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We’re changing the way we show up, guys.
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We’re changing the way we show up.
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All right, y’all.
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As you can see, I’m changing the way I’m showing up.
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I conduct myself and I set my goals.
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So if you want to know more, stay tuned.
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We’re going to get through it all together.
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Welcome to Monday Musings with Kissa,
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where I share what the heck happened last week,
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what I have planned for this week,
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and a story time,
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not in that particular order.
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This is the video companion to my Substack newsletter that I share every Thursday.
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So if you’re not already subscribed to this channel or to my Substack, make sure you do so.
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And content as of this recording is currently free.
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So first things first, Happy New Year, you guys.
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I can’t believe we are already here, but hey, we’re here.
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We’re showing up.
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And I’ve been thinking about ways that I can improve how I show up for you guys.
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And so that’s why we are doing video.
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for the first time ever so bear with me i’m working on it i just wanted to get
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started with that done is better than perfect mindset and we’ll just go from there
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let’s go on this journey together so last week was a pretty good start to the new
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year and a pretty good start
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to the week.
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I have been feeling this feeling of just wanting to ease in to the new year instead
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of going hard,
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setting goals,
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breaking it down by quarter,
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month,
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week,
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day,
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and just kill it.
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Usually that is my MO.
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That’s how I want to attack the new year.
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But this year feels a little bit different.
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And if you are subscribed to my Substack newsletter, you’ll know that
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I have been feeling a different way on how I want to approach my goals for 2026.
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Last week was my mom’s birthday so we celebrated her birthday as a family.
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We went out to dinner.
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She would have been 75 this year and I can’t tell you in the moments where you know
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I see the kids playing and
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My dad is with them and spending quality time with them and building bonds and
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relationships with my kids.
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Those are the moments where I miss her the most,
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but I think January is just a particularly hard month when it comes to thinking and
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remembering about my mom because it’s her birthday.
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It’s also the same month that she passed away.
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So it’s a very roller coaster, a big roller coaster of emotions, but I’m so glad
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that we got to celebrate her on her birthday and spend time together as a family
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because I got to tell my kids about my mom.
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I showed them pictures and it was a celebration.
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The kids wanted to bake her a birthday cake.
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It was really, really sweet.
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It’s what my heart needed for sure.
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and then the rest of the week was a community building theme i guess i hosted a
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coffee event at my son’s school on friday and then we just laid low aside from our
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normal markets that we started up last week as well so charlie does a thursday
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market and a saturday pop-up currently and then on top of that like i said we just
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laid low
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The kids started up their swim classes again,
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and we just kind of caught up,
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played here at home,
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spent time together,
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and considering how busy the holidays were for us,
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it was like back-to-back pop-ups,
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lots of parties,
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and as much as I enjoy that,
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it felt nice to just kind of relax and lay low for a little while.
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So what do I have planned for this week?
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Well, this week, I think my intention, my theme for the week is to be what I call in the pocket.
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I want to be in the pocket,
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not necessarily ahead of things and not definitely not behind on things.
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And so there’s a few things that I feel like will help me stay in the pocket this week.
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to make sure that I am continuing to just ease in to the new year and not trying to
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attack it and burn out.
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So the first thing is I want to improve my environment.
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So there’s two projects there that are business and personal related that I’m going
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to be focusing on this week.
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And that is my vanity area in my bedroom.
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It’s where I have my skincare,
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it’s where I have my makeup,
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but also it is kind of the entry point into our bedroom.
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So when I walk in, it’s the first thing that I see and it also acts
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as a drop zone for a lot of things.
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So we hosted a few parties here at our house and it became that area where we would
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just drop things and put them away and hide them from guests.
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And I haven’t sorted through, cleaned up or picked up in that area.
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So this week I’m going to work on that and it’s going to be an ongoing project.
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So this year, this week, my plan is to organize the cubbies that I have in there.
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Throw away any expired old makeup and skincare and then rearrange everything and
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just do it little by little.
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The second project I have that’s going to start this week but is going to also go
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through February and March too.
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It’s going to be a quarter goal.
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is to file away 2025.
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And the reason I wanna do that in a quarter is because there’s a lot of paperwork
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when it comes to running a business,
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having a home and all the expenses and all the things that come in.
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So I want to make sure that that is all organized and filed away.
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And then also there’s gonna be paperwork that I’m going to need
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for when it comes time to file taxes.
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And I want to make sure that is all put aside before I archive everything and put
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it all away for the next seven years.
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so i’m going to work on that this week it’s going to be the kickoff project and i
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think the main thing that i need to do is open all of the unopened mail that i
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haven’t been opening for the last month um so that’s going to be my first project
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and then we’ll see how far we can take it but once again i’m not trying to attack
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this project i’m not trying to get it done in a week or a day i’m going to let
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myself
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spread out the tasks through the quarter so that I don’t get overwhelmed and I do
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everything little by little.
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So those are the two projects that I have for this week on top of all the other
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normal responsibilities that I have during the week.
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preparation for the farmers markets,
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picking up and dropping off the kids to school,
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volunteering when needed,
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all of those things,
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laundry,
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cleaning,
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all of those things are still ongoing on top of those two projects.
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And for today’s story time, I just wanna quickly touch on 2025.
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And if you have read my Substack newsletter, then you’ll know that
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2025 was such a great year in a lot of ways, and it was a devastating year in a lot of ways.
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And in my Substack newsletter that I wrote,
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I was talking about the fires here in Southern California and what kind of impact
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it had on me,
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not just worry about whether or not we were going to be safe,
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but also just a realization of what was really important to me, and that was community.
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My family,
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my friends,
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and the people physically around me were so important to me and it put that into
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perspective.
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it shaped the way that i want to plan for this year it made me realize that there
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are so many things outside of my control that i can’t change i can’t immediately
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make a big dent into and the only thing that i can do is change the way that i
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approach things change my mindset on things and
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do what I can control, focus on what I can control.
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And that’s a really hard thing to grasp for me at least.
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Normally my goals would be something around sales goals or being able to get a
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certain kind of client or whatever it might be.
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But I realized those are external goals.
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How can I set goals that will be measurable based on only what I can control?
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So that’s a good example of why my quarter one goal for business
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is to file away my papers and everything and have my tax documents ready for 2025.
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Same thing with my vanity project.
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I can organize,
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I can put things away,
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I can purge and throw things away that no longer serve me or are no longer good for
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me.
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So that is my mentality and kind of my approach to 2026.
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And it all was because of
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the things that happened in 2025.
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Don’t get me wrong.
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I know 2025 started off as a really rough year.
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Like I,
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like I mentioned,
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I mean,
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we started the year with the SoCal fires here in California and it was devastating,
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but
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When I started shifting my mindset and shifting my focus,
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things really started to change for me.
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And I’m sharing this because I hope this is effective for you as well.
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If you implement it this year,
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I stopped making goals that were,
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I want to make X amount of money,
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or I want the sales to be X amount.
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We can do those goals,
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but they’re harder to measure because there’s other people that are a factor.
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in those goals so i started focusing instead on doing a Substack newsletter every
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week that was not only for marketing purposes but as a way to express myself be
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able to get comfortable in my own skin and really feel comfortable with the voice
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that i am putting out into the world so i started focusing on just sending you guys
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a newsletter every single week
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that changed so many things in so many positive ways and then another thing that i
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focused on was my backyard project i wanted to be able to use our backyard more
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take advantage of the real estate that we had and i learned so much from starting
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that project i didn’t start with what i wanted to
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wanted the end result of my backyard to look like i started with parcel by parcel
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the first project that we tackled was the extension of our patio we wanted to add
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pavers and make an extension for our patio so that we have more real estate that we
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can use for when we host parties and things like that that alone transformed the
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way that we use our backyard
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It transformed the way that us as a family live in this house.
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and it was something that I can control.
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Now is the backyard done?
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No,
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there’s going to be other things that we need to get done so that it truly is
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transformed in the way that we’re envisioning,
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but we’re going piece by piece,
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project by project.
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But that is how I am approaching goals this year, is just working on the projects,
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little by little one foot in front of the other making sure that there is even just
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one percent improvement or one percent tackling toward that project and then moving
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on to something else well i hope this video podcast was useful to you
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If it is, or you might think it would be useful to someone else, please share it with a friend.
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I have more coming and I’m so excited to be able to share it with you, but one thing at a time.
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And until next time, know that you are a blessing and I am so glad you’re here.
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Bye friends.
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