Boundaries are not about someone winning and someone losing. When implemented in healthy ways, boundaries can help everyone win.

We can all be very competitive. Not just in the obvious things like sports but in relationships too. We want to have the upper hand. We want to be in control. We want to be two steps “ahead.” Why? So we don’t feel pain, so our ego is not damaged, so we win.

If your desire is to be in healthy relationship (because if you are reading this I think we can all agree that kind of relationship above is not healthy), then we have to be prepared and ok to let go of our need to control and the need to win. We need to develop the desire to see and uncover the other person’s heart over making sure they are put in their place.