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Our final bastion of control. True will is quiet humility, flexibility & resilience.

- If perception and actions are disciplines of the mind. The will is the discipline of the heart and the soul

- It gives you the strength to endure life’s hardship, and make the best of a bad situation and deal with fate with cheerfulness and compassion

- This self imposed stress builds a strength inside us that is referred to as the inner citadel, nobody is born with one, it must be built through tough times.

- We can’t afford to shy away from things that intimidate us, life will force us into times that we don’t want

- Think of a pre-mortem, the pre-meditations of evils. Examine the worst possible ending BEFORE it happens. Think about what will or can go wrong and what to do about it

- The only guarantee we have is that things will go wrong, and the only way for us to deal with it is to prepare for the inevitable failures, so we can either answer them, fix them or even endure them

- Constraints in life are a good things, because they can accept them and let them guide us.

- Part of the human condition is being hindered and having constraints placed on us, and it is up to us to not take them personally.

- To do great things, we have to endure tragedy and setbacks, and we have to learn to find joy in these setbacks

- We can’t choose what happens to us, we can only choose how we react, and why would we choose to be negative?

- When something doesn't go our way, or we don’t get the results we want, we want to quit. The better response is to keep fighting and keep pushing forward.

- Creating a shared goal and common shining light, means you can hold yourself to a higher standard, and always look at how others are benefitting from your actions

- We waste a lot of time doing things that are not important, and death needs to be there to remind us that we should be careful with how we spend our time.

- Just when you think something ends, something else comes up. This is life, never ending problems that we have to overcome

- Stoic metaphor of fire: the fire uses the fuel to burn brighter, but ultimately consumes it.

- First perceive reality correctly, Secondly act correctly and finally endure and accept the world as it is.

- Leave no option unexplored

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Part 2 - Action

- In the process of dealing with the reality of a bad hand, you can either fold or play it for all you’ve got. Play it hard, working through the problem will reveal the steps to success.

- Obstacles won’t unobstacle themselves. They'll only get worse

- Meet our obstacle with action, energy, persistence, coherent and logical process, strategic vision, craftiness, eye for savvy ingenuity

- You’ve got to start to go anywhere and the circumstances in which you start will never be perfect, but the first and best thing you have to do is say ‘yes’ and take action. Once you get started, no matter how slight. You will build momentum and achieve greatness.

- Always ask you if there is more you can be doing

- There is an opportunity cost to you not acting with speed and vigor. As you slowly proceed forward, you’ve lost the opportunity to do more in that same amount of time.

- Slow pressure applied from many different angles will provide the path to the solution

- The solution isn’t going to be easy. Don't look for angels, look for angles

- Stop fearing failure, you need to fail in order to create a better product

- Failure puts you in corners you have to think your way out of

- Anticipated short term failure is better than a final catastrophic failure. It’s a cost of winning

- Follow the process and not the prize

- Exist in the present, taking one step at a time and not getting distracted anything else

- We tend to think A to Z and forget about the B through Y steps in order to get there

- Take pride in your job, no matter how low. Other people will not want to do it and that is exactly why you must

- Don’t worry about the future, you must be in the present and you’re never too good for anything.

- Think like a craftsman - with pride and dedication.

- There is always a divide between, The way you wish they are and way they actually are. You need to think about how you’ll bridge the gap in creative ways

- Don’t occupy too much of your time looking for the perfect solution, simply the solution that works

- You don’t always find victory in the traditional head on attack. Try and find the indirect, hazardous, never thought of before angle of attack

- Action can have many meanings. It’s not always moving moving forward. Non action can be action, by using the energy of the obstacle to defeat itself

- When we want something too badly, we can put ourselves in a worse situation, we can advance, not necessarily by pushing forward

- Be free where it matters, within. Be physically loose & mentally tight.

- Rather than being oppressed by the rules, see how you can subvert them and change them in a less obvious way

- You must press forward, just when everyone else sees disaster. You can act swiftly and unexpectedly

- Ordinary people shy away from troubles. The extraordinary people do the opposite, they are their best in these situations and they look for advantage in the crises.

- Perceptions can be managed, actions can be directed. Look for opportunity. Seize the initiative

- Instantly accept the verdict/result and move on.

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The Art of Charm

Frank Sesno - The Power of Questions

- Solve problems by asking questions

- Think of question and listen

- Questions create collaboration

- Strategic questions: test and challenge the assumptions at the moment

- Intimate distance - the ability to be completely in the moment and present, but be able to take a step back to listen and to ask questions

- Empathetic questions: Have I ever been in that situation? How does the world look through their eyes?

- To understand people think about three questions:

- What do I need to know?

- What do I want to figure out?

- What should i be asking about if I'm really trying to be in the other person’s shoes?

Order of Man

Jon Acuff - Finish What You Start

- The start isn’t the hardest part, the middle part is probably the hardest part

- Perfection hurts getting started

- Consistency is important as it overcomes doubts, taking little steps towards becoming good.

- Fear of completion - you’re now exposed to being judged by others, or you no longer being able to identify as that person working

- Ask ourselves what are our secret rules/limiting beliefs? - takes you to the root of your own lies

- People are motivated by either fear or reward, identify what you truly drives you

- Strategy vs shame mindset - Realize you can't achieve everything all at once, so strategize to complete the most important tasks

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Entreleadership Christy Wright

- Communications is the leader’s responsibility

- It is up to the leader to learn the best communication style for each individual

- Think about more than an information transfer, think of buy in and belief

The Tim Ferris Show

Walter Isaacson - How to think like Leonardo da Vinci, Ben Franklin & Steve Jobs

- Be curious about everything, all the time

- Think of about the intersection of art & science

- Delineate the line between what is and isn’t possible and allow you to blur the lines of reality and imagination

- Learn as much as you can about inside the box, so you can explore outside the box

- Look at your circumstances as being good, so you can see how it can be leveraged

- When gratitude begins, the struggle ends

The Art of Manliness

Robin Dreeke - The Code of Trust

- People want a sense of affiliation and a sense of being valued

- Seek people’s thoughts and opinions

- Talk in terms of their priorities. Their needs, wants, dreams and aspirations

- Validate them, seeking to understand the human being you’re interacting with

- Empower them with choice

- When you inspire somebody, you think about them first

- Suspend your ego & be non judgemental

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Part 1 - Perception

Part 2 - Action

Part 3 - The Will

1. Perception:

- It’s how we see the reality of the world. We need to take our preconceived notions about reality and only rely on a disciplined, rational and logical thought process

- Problems that befall you, aren’t a negative situation, rather an opportunity to learn and how you handle those situations is what makes you grow as a person.

- Don’t lose control of your emotions, we can choose or not choose to feel

2. Recognize your power:

- Your negative emotions are nothing but destructive to your current situation.

- Situations cannot be good or bad, it’s only our human perceptions that judge it so. See every situation as to what they could be, not about the problems they bring

3. Steady your nerves

- Troubles will always find us and talent won’t necessarily get us through the problem. Poise and a level temper will get us through.

- Resist the temptation to declare this a failure and accept the fact that the solution is up to you and you’re the only one who’s responsible

4. Control your emotions

- We all make plans and when they don’t go as planned, we panic and throw them out the window - a fatal error

- Focus all your energy on fixing the problem and finding the solution. Worrying is an opportunity cost of your attention, you’re focusing on something other than the solution and maybe are blind to the solution

- We defeat emotions with logic, and we gain logic with questions

5. Practice objectivity:

- See simply what is there, no judgements, exaggerations, misperceptions, distractions.

- It's easy to give somebody else advice, because we lack the emotional baggage and subjectivity regarding the issue

6. Alter your perspective

- The goal is not to ignore fear, but to explain it away

- Our perspective sets the framework for our response to a situation. Perception precedes actions

7. Is it up to you?

- Focus your efforts on things you can control, the internal thoughts. Our emotions, creativity, determinations, decisions - this is our playing field, this is what we focus efforts on changing

- Instead of analysis and figuring out what things mean and why the thing are the way they are, you should just be getting to work

- Ignore the totality of the environment. Let each moment be a refresh in your brain, so you can live in moment and focus on what’s important

9. Think differently

- Don’t think of the impossible being impossible, you need to push through what other’s think of as a hard limitations, which are rooted in fear

- Have faith in your ability to overcome and unfair task, to test what they’re made of, rise to the occasion

10. Finding the opportunity

- Our own perceptions play a huge role in success, we need to avoid being overwhelmed by obstacles. Control emotions and analyze objectively

- We assume everything should be a certain way, and when they’re not, we assume we’re at a disadvantage

- Blessings and burdens are not mutually exclusive, think of any setback as having a ‘second act’ of opportunity. An immediate negative situation, the solution is packaged beneath the surface

11. Prepare to act

- Problems are as bad as we think. The worst thing to happen is the event AND how you think about it.

- Don’t attack the problem that’s in your way with a gambler’s mindset of defying the odds, but rather, know the dangers, have calculated the risks and have a strategy to win

Tune in next week, for part 2!

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Listen Money Matters

Wes Chapman - Getting rid of the victim mentality

11 signs of victim mentality:

1. They’re constantly blaming other people or situations for feeling miserable

2. They poses a ‘life is against me’ philosophy

3. They think others are purposely trying to hurt them

4. They’re cynical or pessimistic

5. They feel powerless to change their circumstances

6. They enjoy sharing their tragic stories with other people

7. They have a habit of blaming, attacking and accusing those they love for how they feel

8. They’re constantly putting themselves down

9. They believe they’re the only one being targeted for mistreatment

10. They refuse to analyze their beliefs or improve their life

11. Even when things go right, they find something to complain about

- Your past isn’t a roadmap for your future

- Understand your inherent worth to the world

Order of Man

Jocko Willink

- Discipline equals freedom

- In the short term discipline only gives you actions, in the long term, your actions will lead to freedom

- Capitalize on your strength and work on your weaknesses

- Connect your future self with today's actions

- The only way to develop mental toughness, is to simply do the hard things, decide to do it and just do it.

- Going through the motions, is better than nothing. It’ll build up the mental toughness

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Part 2 -

Courage changes behaviour

- There is so much information about improving health, and almost all will work, if you start and follow through

- What are you waiting for? Don’t start the diet, next week, next month or even next year… start today!

- It can seem impossible to bridge the gap between who you are today and who you want to become.

- Productivity comes down to focus

- Having the knowledge isn't enough

- The 5 Second Rule can stop distractions

- Be a boss about your morning - take control of your morning

- Don't hit the snooze button!

- Don't sleep with your phone in the room

- Start your day proactively, not reactively

- Write down your goals

- Procrastination is caused by stress

- Find out what your underlying stress points are

- Forgive yourself, picture your future self, 5,4,3,2,1.

- Replace worry with a positive thought about the outcome

- Anxiety reappraisal

- Have an anchor thought to overcome fear

- Confidence isn't a personality trait, it's a skill that can be learned

- Confidence is built on the small acts you do everyday

- Use the 5 second rule to dive into passions

- Don't turn a hobby into a business, immediately

- Don’t let the fear of being uncomfortable getting in the way of talking with your people

- The truth is the shortest distance between 2 people. Silence creates distance and truth creates connection

“You cant change the past, but in 5 seconds you can change your future… when your heart speaks, honor it. 54321 move. 1 moment of courage can change your day, 1 day can change your life and your life can change the world. There is greatness in you, the time to reveal it is now. 5 4 3 2 1 go.”

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Entrepreneur on Fire

Thor Conklin

- Figure out what you want, efficient & effective planning, decision, commitment, believe in yourself, accountability, time, rewards

Art of Charm

Tom Bilyeu

- Teach what you learn

- Be careful who you surround yourself with

Tony Robbins

- Don't stay a green level skier, have the courage to tackle the double black diamond run and make it down the mountain alive

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Part 1 -

- Whenever you feel an instinct fire up to act on a goal or a commitment, or you feel yourself hesitate on something you know you should do. You start the 5,4,3,2,1 countdown, when you reach 1 you have to physically move.

- Wake up the inner change agent inside you

- You can use the rule to take action or stop bad behaviours

- Every bad habit will snowball into more bad habits

- A situation can always be made worse by your own thoughts

- It's easier to feel sorry for yourself, than yo take actions

- The counting mentally disrupts you’re pattern of overthinking and creates a closed loop since the counting ends. Physical movement means your mind will fall in line with your body.

- Force yourself to do the productive things that you don’t want to do

- Increase the locus of control of you life. The more you believe you’re in control of your life, the happier and more successful you’ll become

- The rule doesn’t make things easy, it makes things happen

- You are not your behaviours - you can stop bad behaviours

- The longer you wait to act from your initial thoughts, the more excuses and doubts will creep in, as your brain is given more time to think. The lower your urge to act becomes

- When we hesitate it reinforces our thought patterns that our brain thinks something is wrong

- There is no right time to change your life, the best time is now when your heart tells you to move

- We dodge challenges to protect our egos. Deep down, we’re afraid to try

- The results are irrelevant. Taking action is all that matters.

- Almost doesn’t count. Actions count. The difference between the successful and the dreamers, is the courage to start, courage to keep going

- Studies show that we want to do what is easy in the now, rather than what’s hard now but is good for us in the future

- Separate how we feel, with the decisions we make is the key to the whole 5 second rule

- The results of your actions don’t matter, it’s the actions you take that are the true catalyst for change

- The first 5 second challenge:

Set your alarm 30 minutes before you normally do. 54321 and get up. It’s simple yet difficult. Change requires you to act deliberately, and you if you can change this simple habit, you can change anything in your life

Tune in next week for more tactics and strategies surrounding The 5 Second Rule!

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Brad Stulberg & Steve Magness - Peak Performance

- Burnout is the tipping point to fatigue

- Being connected all the time, brings the temptation to always do more work, if you work all the time, you’ll burnout or decrease performance.

- Stress adaptation cycle: Find the right amount of stress and rest/recovery

- Set aside time for deep work

- Create habits & rituals to free up mental bandwidth

- Find your why, when motivation is stronger than perceived effort, we keep on pushing

Robert Mower - The Kaizen Method

- Japanese method of manufacturing improvement philosophy of 1% better

- 2 definitions

- Taking extremely small steps to accomplish a goal

- Looking at very small moments to learn large lessons

- Don't think of big solutions, look for small improvements

- Leverage your brain's like of habits

- Ask small trivial questions

- When you’re angry at yourself, you can’t improve yourself - you’re living in the past

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