What happens when grief enters a relationship — and suddenly love, dating, marriage, friendship, family, and even your situationship all start acting weird? In this episode of MissJudged, Alyssa is joined by viral creator Sidney Raz (@sidneyraz) for a raw, funny, and surprisingly helpful conversation about grief, loss, love, cancer, miscarriage, death, and how relationships survive life’s most devastating moments. Don’t worry we keep it fun and funny!

Sidney opens up about losing his daughter in utero, his experience with miscarriage and pregnancy loss, and how that heartbreaking loss led to the discovery of his cancer diagnosis. Alyssa and Sidney also talk about the deaths and losses they have both experienced, and how grief changed the way they showed up in romantic relationships, marriages, situationships, friendships, family dynamics, and even their own identities.

This episode breaks down how grief affects relationships, dating, marriage, emotional availability, intimacy, communication, resentment, support systems, and the way people see you when you appear resilient, positive, or “fine” on the outside.

Alyssa and Sidney also get into the five stages of grief, how long grief actually takes, why healing is not linear, and why grief does not politely follow a calendar invite. They discuss what NOT to say to someone who is grieving, how to support a grieving partner, friend, or family member, what people get wrong about miscarriage and cancer, and how humor can become a survival tool when life is being deeply offensive. Because sometimes being the funny one doesn’t mean sending someone grieving an “RIP” or a “thoughts and prayers” text.

If you have ever experienced grief, death, miscarriage, pregnancy loss, cancer, friendship loss, family trauma, a breakup, dating after loss, or trying to keep a relationship alive while emotionally unwell, this episode is honest, emotional, funny, and deeply relatable.

Topics discussed include grief and relationships, how grief affects relationships, dating after loss, love after loss, miscarriage, pregnancy loss, cancer diagnosis, death and grief, grief in marriage, grief in dating, grief in situationships, friendship grief, family dynamics, emotional resilience, toxic positivity, the five stages of grief, what not to say to someone grieving, how to support someone grieving, and how couples survive grief.

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Why do you keep choosing the wrong partners? Is it trauma, attachment style, or are you unknowingly dating narcissists and emotionally unavailable people over and over?

In this episode of MissJudged, Alyssa sits down with a licensed relationship therapist to break down the psychology behind toxic relationships, narcissistic partners, emotional abuse, trauma, attachment styles, and why so many intelligent, self-aware people still find themselves repeating the same unhealthy dating patterns.

Forget the therapy buzzwords—we're talking about what trauma actually is according to psychology (and why Alyssa hates its overuse). We unpack the difference between Big T Trauma and little t trauma. We also get brutally honest about what it's really like to date a narcissist. How do narcissistic relationships slowly erode your self-esteem? Why is emotional abuse so difficult to recognize while you're living through it? Why do survivors often blame themselves long after the relationship ends? And how do you heal after someone has made you question your own reality?

We also dive into one of the most overlooked topics in modern relationships: sexual rejection. What happens when your partner repeatedly rejects intimacy? Can sexual rejection damage your confidence, create resentment, or permanently impact a relationship? Jessa explains the psychology behind why rejection feels so personal and how couples can begin rebuilding emotional and physical intimacy.

In this episode, we discuss:

• What trauma actually is—and what it isn't

• Big T Trauma vs. little t trauma explained

• How attachment styles influence the partners you choose

• Why so many people repeat unhealthy dating patterns

• Alyssa shares the warning signs of narcissistic and emotionally abusive relationships

• How emotional abuse impacts self-esteem, confidence, and mental health

• Why it's so difficult to leave—and recover from—toxic relationships

• How someone else's unresolved issues can become your emotional burden

• The psychology of sexual rejection and its impact on relationships

• How to heal, rebuild your confidence, and create healthier relationships

Whether you're recovering from a toxic relationship, questioning your dating patterns, trying to understand trauma, or wondering if you've dated a narcissist, this conversation offers practical insight backed by psychology—not social media myths.

If you've ever searched "What is trauma?" "Am I dating a narcissist?" "How do attachment styles affect relationships?" "Why do I keep choosing the wrong partners?" or "How do I heal after emotional abuse?" this episode is for you.

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Can your relationship survive a vacation… or is one shared hotel room all it takes to expose every red flag?

In this solo episode of MissJudged, Alyssa breaks down how to travel with your partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, or situationship without turning the trip into a passive-aggressive group project from hell. Whether you’re planning your first baecation, going away with someone you’re “not technically dating,” or trying to figure out who pays for flights, hotels, dinners, Ubers, and the random $18 airport water without killing the vibe, this episode covers the real-life rules of couples travel in modern dating.

Alyssa gets into when it’s too soon to travel together, how to plan a trip without one person doing all the emotional labor, how to talk about money in a relationship or situationship, and why “I’m down for whatever” is often the biggest vacation scam of all time.

This episode covers:

• How to travel with your boyfriend, girlfriend, or situationship
• When it’s too soon to go on a baecation or couples trip
• How to talk about splitting costs, flights, hotels, dinners, and vacation expectations
• Who should book the trip, make the plans, and handle the travel details
• Why traveling together reveals someone’s real personality fast
• How to avoid turning a vacation into a compatibility test you did not consent to
• What airport behavior, hotel habits, and money choices say about your relationship
• How to handle different travel styles when one person wants luxury and the other wants “whatever is cheapest”
• How to keep a romantic trip fun, sexy, light, and not financially insane

This episode is for anyone navigating modern dating, relationship travel, situationships, baecations, dating boundaries, couples trips, travel compatibility, and money in relationships. Because nothing says romance like realizing someone thinks a 6 AM Spirit flight with no assigned seat is “basically the same thing."

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In this episode of MissJudged, Alyssa sits down with Kenny Santucci for a true bombshell conversation—the kind people don’t usually have on mic.

Kenny gets unusually candid about his past, opening up about what actually happened behind the scenes during his cancellation and sharing details he’s never publicly said before. No PR spin, no vague answers—just a raw, honest look at what it feels like to be knocked down publicly and have to rebuild from it.

They dive into the reality of cancel culture today—who it really affects, whether people deserve second chances, and how quickly public opinion can define (or destroy) someone’s reputation. But more importantly, Kenny breaks down how he pulled himself out of it: the mindset shifts, discipline, and personal accountability it took to rebuild his life, his career, and his identity.

Of course, it wouldn’t be MissJudged without bringing it back to dating. Alyssa and Kenny get into what it means to have a bad reputation in relationships, how that follows you, and whether you can actually change how people perceive you romantically. Is a reputation permanent—or can you rewrite your story?

And finally… the question everyone wants answered:

Will Daddy Santucci settle down?

This episode is about failure, redemption, reputation, and what it really takes to come back stronger—personally, publicly, and in love.

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This week on Missjudged, Alyssa is joined by Zack Peter (@justplainzack) host of No Filter with Zack Peter — for an unfiltered, hilarious, and brutally honest conversation about cheating in dating, emotional affairs, DMs, lies, hookup culture, relationship boundaries, and reality TV scandals.

Because apparently in 2026, cheating is no longer just “I slept with someone else.” Now it’s secret DMs, liking every bikini photo, having a “work wife,” texting your ex “just to check in,” and pretending your emotional affair is simply “a really deep friendship.” Sure, babe.

In this episode, Alyssa and Zack break down:

• What actually counts as cheating in modern dating
• Emotional cheating vs. physical cheating — and which one hurts worse
• Why people cheat in relationships
• Where the line should be with DMs, exes, flirting, and “harmless” attention
• Why your 20s may be for hooking up, making mistakes, and learning what not to tolerate
• When people are genuinely hurt vs. when they’re being too sensitive
• When you are accidentally the mistress
• Getting cheated on by an ugly person and why it is worse
• The difference between cheating on a partner and betraying a friendship
• How reality TV cheating scandals, Summer House drama, and Bravo-style betrayals are better then rom coms

They also get into the uncomfortable truth about emotional affairs, are we the problem and how toxicity can start cheating, how DMs became the new hotel lobby bar, and why reality TV makes cheating feel like both a crime scene and a group chat event. Also if you stay…what should you do?

If you’ve ever wondered “is this cheating?” this episode is for you.

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We are finally tackling the highly debated topic of 50/50!!!! On this episode of Missjudged, Alyssa sits down with matchmaker Anna Morgenstern to debate one of the most controversial questions in modern dating and marriage: should relationships be 50/50 in all the ways?

Anna is in a successful 50/50 marriage. Alyssa thinks 50/50 is basically a beautifully marketed scam against women. So naturally listen to see the common ground ending! Who won over who?!

They break down:

• What 50/50 in a relationship actually means
• Whether couples should split bills in dating and marriage
• How long a check should sit on the table before someone becomes deeply unattractive
• Why “equal” is not always the same thing as fair
• How babies, pregnancy, and childcare change the entire 50/50 conversation
• Why emotional support, time, planning, and invisible labor have to count too
• How couples should actually think about finances before moving in, getting engaged, or getting married
• The difference between a true partnership and a Venmo-based situationship with vows
• Whether traditional gender roles still matter in modern relationships
• How to decide what is fair when income, effort, emotional labor, and life responsibilities are not equal
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Because if a woman is splitting the bills but also carrying the emotional labor, managing the house, planning the life, remembering everyone’s birthdays, growing the baby, and still being expected to be fun and relaxed… is that equality, or is that just unpaid management with a ring?

This episode covers 50/50 relationships, 50/50 marriage, dating and money, splitting bills, financial compatibility, gender roles, emotional labor, childcare, babies, modern relationships, and what fairness actually looks like in love.

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What is emotional unavailability, really — are they actually unavailable… or did they just not like you? In this episode of MissJudged, Alyssa is joined by Hunter Stoler to break down emotional unavailability in dating, what it looks like in real life, and why it is not always as simple as blaming avoidant attachment or calling everyone a narcissist.

We get into the real signs of an emotionally unavailable partner, how health, stress, burnout, confidence, sleep, and mental wellness can affect the way people show up in relationships, and why some people are not cold or mysterious — they are just dysregulated, exhausted, insecure, or emotionally shut down. We also talk about the harder truth no one wants to hear: sometimes they were not emotionally unavailable… they just were not that into you.

This episode covers:

• What emotional unavailability actually means
• Signs you are dating an emotionally unavailable person
• How to free yourself from the dynamic
• What happens when one person in the relationship starts to glow up
• How your community can affect your heath in you body and mind
• The connection between confidence, health, and emotional intimacy
• Self-sabotage in dating and how to stop repeating the pattern
• How to leave an emotionally unavailable relationship

If you’ve ever wondered why dating feels so confusing, why you keep ending up with the wrong people, or whether you are chasing chemistry that is really just anxiety, this episode is for you.

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You don't just date them—you date their entire family system. In this savage-but-true episode, Alyssa sits down with @CandiceGuardino to tackle the #1 source of relationship stress: in-laws and family boundaries. We break down the hilarious and horrifying reality of family meddling: from the people who only need parental approval, not a partner, to those who are recreating their chaotic childhood in their love life. Learn why people date what feels familiar instead of what’s healthy, why over-involved parents can delay marriage, and how to finally set boundaries without having a meltdown. If your relationship has a third person (Mom), this is your must-listen.

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Have you ever dated someone who’s family made them more appealing? Or someone who was perfect but you could NEVER spend a holiday with their family?? Ever wonder what do healthy boundaries with partners and family look like? Then this episode is for you!

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Ever leave a first date thinking “that went amazing”… and then get hit with silence, a slow fade, or the classic “you’re great but…”? In this episode of MissJudged, Alyssa Pettinato in her solo era answers the age-old question: why didn’t it progress to a second date? And yes—she’s brutally honest about it (with sisterly, comedic energy so it doesn’t feel like a personal attack).

We get into the patterns you might be repeating that quietly sabotage your dating life, the communication steps people forget after a first date that actually build momentum, and the conversational faux pas that can give someone the ick even when you didn’t mean to. Alyssa breaks down the difference between chemistry vs. comfort vs. attraction, why “good conversation” isn’t the same as romantic interest, and how to tighten up your approach so you stop getting stuck at date #1. Also the mindset to be in if it is not a match.

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Are softboys actually worse than fuckboys? In this episode of MissJudged, Alyssa is joined by @yourpalrick (Ricky Liorti), for a brutally honest, hilarious conversation about modern dating, situationships, red flags, rebounds, and the men who disguise chaos as emotional depth. From the rise of the softboy to why situationships can be more emotionally devastating than real relationships, this episode gets into all the messy gray areas people are actually dealing with right now.

Alyssa and Ricky break down the difference between a fuckboy, softboy, and full menace, play the lonely, bored, or full menace game, and debate whether men and women can ever really just be friends. They also get into dating your friend’s ex, giving someone best-friend benefits without commitment, rebound behavior, exclusivity, Instagram DMs vs texting, meeting the family, Summer House drama with Kyle and Amanda, Dave Portnoy being for the girls, long-term friendships as a dating green flag, and why so many people are dating potential instead of reality.

This episode is funny, unfiltered, and painfully real if you’ve ever been stuck in a situationship, ignored a red flag, confused chemistry with compatibility, or wondered why modern dating feels so weird.

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