Part two to my landlord dating saga....

This episode focuses on how I ended up dating my landlord and how I was able to finally end it.

How he got me...

• Three major oversights I had when "dating" my ex. For starters, we jumped into the relationship in 2020 and it was fast. We moved in together about 3 months in and the love bombing was the first oversight . The flowers, love notes, constant attention, all things physical, vacations, small acts and I mean all. the. time. Then, one day, it all just stopped. He was too busy and didn't have time for me.
• The second oversight was the lifestyle. We were able to connect on our dreams and he was showing me the life that I told him I wanted. Luxury hotels, financial freedom, excessive buying, All that surface level shit.
• The last oversight was power and manipulation. The age gap, the gender roles, the finances, the isolation. It was all a form of control.

How I left...

• I applied the "let them theory" without knowing I was doing it and realized we are not a team and I am not the priority.
• I stayed as busy as I could... saying yes to damn near everything and finding what made my soul light up.
• FRIENDS AND COMMUNITY!!!!!
• Watching for patters throughout the year to see if the "change" would stick.
• NO CONTACT.

Two things must be true in a relationship. Your dreams and your values must align. At the end of the day, my ex and I had the same dreams and our values did NOT align.

Leaving me to say It's Not That Deep...😉

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