Martijn is a truth-seeker and communication rebel. You might know him from Dutch TV, where he stood out not for drama — but for daring to be real.
Martijn is a former entrepreneur who sold his company and is now on a journey of self-discovery — through tantra, TV, and deep conversations.
In this episode, we explore:
- Why saying no is the most honest thing you can do
- How to handle awkward silences (and why they’re powerful)
- What happens when you stop pleasing others — and start living your truth
This one’s about radical honesty, deep connection, and being fully yourself. Let’s dive in.
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Highlights:
00:00 – Awkward silences = happiness
01:30 – How to handle difficult conversations
03:30 – Embracing awkwardness builds connection
06:20 – Why Martijn sent his date home
09:00 – Setting boundaries, even on reality TV
12:00 – Saying no = saying yes to yourself
14:50 – Birthday parties & people-pleasing
17:00 – Gilbert’s story on setting boundaries
20:00 – Inquiry exercise for deeper connection
24:30 – TV show sparked real-life reflection
28:50 – Handling feedback & public criticism
33:00 – Letting go of what others think
36:50 – Releasing drive rooted in ego
41:00 – Social media: curse & blessing
45:00 – From busyness to calm & self-awareness