Miss independent

👉🏼Today I want to talk about the journey of healing. Little did I know about that subject when I was younger, and I really wish I knew about it sooner. I think it’s one of the most important subjects we should actually talk about in school, we are all concerned and impacted. We all carry traumas coming from our youth and transmitted by our parents or entourage when we were very young. These traumas get to hide in our subconscious until they decide to face out and take different appearances. In my case, it was anxiety, panic attacks, and a lack of dealing with my emotions.

👉🏼Here is why I choose to heal. ✨

Hurt people hurt people, we can not keep validating our unkind words or our actions because of our history or our past traumas. We are all hurt or have been hurt, but we don’t have to pass it on to others. If you are hurt you don’t have to pass on your pain, We can choose to heal before we hurt someone else instead of repeating our pattern over and over again.

We can choose to heal because It doesn’t define what we do or who we are. The process will never be harder than hurting someone that you love or losing someone you love because you haven’t tried to heal.

It’s never too late to start the process of healing no matter how long ago it was, how deep it was, or how painful it was.

Here are some tips that helps me in my journey of healing:

Nobody is perfect, the healing process takes time and is not always shiny as we can see on social media. It takes a lot of resilience, self-seeking, and patience in order to see changes.

If i can do it, so can you 🥰

#healingjourney #healyourheart #healingtechniques #healingmeditation

What's up everybody 

I just wanted to make a proper English introduction since I only have one In french.

So here it is, I hope you enjoy the content and be ready for more :) 

Thank you for listening, 

Love, 

Amélie 

Mental health MONDAY

“ If you want to feel rich, just count the things you have that money can NOT buy.”

I am not a material person and I can brag proudly about it. When I was young my parents would not buy expensive things for my sister and me, and why would they? As kids there is literally no need for expensive personal belongings, they would either break them, lose them or even stain them.

As a personal opinion, at the end of the day the way I look never stopped me from making amazing friendships, having good grades, and performing in sports.

It’s not about what brand I am wearing, it’s about what I have inside my head.

No matter what I am wearing or what I have on, it’s about the information and knowing things that I keep on learning.

Clothes or fashion will constantly change and you will never be satisfied, the greed that pushes you to want more will never be sustained, and that is what creates serious mental health issues, such as excess stress, depression and anxiety, and sometimes more.

My question is what is that impulse that pushes you to buy more? Why can’t you be ever satisfied with what you already have?

Most people often experience the frustrating awareness that their financial curbs are by some means blocking their pathways toward happiness. Our media is feeding us every day with new things to consume; new shoes, new phones, new purses, with a price that can not cease to increase.

Consumption sometimes becomes an obsession for a lot of people, and it is not uncommon to see them neglect basics and essentials in order to fritter away money on obvious objects.

Research has demonstrated that materialism is associated with self-centeredness and a loss of concern for others. These behaviors often lead to conflicts and self-destruction as well.

Detach yourself from the materialistic type.

Thus, when you come to a point of realization, the answer is about what you have in your mind, it’s about your wisdom, your knowledge, the power you have to inspire others, to stand for what is right you will never feel the need to seek for more. You will never feel bad to be who you truly are anymore.

Your belongings do NOT define who you are, they are not making you more important or more successful than anyone else.

What DOES make you important is your humility, empathy, and most importantly your heart. The way you treat others is what makes you important, the way you stand for what you like and what seems good for you is what makes you important.

Don’t let anything or anyone characterize who you are, last but not least you are WORTHY.

Do you know what it feels to travel alone?

It’s a mix of a lot of emotions to be honest, first when you think about it you are excited and you think that you are finally going to discover yourself and everything is gonna become clear in your head. Well it does not really work like this at least for me, as i traveled most of my 20s around the world these feelings are still hard to control.

So as i said first you think of the idea of this trip and you are all excited, then comes the time when you come closer to the date and doubts are coming your way, fear is ringing the bell reminding you that you are living your safety net for the unknown and that is scary as FUCK. Then you have your ego telling you that you are stronger than you think and you can do whatever comes your way, i don’t really actually know if it’s about ego or courage i don’t know. Finally comes the time to pack, which is, for me, the most annoying and stressful moment, and unfortunately I still haven’t learned from the past and keep packing at the last minute, so I can get more stressed, like WHY CAN'T I LEARN??? ( Promise I'll get better). Finally comes the time to say goodbye, the part that will never get easier, even if my ego (once again) retains the tears until I cross over the gate and let the river run down my face.

Traveling is definitely a way to discover yourself yet you also get lost along the way, asking yourself why do you do that, why can’t you settle like all of your friends, it’s almost asking myself if there is not something wrong with me. But then you have these moments of sparks that remind you why you did that and how lucky you are to be where you are at that exact moment. I came to the conclusion that maybe I am escaping the social norm and that’s fine with me so far. I've always thought I was different in a way that I would never understand the system and its rules. I never understood why we really needed so many rules to behave, why can’t humans respect each other and respect the environment without rules, it was always and still is a big interrogation mark for me.

Traveling is learning, learning how to deal with the unknown, learning a new language, learning to socialize, learning to be yourself without any expectations from anyone, learning a new culture, accepting the difference and most importantly it's to feel good being with yourself. You basically will never stop learning, it’s an opening door for people like me to grow, heal and feel freaking free.

As you go on a lonely journey you get to meet amazing people that think like you, and it’s so surprising sometimes how you can get along so fast with such a stranger that isn’t really a stranger or at least it does not seem like it. You know that feeling when you just met someone and it feels like you’ve known them forever, well that happens to me every time.

I call that magic!✨ I love magic and I love the power of the universe. Thinking about it, 2 strangers from 2 different cities, countries, continents reunited to experience something beautiful at the same place and at the same time, I am shivering just thinking about it.

If I can conclude today, my travel journey is about love. A love that I give to myself, a love that I am growing inside to be able to spread it around me. ❤️

A lot of people cannot and will not understand my whys and it’s OK, I don't really have an answer myself to be honest, all I know it’s that inside of me something is pushing me to go see the world right now.

When i wrote this podcast i was on the plane, I cried and felt anxious but I also knew that I'll be fine because I have me and I am strong and bold. We got this ;)

Share the love, always. 🥰

#mindmapower #travelalone #loveyourselfalone #goonadventurealone #youarestrong #youarebold 

Give yourself Love and appreciation

I Just listened to my favorite podcast with jay shetty and Mel Robbins who are both persons that i can call mentors in my life. They bring authenticity and normality, they talk about all the subjects that everybody is afraid to talk about. They found peace in their heart and they want to share to the world how to find that peace for themselves.

All of that to say that Mel Robbins launched a book about the high five practice, which consists of giving yourself a high five every day. Basically it would be for you to get up and look at yourself in the mirror and just give you a High five because you are alive and you deserve love without any particular reasons.

She says that we way too often criticize ourselves for the things we didn’t accomplish or the things we did wrong. We think as humans that we deserve love only when we accomplish something, or when we succeed. In fact we need love and deserve just by being alive, i love my family and my friends for who they are and the moments we cherish together, i don’t love them for the job they do or the medals they got, i am happy for them as long it makes them happy of course and i will always be the first fan, however if tomorrow they end up without a job or get in à bad injury and can’t play anymore, i will still love them the same without a doubt.

The question is now why are we capable of loving others without à proper reason and we are so hard on ourselves to give us the same level of love???

Why is it so hard to compliment ourselves and feel good about who we are, even if we did not win anything today or we did not find our way yet in life or whatever reason that makes you talk shit to yourself.

We all hold different traumas that make it hard to give love to ourselves, yet things can always change around, we are always capable to shift our mind around and find that self love that is sleeping inside of us.

It might feel weird and stupid for you to look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful, that you are strong and worthy with no reason in particular but just because you are breathing, but believe me it’s a changer. Seeing beauty in your heart helps you see beauty in everything, the sun will shine brighter, the connections with other people will be stronger, you’ll be simply happier day by day.

If i could create a law it would be “ to give yourself 3 compliments every morning while you are spending time in the bathroom”.

Complimenting yourself or simply giving yourself love is what brings peace in your heart, and I let you imagine if we would all have that peace in our heart, the world would definitely be in peace and we’ll be healthier.

We are way too often focused on what the others don’t do, when the only focus we must put our energy on is on us, on our healing on our journey and just like magic it will spread around us.