I used to think ‘narcissist’ just meant someone selfish orego-driven. Then I grew up inside a family system built on manipulation, and I learned the word held a lot more teeth than I realized.
I’ll define narcissism and malignant narcissism, explain gaslighting and its psychological harm, provide concrete examples you may have seen from the presidency and administration messaging, and give you trauma-informed tools to protect your mind and your community.”
🌿 SPOTTING GASLIGHTING — PERSONAL & PUBLIC
A MissGuided Adventures Guide by Kris Neilson
🚨 Red Flags of Gaslighting
Use this section when something feels “off.”
If several of these show up — whether in a relationship, workplace, or political message — you may be witnessing manipulation.
✅ Denial of the Obvious
They flat-out reject something that’s clearly true (“That never happened,” “Everyone agrees with me,” “You’re making it up”).
✅ Twisting or Rewriting Reality
They retell events to make themselves right and you wrong — even when you have evidence.
✅ Blame-Shifting
They flip responsibility, making you feel guilty for their behavior (“You made me do it,” “If you hadn’t…”).
✅ Repetition of Lies
They repeat misinformation until it feels true. In politics, this can look like repeating disproven claims so the public starts doubting facts.
✅ Attacking Credible Sources
They call truth-tellers “fake,” “biased,” or “enemies” to undermine trust in facts.
✅ Creating Chaos and Confusion
They flood the space with so many contradictions that you lose track of what’s real — and eventually give up questioning.
✅ Emotional Manipulation
They use anger, charm, ridicule, or fear to control reactions and keep others off balance.
🌱 STAYING GROUNDED IN REALITY
Practical ways to protect your peace and perception
🪵 1. Anchor in Facts
Write down what you saw, heard, or felt before it’s challenged. Date entries. Facts fade fast when memory gets gaslit.
🪞 2. Trust Your Body
Confusion, tightness, or dread often signal manipulation. Your body senses distortion before your mind names it.
🪶 3. Verify With Trusted Sources
Use fact-based journalism, evidence-based research, or a therapist — not social media noise — to reality-check what you hear.
💬 4. Share and Compare
Talk with grounded people. Saying “This doesn’t feel right” out loud breaks the isolation gaslighting thrives on.
🧘 5. Limit Exposure
Take breaks from toxic conversations, social feeds, or nonstop news cycles. Information overload is a control tactic.
🪨 6. Grayrock When Necessary
With chronic manipulators: respond neutrally, briefly, without emotion. Give them nothing to feed on.
🚪 7. Set Boundaries & Exit When Possible
You don’t owe endless debate or explanation. Protect your energy; distance is a form of self-respect.
🌻 8. Reconnect to Meaning
Read, walk, meditate, garden, pray — do whatever reminds you that truth, beauty, and connection still exist outside the noise.
🕊️ 9. Seek Trauma-Informed Support
If political or relational gaslighting reopens old wounds, work with a therapist familiar with CPTSD and narcissistic abuse recovery. Healing is power.
💬 Remember
“Gaslighting makes you question what’s real. Healing helps you trust yourself again.” — MissGuided Adventures
