Elena Apalkova speaks with Carol Smaldino about self-understanding, growth, and the gap between insight and real change. They discuss the influence of Alice Miller, Winnicott, and inner child work, along with shadow, fear, vulnerability, and asking for help. The conversation also looks at social media performance, therapy and trauma, and how helping others can become a way of avoiding oneself. They explore acceptance without stagnation, business as human connection, curiosity around addiction and beliefs, and the value of humility, authentic conversation, and shyness in an AI-driven world.
(0:00) Why understanding yourself is not enough and ongoing personal growth
(4:53) Why insight does not automatically create change
(11:17) Influences of Alice Miller, Winnicott, and the inner child
(14:11) Shadow, fear, and the slow path to authenticity
(17:59) Vulnerability, turning weakness into courage, and asking for help
(20:30) The dignity of weakness and avoiding cult-like strength
(24:28) Social media, performance, and the reality behind the image
(28:05) Therapy, trauma, and meeting people where they are
(29:31) Helping others as a way of avoiding yourself
(34:23) Accepting yourself while continuing to grow
(35:56) Business as a force for human connection and social change
(37:03) What we need to stop running from to become freer
(38:22) Curiosity in facing addiction, beliefs, and growth
(40:09) From superstition to optimism and possibility
(41:21) Questioning childhood beliefs and rediscovering ourselves
(43:37) Strength in humility and why shyness is not a defect
(45:02) The value of authentic conversation in an AI world
(46:04) How to connect with Carol Smaldino and closing remarks