Expressing your needs, feelings, and boundaries can be a daunting task when you’ve spent your whole life reading the room and adjusting yourself around it. Here’s how I help my clients do so with confidence and clarity.

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If you tend to say yes to every request you get from your family and friends, only to feel overstretched and full of regret when the time comes to follow through, you probably aren’t slowing down enough to actually check in with yourself and make an informed decision.

In this episode, I’m walking you through a BRAND NEW framework I designed to help a real-life client be more intentional with their commitments.

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You’re overwhelmed. You’re dying for help, but afraid to ask for it. And yet, you say yes every time someone asks you for something, only to deeply regret it later when your nervous system is fried the fuck out.

You’ve read all the bestselling books and listened to all the podcasts on boundaries. Why can’t you shake these patterns?

In this episode, I’m sharing why you keep saying yes even though your body is screaming-crying no, how being mixed influences these habits, and how you can finally get more comfortable expressing your feelings, needs, and boundaries so that you can build fulfilling relationships without burning out.

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If you’re wondering exactly what you should say when someone microaggresses you or dismisses you, you’re asking the wrong question. In this week’s episode, I’m sharing what’s more important than crafting the perfect clap back. Tune in and let me know what you think!

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How does political consciousness around monoracism influence how mixed race people perceive themselves, experience life, and choose to engage or disengage from social justice causes? In this episode, I interview Dr. Victoria Malaney-Brown about her life as a mixed race person and mother, and her work as an educator, college success coach, consultant, and researcher on multiracial consciousness.

Dr. Malaney-Browns Reading Raina-bow Recommendations:

Multiracial Identity and Racial Politics in the United States by Natalie Masuoka

Race Policy and Multiracial Americans by Kathleen Odell Korgen

The Awakened Family: A Revolution in Parenting by Shefali Tsabary

What is Multiracial Consciousness by Dr. Victoria K. Malaney-Brown

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How can mixed race people embrace a hybridized approach to culture, spirituality, and ancestral connection? In this episode, I interview Camila Knigge Unibe, a graduate student in Ethnic Studies at San Francisco State University, an artist, a curator, and a K-12 educator, whose work is driven by her belief in the inevitable liberation of all living beings. If you’ve been hungry for a deeper sense of spirituality, but unsure where to start, this is a great episode for you.

Camila’s Reading Raina-bow Recommendations:

Tending Grief: Embodied Rituals for Holding Our Sorrow and Growing Cultures of Care in Community by Camille Sapara Barton (a mixed author!)

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When does the quest for belonging become another way to bypass power and oppression? What might actually be more important than belonging? Is identity the best way to build belonging? These are some of the questions I explore in today’s episode with guest Gayatri Sethi, author of Diaspora-ish: Notes on Identities, Unbelonging, & Solidarities. Tune in for this paradigm-shifting conversation and don’t forget a notebook – there’s lots of gems you’ll want to write down.

Learn more about Gayatri and where you can buy her phenomenal book here.

Gayatri's Reading Raina-bow suggestions:

1. When We Are Kin: The History and Future of Afro-Indigenous Solidarity by Kyle Mays
2. From the Clinic to the Streets: Psychoanalysis for Revolutionary Futures by Lara Sheehi
3. BONUS: Lara Sheehi's podcast, Psychic Militancy

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Feeling whole as a mixed person does not start with the perfect description of your identity, it starts with a body that feels held. As a mixed person, you might not have felt held by anyone, anywhere, which has amplified the impulse to describe yourself in fractions, hide aspects of your personality, or avoid social situations altogether. But the truth is that most humans lack the experience of feeling held. In today’s episode, I’m talking about the colonial roots of feeling existentially unheld, the unique impact on mixed race people, and how somatics can help you finally find sources of support where you can feel held. Because when your body feels held, you stop scanning the room for who might reject you, and you can actually be present instead of performing.

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This is a special episode because it's a group discussion with mixed elder and founder of the Multicentric Institute, Chiyuki Shannon, and other mixed community leaders, Bee Barba-Padilla, T Barba-Padilla, Lili Stiefel, and Preston Locklear.

In this episode, we discuss Multicentriçism, which describes the worldview of mixed-race, minoritized individuals who come from split genetic, philosophical, and cultural frames of reference; who think, communicate, and access information from more than one frame of reference at the same time without confusion, utilizing multiple levels of sensitivity transmission.

Listen in for this stimulating conversation and let us know what it brings up for you!

Book recommendations

• The Savage Mind by Claude Lévi-Strauss
• Irreducible: Consciousness, Life, Computers, and Human Nature by Federico Faggin
• The Existence of the Mixed Race Damnés: Decolonialism, Class, Gender, Race by Daphne V. Taylor-Garcia
• Crucible of Light: Islam and the Forging of European Civilization by Elizabeth Drayson
• We Will Not Cancel Us by adrienne maree brown
• Fantasies of Identification: Disability, Gender, Race by Ellen Samuels
• Ancestors Said: 365 Meditations for a Peaceful Year by Ehime Ora

And you can learn more about the mentioned mural here and here.

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Welcome to the Mixed Race Belonging podcast, where we explore the intersection of mixed identity and belonging through the lens of somatics and personal and collective liberation to help you heal your belonging wounds and reconnect with your innate wholeness through relationships, new experiences, and activism.

Hosted by Raina LaGrand - a somatic coach for mixed race people with a background as a trauma therapist, yoga teacher, and health educator.

Episodes released mostly weekly.

People with stronger relationships and a deeper sense of community aren't lucky or cooler than you. In this episode, I'm breaking down some of the key factors that differentiate people who feel connected from those who are more isolated.

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Answer my belonging survey and let me know what you wanna hear on the pod.

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Welcome to the Mixed Race Belonging podcast, where we explore the intersection of mixed identity and belonging through the lens of somatics and personal and collective liberation to help you heal your belonging wounds and reconnect with your innate wholeness through relationships, new experiences, and activism.

Hosted by Raina LaGrand - a somatic coach for mixed race people with a background as a trauma therapist, yoga teacher, and health educator.

Episodes released mostly weekly.