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Transparency = vulnerability = weakness: a common fallacy that we pull apart as we dig into the idea about internal transparency. The value of three simple words from a dominant in times of crisis: what do you say when you don't have the answers? Is transparency potentially risky? How do we along those things in an unequal power dynamic? And then we have to cliffhang just as we get into moar discussions on emotion...but stay tuned! The nest part's a-comin'!

Transparency, fools! Why do we not see so much of it from dominant types? How important is it in d/s and M/S relationships? When is the hunter more vulnerable than the hunted and who is hunting who in the first place? And more importantly. JUST HOW SWEATY IS JP?!? All this and more in the first-of-six installments on transparency in kink!

In which I answer a question from Saynine about how kink makes one's love life more complicated and a question from LeRougarou about POC and BDSM. Thanks, guys!

Sex, Kink, Sexuality, what does it all meeeeean?!?

Brainnoms again with J.P. Robichaud and we try to hash out sexual satiation vs. erotic satiation. Aaaand...have moderate success with that. On eroticising sammitches...and on Coco The Cat's refusal to bring sammitches. Why SMs are pretty much The Shit and how much it translates preeeety damn flawlessly to BDSM. And how I suspect that pretty much all Stage Managers are a bit kinky.

Some discussion on acknowledging service, on wny I really need to get the pat on the head, for real, yo. And why ID it that some perverts don't wanna talk about BDSM being FUN?

Our question for you? Tell us how kink blends with fun and expends your joy! No, for real Tell us in the comments down there. Please? Otherwise J.P. will be all bummed out in that laid-back Canadian way and stuff.

How excitin! The conversation continues as we talk about my recent stint on the Savage Lovecast! We bring in a question that wasn't included in my Q & A from Dan Savage

What is up with sexual satiation vs. erotic satiation? And how about sexual sammitch making, bro? And we also riff on god-mikes and SM for SMers. That's Stage Managers for the uninitiated, and yes being ito SM and being an SM is super hilarious.

In this bonusy episode, a per-recording tangent lead me to hit record! We talk about education amongst the Confederacy of Kinksters...about the need for more kink-identified folks to be therapists for us, why we hear about how tops should bottom but we rarely hear about how bottoms should benefit from topping, and how awesome it is to watch training videos of cops being tazed!

So, we talk some more about hunger, gut instinct, low-hanging fruit, how I had patience modeled early in my intentional explorations into BDSM. J.P. talks about repping for THE PATRIARCHY (woot woot!) and how caution plays into his own measured pace. Also chomped on are how D/S and m/s can be challenging and also tough to navigate when you have the One True Way Thing in your face...or it has crept into your guts. How do we seek patterns, and how do we find ourselves irresistibly drawn to the seductive lure of narrative? Pattern lock and narrative addiction...and the risks of entitlement.

#BDSM #KINK #Mollena #Mollena Williams #JP #JP Robichaud #PrimeDirective #Dominance and #Submission

So we riff on handles, scene names, and why it is weird to call J.P. "The Control Enthusiast," and archetypes of dominance. Conversation also jumps around all over D/S negotiations, how power structures in these relationships work...or don't. Talking also happens about hunger and why you can't make your choices from a place of privation. I was inspired by this segment to write "Beware Hunger," a recent post. Apologies for sound quality snafus! #mollena #BDSM #kink #Leather #pervertednegress #controlrnthusiast #JPRobichaid #JP #submission #dominance

Getting hyphy with the hypotheticals..fantasies vs. realities and edgeplay in daily life. We talk about the hotness of attention to detail, the randomness of stutters, why I avoid the word Smörgåsbord, and why pufferfish dominance isn't always the move.

#BDSM #kink #fetish #dominance #submission #mollena #pervertednegress #Leather #JP

#Mollena #ThePervertedNegress #BDSM #EDUCATION #JP #ControlEnthusiast #Kink riffs in education, demo vs play, and Coco the cat weighs in on penises.