What are your expectations in your current relationship? Do you wish for your partner to like the things that you like, enjoy the things that you enjoy doing, and share the same passion with you? Or do you want your partner to carve their own path along with you?

In many relationships, this idealism that your partner needs to like what you like, love what you love, and hate what you hate in the pretext that it should be how they show their love for you can be toxic. It can strip away your partner's identity and freedom. It can be suffocating.

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty tells us the common mistakes we make that don't help our relationships grow and what you can do now to strengthen it.

9 Mistakes We Make in Love and Relationships

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How do you know when you're overthinking too much?
How can you break the cycle of overthinking?
Today, Jay will talk about the complexity of overthinking and how we can turn it around and look at things differently. Jay presents seven practical strategies to help listeners combat the grip of overthinking. These range from the psychological—to limit how many people's opinions we seek, preventing the confusion and indecision that too many perspectives can cause—to the physical, recommending activities that disengage the analytical brain and encourage mental reset, like exercise or simply moving around.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to use over thinking for problem-solving
How to manage alarmed responses
How to use physical movement for mental clarity
How to focus on positives and small wins
Don't let overthinking hold you back! Start implementing these strategies today and take control of your mental space.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:52 Has Overthinking Slowed You Down?
07:53 The Science Behind Overthinking
10:50 #1: Overthinking as a Problem-Solving Approach
14:24 #2: Don’t Ask Too Many People For Their Opinion
18:19 #3: Avoid Responding While You’re Feeling Alarmed
19:17 #4: Move Your Body When Your Mind Is Stuck
20:32 #5: Focus on the Good Thing and Small Wins
22:05 #6: Spontaneous Drawings Relieve Psychological Stress
24:23 #7: Go Back to Analog See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

7 Ways to Reduce the Time You Spend Overthinking & Make Better Decisions Quicker

Do you stop yourself from making mistakes? 
Do you want to shift your perspective on fear? 
Today, let’s welcome the one and only Orlando Bloom. Orlando gained widespread fame for his roles in some of the most popular films including The Lord of the Rings trilogy and Pirates of the Caribbean series. He will be seen starring in Peacock's limited adventure docuseries, To The Edge, which he also produced. Off-screen, Orlando is known for his humanitarian efforts, including his work as a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador.
Orlando shares insights from his life as an actor, adventurer, and someone deeply involved in spirituality. He talks about how meditation and mindfulness help him stay balanced despite the hectic nature of being a celebrity, his views on masculinity, the importance of embracing both masculine and feminine qualities, and striving for balance and introspection in life. We also get to hear stories about facing and overcoming fears, embracing vulnerability, and the lessons he's learned from these challenges. This episode isn't just about getting to know a renowned actor but diving into the personal journey of a man who is constantly looking for deeper meaning and connections in life.
In this interview, you’ll learn:
How to overcome fear
How to maintain balance in a hectic life
How to incorporate mindfulness into everyday activities
How to explore and embrace different aspects of your personality
How to use life's challenges as growth opportunities
Tune in now for a discussion full of insights on overcoming fears, embracing spirituality, and pursuing personal growth.  
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
02:28 Working in an Unscripted Space
06:09 What’s Your Earliest Childhood Fear?
08:35 Practicing Buddhism
13:49 The Lotus Sutra
20:16 The 8 Wins
26:28 Trusting Your Life and Becoming Capable
36:33 Being Present While on the Edge
44:48 Any Moment Could Be Your Last
45:43 The Deepest Mirror You’ll Ever Have
48:58 What Did You Learn from Your Past Relationships?
51:22 Introducing Buddhism Practice to My Kids
55:33 Whatever You’re Saying, You Become
01:02:22 Loving the Parenting Journey
01:07:16 The Impacts of Your Decisions
01:09:13 Opportunities Through Obstacles
01:17:40 Buddhism Is My Anchor
01:18:59 The Fear You’re Currently Overcoming
01:26:04 Orlando Bloom on Final Five
Episode Resources:

Orlando Bloom | Instagram
Orlando Bloom | Facebook
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Orlando Bloom: 3 Reasons Why You Need to Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes & Shift Your Perspective on Fear

Do you find yourself often thinking about breaking up?
Do you and your partner have unresolved conflicts that keep resurfacing?
In this episode, Jay tackles the tough emotions and uncertainty many face when considering a breakup. He talks about why people stay in or leave relationships, touching on key factors like emotional closeness, personal investment, and the impact of family responsibilities. Jay also discusses how to ensure emotional security and the risks of staying for financial reasons or out of obligation. 
In this episode you’ll learn:
How to recognize emotional investment
How to assess emotional security
How to consider financial implications
How to navigate emotional intimacy
This honest conversation provides you with the insights to evaluate your relationship more clearly, helping you decide whether to work on it or move on, based on a deeper understanding of your feelings and the relationship's dynamics.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:10 When to End Your Relationship
04:48 10 Reason Why People Stay in a Relationship
12:44 Top 10 Reasons to Leave Your Relationship
18:14 The Three Cancers of the Mind
24:44 Difference in Scorecard Perspective See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

4 Ways to Know if It Is Time To End Your Relationship (When the Signs Are Not Clear and Things are Not Bad)

How can you overcome the fear of failure?
What can you do daily to care less about failing?
Today, Jay sits down with Benny Blanco for an inspiring conversation about pursuing passions, mentorship, failure, and continuous motivation. Benny has made a huge mark on the music industry contributing to hundreds of millions of album sales worldwide. Benny has worked with A-List artists like Ed Sheeran, Justin Bieber, and Katy Perry. As a solo artist, his albums "Friends Keep Secrets" and its sequel have amassed over 11 billion streams, featuring multiple platinum hits. Beyond music, Benny has ventured into television and even released a cookbook, "Open Wide," showcasing his diverse talents and interests
Benny shares insight on how to not let failure stop you and getting over imposter syndrome. We also go dive into Benny’s life outside of music, exploring his passion for cooking through his cookbook "Open Wide." Plus, Benny talks about his relationships, how he keeps his creativity flowing, and the small joys that make his life special.
In this interview, you’ll learn:
How to pursue your passion with limited resources
How to not let failure get in your way of achieving your goals
How to embrace the unexpected in creative work
How to transition your passion into different fields
How to find joy and creativity in everyday moments
Don't miss this intimate look at Benny Blanco's life and maybe learn a thing or two about making your own multi-track masterpiece or the perfect dish to serve at dinner!
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
03:43 What’s the First Creative Thing You Put Together?
06:15 I Never Cared About Failure
10:33 Developing Amnesia to Failure
14:22 How Did You Meet Your Mentor?
18:10 “The Boy I Mentored” 
23:42 How Do You Show Up After a Rejection?
26:51 Love Can Be Felt Through Music
29:56 What Do You Do When You Wake Up?   
32:02 Why Do You Struggle with Meditation?
33:28 Why I Went to Therapy
38:25 The Pressure of Perfectionism
44:49 Do You Love to Cook?
47:20 Do You Eat Healthy?
48:47 Finding Comfort in Food
54:42 What’s Your Sleep Pattern?
56:40 Friendships Built Over the Years
59:19 Multigenerational Friendships
01:03:44 Better Relationship After Divorce
01:05:52 Benny on Final Five   
01:15:57 What’s Your Vice?
01:17:53 Do You Take Supplements?
Episode Resources:

Benny Blanco | TikTok
Benny Blanco | Instagram
Benny Blanco | YouTube
Benny Blanco | Twitter
Benny Blanco | Facebook
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Benny Blanco: 3 Ways to Stop Caring About Failure & Get Out of Your Own Way

How does low self-worth stop you from moving forward?
How can you stop self-sabotage and grow personally?
Today, let’s welcome Jamie Kern Lima. Jamie is a New York Times bestselling author, founder of IT Cosmetics, a company she started in her living room and sold to L'Oreal in a billion-dollar deal, becoming the first female CEO of a brand in its 100+ year history. She's also an active philanthropist who has funded leadership training in more than 100 prisons and shelters across the US, and has donated over $40 million in product and funds to help women face the effects of cancer with confidence. 
Jamie and Jay ponder on the meaning of self-worth, distinguishing it from mere confidence and challenging the misguided belief that our value is tied to our physical appearance. We get to hear the detrimental effects of self-doubt and present empowering strategies to transform your relationship with rejection, offering a new perspective that fosters resilience and self-compassion. 
And then the conversation dives deep into personal beliefs, urging us to identify and discard unhelpful misconceptions, while giving emphasis on why authenticity is crucial and its role in conjunction with other factors in achieving success. 
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to build self-worth
How to distinguish confidence from self-worth
How to handle rejection
How to overcome self-doubt
How to remain authentic
Together, let's learn how to distinguish your worth from external validation, turn rejection into a stepping stone, and live authentically.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
03:17 Do You Feel Worthy Today?
10:04 Confusing Confidence with Self Worth
17:37 Your Weight Impacts Your Worth is a Lie 
24:03 What Has Self Doubt Cost You?
31:25 How to Change Your Relationship with Rejection
37:02 The 4-Part R to Reframe Rejection
44:00 You Need This Today
48:13 Which Lie Are You Trying to Unlearn? 
56:32 Authenticity Alone Doesn’t Guarantee Success
Episode Resources:

Jamie Kern Lima | TikTok
Jamie Kern Lima | Instagram
Jamie Kern Lima | YouTube
Jamie Kern Lima | Website
Jamie Kern Lima | Twitter
Jamie Kern Lima | Facebook
Jamie Kern Lima | LinkedIn
Worthy: How to Believe You Are Enough and Transform Your Life 
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9 Mistakes We Make in Love and Relationships

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