything like that, any sort of stress.

[14:05] That happens in there, can you put that in its own mental compartment and go out and perform and deal with it later to where it's not impacting your performance?

[14:18] Yeah, we've talked about stress coping in the work situation or in the. In the sport area, but then also personally. And of those two, what we would like to see is the mechanisms in place, a much stronger foundation in the personal world on the personal side, because if something were to happen negatively in the work side, it's not going to negatively impact the personal side. Now, conversely, if we don't have the mechanisms in place 

[15:11] Yeah, I think you look at examples. You look at Jordan when his dad.

[15:16] Died and he played in the championship.

[15:18] And you would never have known that.

[15:21] Happened when he was on the court.

[15:23] But then he let his emotions flow.

[15:26] When he was holding the trophy. Right?

[15:28] Or Brett Favre, when his dad died and he went through something like seven touchdowns against the Raiders, he was able to compartmentalize that personal grief and stress that was going on and show up and execute for his teammates, for the fans, all those other people. All right, that's one. Number six in well being is self esteem. This is simple, right. This is how good do you feel about yourself, the position you're in, what you're achieving? Like, are you happy with the person you see in the mirror?

[16:14] That's right.

[16:15] And a lot of times, too, it's when we find that it's not as strong of a score as we would like to see. It's not necessarily suggesting that you don't have a strong self esteem.

[16:29] Right.

[16:30] But what a lot of times what we'll see are folks that are projecting self esteem when they may not necessarily be 100%. Hey, I'm confident in myself and I'm good in my skin.

[16:44] Right.

[16:45] So that's something we are very, very cognizant of that, too, because that's one of those, that's a big ticket item. There is self esteem and how you see yourself, and there's a lot of coaching opportunities within that particular item.

[17:07] Yeah.

[17:07] And I think you nailed it when.

[17:09] You said you may be projecting outward, like everything is good, but what's really going on inside?

[17:17] And this is going to give you a look.

[17:19] That's why we call these mindset performance indicators. Right, because it's going to give you a look under the hood to see what's really going on. And, yeah, you nailed it. This is a great one. And we went over all four of these components. As you can tell, there's a ton of performance indicators in here.

[17:43] Tons of different ways.

[17:44] From a coach you can bring on.

[17:47] A recruit or an employer you can.

[17:50] Bring in an employee as a filter.

[17:53] Aligning cultural alignment.

[17:56] We've done a show on what does alignment mean? Well, it's making sure that you have the right people in the right positions is a big piece of that.

[18:06] And so how do you get a look under the hood, or in this.

[18:09] Case, inside the head to see how they're going to react and in different situations. And so tons of different ways, this can be used in athletics, college, pro level, pre pro level, and then at the, you know, at the employer and the work level, but also at the athlete level. Understanding who you are, creating that self awareness as we talk nil and brand building is now a thing. It's, it's understanding who you are so that you can, as an athlete, build.

[18:48] Your brand or as an employee, build your brand in a way that aligns.

[18:52] With who you are in a way that's authentic, that's true to yourself. And this gives you that self awareness that, quite frankly, you know, a lot.

[19:02] Of people in their fifties and sixties don't have.

[19:05] And, and they've had all that life experience. I mean, I think that tends to be when we find somebody that's very self aware. Cheney it's, it's somebody later on in life, and they have, you know, 30.

[19:19] 40 years of life experience that got them to that point. This is a way to accelerate that life experience.

[19:27] And with very, very, in the 90% accuracy, identify who you are.

[19:34] Think about having the answers to the.

[19:36] Test before you take it. This is what that self awareness provides for you.

[19:43] All right.

[19:44] So we hit again. Competition. Performance. Capacity, people.

[19:47] Team capacity. Trainability.

[19:49] Well being. Thank you again for another episode of shift happens.

[19:54] I'm Ryan. This is Cheney.

[19:56] And we'll see you next time.